How To Finger Yourself: 10 Electrifying Techniques

Let’s dive into a topic that’s both electrifying and empowering: how to finger yourself — properly. Why, you ask? Well, self-pleasure isn’t just about those spine-tingling sensations; it’s a journey of self-exploration.

By indulging in a little solo time, you get to discover what makes you tick, what turns you on, and what you might not be so keen on. It’s like having a heart-to-heart with your own body, understanding its desires and boundaries.

Because let’s be real, in a world that often shushes conversations about sex, giving yourself the freedom to explore can help shed any shame or taboos you might feel around intimacy. Plus, who can deny the blissful relaxation that follows a self-love session? It’s nature’s way of melting away stress and improving your sex life.

So, whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro, this blog post is your ultimate guide on how to finger yourself — the right way!

We’ll start with the basics and then venture into some tantalizing techniques that’ll leave you buzzing with delight. Ready to get Beducated? Let’s dive in!

Before You Start

Before we dive into our tantalizing guide on how to finger yourself, there are a few essentials we need to cover. Think of this as the prep work before the main event. Trust me, it’s worth the extra minutes.

Fingering Hygiene is Crucial

Firstly, cleanliness is key! However, before you embark on this journey, ensure your hands are squeaky clean.

Wash them thoroughly and keep those fingernails short and neat. After all, we’re aiming for pleasure, not a bacterial party.

And while we’re on the topic, consider taking a warm shower or bath. Not only does it ensure cleanliness, but it’s also a fabulous way to relax and set the mood.

Forget About the Orgasm (at Least for Now)

“Unfortunately, most of us have been brought up with a societal narrative that over-emphasizes the importance of ejaculation and orgasm as the marker for ‘successful’ sex.”

— Libby Sheppard in the Beducated course, Self-Pleasure Journey

While orgasms are fantastic, they shouldn’t be the sole focus of your self-pleasure journey. Instead, immerse yourself in the present moment.

Relish every touch, every sensation. After your session, take a moment to reflect on the pleasure you experienced.

Lastly, by putting too much emphasis on the big O, you might be setting yourself up for unnecessary pressure. So, let go, relax, and let the waves of pleasure come naturally.

Get in the Mood: Aroused, Relaxed, and Comfortable

Setting the stage can really make or break the experience! Before you get down to business, ensure you’re in the right headspace.

• Arousal: What gets your heart racing? Maybe it’s an erotic story, a sensual movie, or simply letting your fantasies run wild. Find what tickles your fancy and indulge in it.
• Relaxation: Stress and pleasure are like oil and water; they just don’t mix. So, before you start, take a few deep breaths, meditate, or do whatever helps you unwind. Your body will thank you for it.
• Comfort: Create a haven for yourself. Whether it’s dimming the lights, playing some sultry tunes, or surrounding yourself with plush pillows, make sure you’re comfy and at ease. After all, this is your time to shine.

Your self-pleasure journey is as unique as you are. So, take these tips, tailor them to your liking, and embark on a journey of learning how to finger yourself to achieve electrifying pleasure.

VIDEO: Vulva Anatomy

If you take just one thing away from this article, then make it this video on vulva anatomy. After all, you can’t learn how to finger yourself without getting to know yourself first.

In this video, Beducated co-founder Mariah Freya explains the full anatomy of the vulva. It’s a must-watch!

How to Finger Yourself Properly

Get Comfortable

Firstly, comfort is key. Think of it as setting the stage for your solo performance. Because you want to be relaxed, at ease, and in the mood.

So, find your cozy spot. Maybe it’s lying down on a plush bed with your legs spread out like a starfish. Additionally, you can prop yourself up with some soft pillows. Adjust your position based on what feels right for you. After all, this is your show!

Use Lube

Now, let’s talk about a game-changer: lube. It’s not just for partnered play; it’s your best friend in solo sessions too. Using lube can elevate your experience, making every touch glide smoothly and feel even more sensational.

Furthermore, opt for water-based, unscented lubes to keep things gentle and irritation-free. Pro-tip: warm it up a bit before applying. Additionally, If you feel things getting a tad dry, reapply and keep the pleasure train chugging!

Tease Yourself

Alright, diva, now that you’re all set, it’s time to tease and tantalize. But don’t dive straight into the deep end. Start slow, build that arousal, and let yourself savor the moment with some sensual touch.

Firstly, begin by caressing your whole body. Those thighs? Give them some love. Gentle strokes, moving upwards, circling around your breasts – you do you.

While it might be tempting to focus solely on your genitalia, remember, your body is a treasure trove of erogenous zones. Explore your breasts, your neck, your inner thighs. Play with different touches — from soft caresses to light scratches.

Start Slow (and Shallow)

Alright, now that you’re all warmed up and feeling the vibes, let’s get a little more intimate. But remember: this isn’t a race. Start your fingering session with some external love.

Gently caress your entire vagina, letting your fingers dance around, gradually moving closer to the clitoris. As a result, your vulva will get all wet and ready for the next step.

In the Yoni Massage course on Beducated, Mariah encourages students to check in with themselves to make sure they’re ready to enter with a finger. She says:

“Be super honest with yourself. You are allowed to get more time and space to relax here.”

Make sure to check out Beducated's Online Courses on Solo Practices for Vulva Owners

Furthermore, gently insert your index finger. Let it rest inside, feeling the unique textures and warmth.

Remember to relax, especially your pelvic floor. Once you’re comfortable, start making slow, rhythmic movements, going deeper only if it feels right. If you feel any pain or discomfort, pull back.

Now that you’ve got the basics down, are you ready to elevate the experience? Go on a treasure hunt for the elusive G-Spot.

Introduce a Second Finger (If You Want)

To that end — let’s double the fun. If you’re up for it, gently introduce both your index and middle finger. However, as always, start from scratch. Enter, hold, and feel the sensations. Introducing a second finger stretches the vaginal opening a bit, so tread with care. If all feels good, target that G-spot again by curling both fingers upwards and applying gentle pressure on the upper vaginal canal.

If you’re not feeling it, it’s okay to stop; not everyone enjoys more than one finger.

Play With Pressure & Rhythm

Pressure can be a game-changer. To illustrate, think of it as the secret ingredient that can take your self-pleasure journey from “Oh, that’s nice” to “Oh, my stars!”

Experimenting with different pressure points and levels can unlock sensations you never knew existed. Try pressing down on the G-spot externally by using your palm or applying external pressure on the pubic bones.

Now that we’ve got pressure covered, let’s talk about rhythm. Rhythm is super important, no matter the fingering technique. Start with slow, deliberate strokes, then switch it up with a faster tempo.

Get Creative

Ready to spice things up a notch? There are countless ways to spice up your fingering session. For this purpose, you can use your free hand to caress other erogenous zones, like your nipples or clitoris.

Firstly, let’s talk sex toys. Vibrators can be the cherry on top of your self-pleasure sundae. From mini vibrators to tip vibrators and even finger vibrators, there’s a world of options out there.

Furthermore, experimenting with different positions can open up a world of sensations. Elevate your hips with pillows, stand against a wall, or even perch on a chair. Each position offers a unique angle and depth, unlocking different pleasure zones.

Want to spice up your sex life? Invite a partner into the mix. Whether it’s mutual masturbation or some oral action while you finger yourself, two can definitely be more fun. You could even combine fingering with penetrative sex!

How to Finger Yourself: 10 Fingering Techniques

1. The Stroke

Ah, the classic stroke. It’s like the little black dress of fingering techniques — timeless, elegant, and oh-so-effective.

Here’s how to master it:

• Start by inserting one finger or two fingers, facing up. Your mission? Locate the g-spot. Think of it as your pleasure treasure hunt.
• Once you’ve found your g-spot, apply some light pressure with your fingertip.
• Now, channel your inner artist and drag your finger outwards, stroking your upper vaginal wall all the way.
• The beauty of the stroke? It’s all about customization. Experiment with varying levels of pressure and speed.

2. The Thumb MassageReady for a thumb-derful experience? The thumb massage is here to deliver:

• Begin by inserting your thumb into your vagina, with your fingernail facing upwards.
• Now, press down towards your tailbone. Your target? The perineal sponge. It’s got a unique ‘spongy’ feel, so you’ll know when you’ve hit the jackpot.
• Time to work that magic thumb! Stimulate the area with some tantalizing taps or sultry circular motions. It’s all about finding what feels thumb-tastic for you.

3. The Come Here Motion

• Start with your palm facing up and slide one finger into your sanctuary of pleasure.
• Curl your finger upwards, aiming to locate the g-spot. It’s like the North Star of pleasure points.
• Add some g-spot stimulation to the mix by moving your finger in a seductive “come here” motion.

4. The Pressure Pulse

• Start with your palm facing up and slide your finger into your pleasure palace.
• Curl your finger upwards, aiming for that ever-elusive g-spot.
• Now, it’s time to dance to the beat of your own drum.
• Stimulate the area by pushing and releasing repeatedly.

5. The Side to Side

• With your palm facing up, insert your finger into your secret garden.
• Curl your finger upwards, making a beeline for the G-spot nestled on the vaginal roof.
• Now, it’s time to sway. Stimulate the area by pushing and releasing repeatedly.

6. Double Trouble

• Start with your palm facing up and slide one finger into your intimate chamber, locating the g-spot.
• Choose your favorite g-spot technique, be it the Stroke or the Come Here Motion, and get to work.
• Meanwhile, with your free hand, let your index finger flirt with your clitoris.
• Dive into a world of pleasure as you stimulate both your clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. It’s a symphony of sensations!

7. Circling the Cervix

• Place one hand on the front of your pelvis and apply gentle external pressure with the heel of your hand.
• With your other hand, slide two fingers into your inner sanctum and embark on a quest to find your cervix.
• Once located, let your fingers trace the cervix in a mesmerizing circular motion.

How to Find Your Cervix

• Gently curl your finger upwards and venture deep beyond the g-spot, heading towards your internal wonders.
• Your target? The cervix. It’s usually perched at the top of the vagina, guarding the entrance to your womb.
• Explore with your finger until you find it. Its location can vary depending on factors like your menstrual cycle, menopause, or childbirth experiences.
• For a deeper dive into cervix pleasure, check out this Beducated article. It’s a treasure trove of information!

8. The Suction Draw

• Start with your palm facing down and slide your finger into your intimate chamber, aiming for the g-spot.
• Push your finger all the way up, feeling the inner contours of your pleasure palace.
• Now, for the grand finale: Release your finger, moving from top to bottom, creating a suction effect that’s bound to send shivers down your spine.

9. The 2 Finger Draw

• With your palm facing up, confidently slide two fingers into your vagina.
• Curl those fingers upwards, making them dance on the vaginal roof, seeking out the g-spot.
• Position the tips of your fingers on either side of the g-spot, slightly spread apart like a mini V.
• Gently apply pressure to the roof, feeling the textures and sensations.
• And now, the pièce de résistance: Draw your fingers out, feeling every inch of your inner self.
• This fingering technique can stretch the vaginal opening, which means not everyone enjoys it. If you feel any twinge of discomfort or pain, hit pause.

10. Anal Fingering

• Reach behind your back, taking a moment to breathe and relax.
• Slowly insert your finger into your anus. Be gentle, and do it gradually.
• Feel your muscles relax as you move your finger deeper inside. Take all the time you need.
• Once you’re comfortably in, let your finger rest for a bit. Breathe, relax, and tune into your body.
• If you’re feeling adventurous, start moving your finger in and out. Explore the sensations and discover what feels best for you.

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