How to Give an Out-of-this-world Lingam Massage

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Written by Mariah Freya

Are you a Lingam lover? I certainly am, and you may be too without even knowing it!

The word ‘Lingam’ is an ancient Sanskrit term for penis, and is literally translated as “wand of light.” This article will give you a deep and eye-opening understanding of tantric Lingam Massage. I’ll also introduce a number of tried-and-true Lingam Massage techniques so you can wow your partner into a state of soul-satisfying bliss.

Let’s do this!

What is Lingam Massage?

Lingam Massage is a type of tantric penis massage that was developed in my home country of Germany in the 70s by Andro Andreas Rothe, founder of Diamond Lotus Tantra Lounge in Berlin. The technique was further developed by pioneers like Joseph Kramer, Mantak Chia, and many others.

The process of a Lingam Massage is designed to combine feelings of well-being with deep relaxation, and helps receivers let go of pent-up stress related to relationship or self-esteem issues, including those related to sexuality.

Lingam Massage is a beautiful form of cock worship.

Naturally, great Lingam Massages must involve a penis-haver who is willing to be worshipped in a deep and personal way, and a giver who loves to provide this service unconditionally. Sounds a bit poetic, I know!

Cock Worship Is Rooted in Many Ancient Religions

Here’s a historical fact for you. (And don’t fall asleep just yet!) Worshipping the Lingam is a common practice in many spiritual traditions.

The first time I saw Lingam worship (in a symbolic sense) was about 12 years ago in India when I watched a morning temple ceremony in Varanasi. I couldn’t believe my eyes when the Hindu monk poured milk over a huge 4-meter statue of a phallus. That was without a doubt the biggest spiritual “ejaculation” I’d ever witnessed!

Also, when I was in Thailand, I remember seeing a temple full of carved wooden penises. I’m not an expert, but it seemed that the spiritual seekers there were big fans of tiny wooden penis pendants, which they all had attached to their key rings. Maybe they did this as a reminder of the powers a Lingam has?! I’m not entirely sure…

How Does Lingam Massage Work?

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Tantra is all about moving the energy in your body increasing it for healing, pleasure, and spiritual purposes, and Lingam Massage is no exception. It’s a way of greeting your soul.

A skillful giver will make sure that you’ll be able to relax fully and build up sexual energy that will expand and flow inside of you freely. This energy will be spread over your entire body and awaken magical moments of pleasure like you’ve never experienced before. Those moments can culminate into feelings of ecstasy and may touch your soul in earth-shattering ways.

This practice is considered an “easy” path to an ecstatic experience.

Long and painful meditation retreats would usually be required to get you to a similar state.

Happy Endings Aren’t the Goal Here – Except for the Soul

Lingam Massage is not the same as a typical erotic massage with a happy ending. To be clear, the goal of this practice has nothing to do with ejaculation. On the contrary, receivers of authentic tantric Penis Massages usually don’t ejaculate.

This isn’t something you do solely for the purpose of satisfying your lust.

Lingam Massage is something you do for your personal evolution as a human being. It’s for people who want to reprogram their sexual DNA and fully become the sexual beings they are.

If you go further down the road in Tantra, you’ll learn that as a Lingam owner it’s not so easy to cultivate your sexual energy because you’ll be challenged to refrain from ejaculating, even during sex. Keep in mind that it’s not safe to embark on this sort of training without the professional guidance of an expert, so seek out a trained Tantra instructor if you’re interested in the practice of sexual continence.

The Tantrics believe that non-ejaculation will allow you to retain all the power and so-called Ojas (Seed) within yourself so you direct them towards the divine. Ultimately Tantra is a spiritual path that is meant to lead toward enlightenment. In case that feels a bit too woo-woo, just think of Tantra as a way to satisfy your yearning for inner peace and happiness.

Learning to cultivate your sexual energy as a Tantric practitioner includes ejaculation control training, higher pleasure peaks, being able to make love for hours, and filling your partner’s whole body with sweet bliss.

I’m not saying that Penis Massage will do all that work for you, but it can be an amazing kick-start to get you on the Tantric path. All you have to do is be present. You’ll develop a physical sensitivity that helps you understand your arousal levels and feel much, much more than before.

It will also help you to feel more on emotional, energetic, and spiritual levels.

Women aren’t the only people who suffer from trauma; men also struggle with insecurities, fear, emotional stagnation, and stiffness. Lingam Massages can help you to fully let go and just feel.

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Check Out This Awesome List of Lingam Massage Benefits

  • Enhanced ejaculation control
  • Improved blood circulation to the lingam
  • Intense sexual pleasure
  • Significant alleviation of sexual tension
  • Enhanced sensitivity
  • Improved sexual stamina
  • Curing of premature ejaculation
  • Alleviation of pain, stress, and depression
  • Connection with your partner
  • Connection with your soul, God, Buddha, nature, the universe, the divine within you (or whatever you want to call it!)

Where Can You Get a Lingam Massage?

Your lover can learn Lingam Massage techniques and give the experience to you, whether you are in a relationship with them or not. You can also book a Lingam Massage session with a professional Tantra masseuse.

What’s It Like to Get a Professional Lingam Massage?

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A Lingam Massage usually lasts between 1.5–3 hours. Usually, there’s a short appointment beforehand where the process is described so you’ll know exactly what to expect.

Your masseuse will never be naked.

If they are, you’ll know it’s not a professional massage. The masseuse can be of any gender. There are actually many men out there offering Penis Massages.

This can be very healing for receivers who may be holding harmful pent-up fears related to homophobia. An added plus in this situation is that a male giver might be more knowledgeable about how your body works than a female masseuse because they share the same anatomy and can clearly imagine the sensations you might be feeling during treatment.

Remember to Relax during the Experience

Take a deep breath, exhale, and try to let go.

“Achieving” is not the goal here. Lingam Massage is about allowing and feeling. An orgasm of sorts can happen, usually on a more energetic and emotional level, but it’s definitely not the main purpose of the treatment. The goal is healing while putting you in touch with the extraordinary sensual being that you are, just like with yoni massage.

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How Much Does a Lingam Massage Cost?

A professional Lingam Massage usually costs from $150-$300, depending on how long you want the massage to last.

Where Can You Find a Legitimate Lingam Massage Therapist or Studio?

Always make sure that you book a lingam massage at a studio that doesn’t offer “happy endings,” because that type of massage aims to satisfy a different goal. Check out my article on how to find the right studio for a yoni massage here. It’s got some great tips that can help you do the same with a Lingam Massage.

OK, So How Can You Give an Out-of-This-World Lingam Massage to Your Partner?

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First of all, talk with your partner to sort out the nitty gritties.

When are you going to do it? You should probably set at least 3 hours aside. Will you be able to ensure privacy during the massage? Do you have everything you need? Do you need to learn any additional skills first?


  • Here’s what you’ll need to give a fantastic Penis Massage:
  • Enough towels
  • Organic coconut oil, or whatever other natural oils you prefer. (Tip: Heat the oil up for extra-delicious sensations!) You may also consider using silicone-based lube instead, as it isn’t absorbed as easily by the skin and keeps the sensitivity of the Lingam alive.
  • Set the right mood with soft music, candles, aroma oils, and anything else that will help your partner relax
  • Pillows
  • Heat the room if necessary

Get Started

It’s now time to relax. Start with a ritual, like a meditation where you sit in front of each other, eyes closed, holding each other’s hands. Connect with your heart and let the receiver set an intention. Ask the receiver to share this intention with you.

Sidenote: Again, orgasm is not the goal. Find something higher, more meaningful, and more powerful to aim for. Something that stirs up goosebumps.

Then both of you remove your clothes one piece at a time, and say something out loud that you are stripping off with each piece of clothing. For example, shame, blockages, fear, or perfectionism are all good choices.

Once you’re both naked, ask your partner for their permission before touching, to pay respect and honor the receiver.

Gaze into Each Other’s Eyes. See.

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While gazing you can add breathwork with deep energizing belly breaths that fill the lungs to capacity. Sync your energy levels with those of your partner.

Have the receiver lie down on their belly and relax. Start massaging your way up their body, starting from the feet. Using both of your hands to relax the receiver’s legs, inner thighs, and pelvis, move up to the buttocks, the lower back and then all the way up to the shoulders. Spend some time around their neck to work out any tension they may be holding.

Try to keep your breath in sync with your partner’s.

Remind each other when you get out of sync. This is important to keep the flow of both of your energies in tune.

Let the receiver turn gently onto their back. Make sure you place enough pillows under their head and hips to keep them as comfortable as possible. You too should try to get comfortable so you can also relax while giving the massage. If you’re feeling uneasy in your body, the receiver will feel it.

Start again at the bottom, at the legs, working your way up, but skip the Lingam at the beginning. You can touch it at times while moving up the body, but don’t focus on it just yet. Then, once you feel the receiver is fully relaxed…

Sit Between the Receiver’s Legs

Now’s the time to give the Lingam some love! With one hand, hold the receiver’s penis firmly, while placing the other hand on their heart. Imagine you are connecting both areas with each other.

Pour a generous amount of coconut oil over the receiver’s Lingam and start massaging as if you were worshipping a sacred object. I usually start with a prayer movement placing both of my hands together as in prayer, with the Lingam in between the palms, bowing in front of them. Really show the receiver that they are being worshipped.

Note: It’s not important at all how engorged the Lingam is. Flaccid penises tend to have more sensitivity, so don’t worry if this is the case.

Whenever you feel that the sensation is getting too intense for the receiver, touch their thighs, legs, chest, and nipples to spread the energy around.

Now that you’ve started to focus on the lingam, you can begin to incorporate a variety of strokes during the massage.

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5 Lingam Massage Strokes

There are various styles and techniques you can use while giving a deep Lingam Massage. You don’t need to know all of them in order to be good at it. It’s more important to be present and tap into the needs of the receiver.

Stay in communication with the receiver throughout this penis massage. Ask for feedback: How does this feel? Is this good? Shall I continue like this? Harder? Softer? Slower? Faster?

Many receivers, after years and years of masturbation, may have developed an imprinted habit towards the standard thrusting technique. Meaning, they grip the penis hard and move with an up-and-down motion. Or, they might even have an addiction to the dangerous Death Grip. Lingam massage is about unraveling these ingrained mechanics in order to heighten sensitivity and expand energy.

Here are 5 strokes you can use to give a great Lingam Massage.

#1 Start with Lingam Shiatsu to Make the First Stroke UnforgettableLingam Shiatsu

The first stroke is often the best stroke for the receiver, as he’s been building up to the moment when you first lay your hands on his Lingam.  You can begin with the sensual, grounding stroke of Lingam Shiatsu to slowly awaken the penis.

Start from the root of the shaft.

Gently press the penis with your thumbs and index fingers, and then release. Move up about a centimeter and repeat the technique. Do this again until you’ve worked your way up the entire length of the receiver’s penis.

#2 The Second Stroke is Referred to as Skiing

You can supercharge the pleasure your partner feels with this next move. Hold the sides of the Lingam with both of your hands and “ski” with your thumbs by alternating up and down from the root of the penis all the way to the tip. Experiment here with different speeds and amounts of pressure.

#3 Continue to Blow Their Mind with the Screwdriver

This stroke can provide the receiver with some interesting sensations. Surround the lingam with both hands and twist them in opposite directions. Keep a firm grip, but don’t squeeze too hard here.

#4 Make an Unforgettable Impression by Greeting the Frenulum

Now, change up the tempo of the massage by slowing down and moving into a meditative moment. Circle the tip of your thumb and index finger in both directions around the frenulum of the penis, which is located just underneath the head.

Go slowly, move with purpose, and be present so you can watch the magic unfold.

#5 Worship Them with the Crossed Prayer

Worship your lover by holding your hands with crossed fingers like you would in a gesture of prayer, and surround the penis between them. Then, you can open the thumbs and slide them along each side of the Lingam up and down at varying speeds.

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Additional Lingam Massage Techniques

There are other things you can do to boost the receiver’s experience during a Lingam Massage. Try these techniques for additional pleasure.

Get in Touch with the Chi of the Lingam

If you know more about Reiki or energy work, this will be very familiar to you. If you are new to energy work, just experiment with this and see how it feels.

Hold your hands a few centimeters away from the Lingam and just feel by opening up your perception. Do you feel a tingly sensation? That’s the chi of the Lingam. By tapping into this sacred energy, you’ll be able to move it toward the heart and throughout the receiver’s body at the end of the massage.

Testicle Love

The testicles are the grounding part of the male reproductive system. Give them some love during the Lingam massage by gently stretching them away from the receiver’s body. Squeeze them together and release any tension you might feel. Be in touch with the receiver during this process, as some men have more sensitive testicles than others.

Pelvic Floor Massage

Start massaging the ‘sacred spot,’ which is located midway along the pelvic floor along the taint in the area between the testicles and the anus. You should find a small indentation about the size of a pea or a bit larger. Gently push this spot inward. If you feel it’s beneficial and the receiver is comfortable with it, you can include the area around the anus here too.

Men often have strong emotions coming up when someone touches the sacred spot.

They may cry due to remembering a traumatic event from their past. Allow and provide the space for them to feel.

Prostate Massage

As women have a G-spot, so do men. It’s their prostate gland, accessible through anal stimulation. As is the case for women, the G-spot is an emotional sexual center, often loaded with tension and old traumas that have been stored there.

By massaging the prostate, you have the opportunity to strip off that baggage to reveal the receiver’s true potential to themselves. Prostate massage combined with a gentle penis stroke can be super powerful for one’s sexual healing.

A very important note: Be sure that you take enough time and lube to penetrate and enter your partner’s anus. You can use a finger condom if you like. The sensation can be very intense so make sure you are both breathing thoroughly and consciously throughout this process.

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General rule

Observe your partner’s reactions while massaging and exploring different techniques and most importantly let yourself guide you.

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Finish the Massage Off with a Happy Ending for the Soul

Once you feel the receiver’s sexual energy flowing beautifully and harmoniously, move their energy upward by sliding from their sexual center up towards the heart, emphasizing your focus on your synchronized breath. Integrate this awakened energy there and let the receiver relax in bliss for at least 10–15 minutes.

I don’t recommend that you try to get the receiver to ejaculate, as this will cause them to expel the momentum and the energy you have built within them. However, it’s up to them whether they choose to ejaculate or not. Talk about this before the penis massage, keeping in mind that they may change their mind during the process.

Ejaculation isn’t problematic here, it’s just not the main goal.

Once you’ve finished, sit next to your partner in silence, meditate on consciousness together, and thank them for allowing you to worship them.

Now get out there and express your Lingam love!

About the author

Mariah Freya

Mariah Freya is a sex & orgasm coach, urban goddess and founder of She opens up the topic of sexuality in all its diversity through her videos, articles and online courses. Mariah has a powerful global mission: Liberating sexuality from below the belly button up, and helping the individual grow through pleasure into fulfilment.

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