Cock Worship: How to Perform Your Own Sacred Ceremony

Cock Worship
Molly Lazarus
Written by Molly Lazarus

Cock. Mmm, yas! Say it with me once more: COCK!

It’s a mighty sound, no? Just the word itself conjures up the powerful energy of a penis, the sacred center of masculine sexuality. History tells us that people around the globe have worshipped cock since the beginning of time, and it’s not hard to understand why.

Anyone out there getting good dick will tell you how difficult it can be to think about much else.

But you don’t need robes, mantras, or temples to shower adoration over your lover’s Lingam. You can perform your very own ceremony of cock worship from the comfort of your bedroom!

This holy practice can have healing benefits for both the giver and receiver. As you’d imagine, it’s more than a blowjob, but how? In this article, I’ll talk about cock worship and how to create this sacred experience.

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What You’ll Need to Worship the Cock:

  • You want to create an environment that’s comfortable and arousing. Things like candles, incense, aromatherapy oil, pillows, music, and proper lighting can help you achieve this.
  • Lube can also add more pleasure to your pussy-worship adventure. Grab for a favorite brand, if you desire.
  • If your partner is a fan of toys, consider grabbing a few they might enjoy, like blindfolds, cock rings, or anal beads.
  • You never know when things will get messy. Have a towel set aside or beneath your partner just in case.
  • You don’t want your partner to get cold, so have a sarong or blanket on hand. And on that note,
  • Worship in a room with a heater or A/C, depending on the weather where you live.

How to Perform Cock Worship

1. Start by getting into the right headspace.

Pleasuring a penis is often portrayed as a chore designed to make a man come as quickly as possible. That’s the opposite of what we’re going for here! Cock worship isn’t about obligation or getting your partner to orgasm.

It’s about honoring their sacred sexual energy for their pleasure and your own.

If they end up getting off, awesome. If not, no problem! Just enjoy leading the ride. Additionally, let go of any expectations for your partner to return the favor.

Feeling like someone is pleasuring you because they want something in return is a huge impediment to genuine enjoyment. A tit-for-tat attitude will also suck the joy from your soul, so pretend it’s Christmas and get in touch with the spirit of giving for giving’s sake!

2. Talk with your partner about how they feel about their genitalia.

We have to keep in mind that our partners, no matter how confident they may seem, might be harbouring feelings of shame or embarrassment about their cocks. Society places a HUGE emphasis on size. The bigger the better says every porn ever. (Spoiler alert: it’s a lie!) There are also myriad opinions about what shape a dick should be, whether it should or shouldn’t be circumcised, and on and on.

Your partner may have picked up some baggage over the years in response to all this.

They may feel like their cock is somehow bad or that they’re incapable of using it to pleasure you. Knowing how your partner feels about their genitals will help you understand where they’re coming from. Have a chat with them before your ritual.

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Hold space for them to open up and express themselves. Even just feeling heard about this vulnerable subject could help them begin to heal some deeply ingrained emotional wounds.

3. Schedule a good time.

Rushing will defeat the entire purpose of this beautiful ritual. It won’t be fun if either of you is thinking about something else you should be doing instead, so schedule your session at a time that works well for you both.

You want to feel free, relaxed, and like you’ve got nothing else you’d rather be doing. That way you’ll be able to feel present and connected, allowing your partner to feel seen and valued.

4. Create a comfortable environment and help your partner relax.

Some venues are better for cock worship than others. You want to set a scene where your partner can truly receive. Pick a room with a heater (or A/C if you live in a warm climate,) and set it to a naked-friendly temperature in advance.

Then, have your partner lie down on a couch, futon, or sofa. With a few pillows, have them get into a position that gives you unimpeded access to their cock, balls, taint… the whole area!

They may wish to elevate their knees, hips, or head. Move around a bit until you both find what works best. Next, light a few candles, put on some rad music, heat some aromatherapy oils, or do whatever makes you both feel good.

5. Come into the moment.

It’s easy for the mind to wander, but connecting to the here and now will help make your experience more intimate. Make that dick your singular focus! Think about every part of your partner’s genitalia, such as the head of their cock, their frenulum, balls, taint, and even their anus (if you’re both into that sort of thing).

6. Use your eyes.

Looking longingly and reverently at your partner’s cock isn’t just a great way to get into the mood; it can also help your partner work through any insecurities they have about being seen.

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Additionally, making eye contact is proven to boost feelings of connection and affection. Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable with your partner while sharing this experience.

7. Express yourself.

The things we say to our partners hold great significance for them. Your kind words could end up staying with them forever.

Do I remember what I was doing at 3 p.m. yesterday? Fuck no! What I do remember is the first time a hunky boyfriend in Thailand went down on me in my little blue house by the beach. He looked right at my pussy and said “God… you’re so pretty down here.” I will never forget that. Not. Ever.

Let your partner know how much you love the taste, smell, look, or feeling of their cock and its surrounding bits.

Of course, don’t feel pressured to say anything you don’t mean. Express yourself in a way that aligns with your truth.

8. Perform the Lingam-heart ritual.

Sit in front of your partner and place your right hand over their Lingam while placing your left hand on their heart. Feel the connection between these two centers, visualizing energy flowing down from their heart to their penis.

9. Touch and explore.

There’s no need to grab on and start shaking that dick like you’re shooting craps in a casino. Begin by massaging and lightly touching their thighs and stomach.

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Move inward slowly, finally reaching their dick, testicles, taint,… and more!

Again, only if Y’all are both into that. Be sure to ask first. Then, move on to caressing, massaging, licking, and kissing. This may be a great time to incorporate lube if you like, for an extra slippery experience.

10. Ask questions.

Ask your partner how it feels when you stroke, squeeze, suck, or lick them in certain ways. See if there’s anything specific they’d like to experience more or less of. Over time, you’ll come to know their preferences like the back of your hand.

11. Up the ante.

Once you and your partner are warmed up, increase the intensity by adding pressure, changing up your pace, or switching between different techniques.

As you continue, up the ante by applying more pressure, speeding up your movements, or changing your technique. If your partner feels like they want to come, do what feels best to bring them there.

12. Marinate in your own enjoyment!

For me, cock worship is an unbelievably arousing practice. Allowing myself to enjoy and relish my partner’s pleasure makes me want to do it again and again. What can I say? It makes me feel powerful!

Don’t be afraid to express your enjoyment because it’s pretty much guaranteed to skyrocket the experience for your partner. Feeling genuinely wanted and adored feels like coming home, a feeling we all seek. There’s no need to be self-conscious about your own noises or reactions, so let go of any worries.

13. Wrap up the experience.

Start to wind down when the time is right. Your partner may come, or they may not. As I mentioned before, either way, is fine because orgasm isn’t the goal. Encourage your partner to let you know how they’re feeling and whether they’d like to keep going throughout the process.

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Don’t feel pressure to continue if you, the giver, start to feel tired.

Know where your limits lie and heed them. After all, cock worship is an exhilarating effort! Once you’ve decided to stop, cover up your partner with a blanket and allow them to bask in the glow of their experience. You can meditate next to them.

14. Worship as often as you like!

The more you practice cock worship, the better it’ll be each time! It can turn into a serious bonding ritual, adding amazing depth to your sex life and overall relationship. If you’re both game, what have you got to lose by making it a regular thing?

“Some people go to church on Sundays. I do my worshipping at home!”

Now get out there and connect with the divine!

About the author

Molly Lazarus

Molly Lazarus

Molly Lazarus is a kink & sexuality writer, BDSM community organizer, and newbie erotic fiction author. Her website, Kink Out Loud, serves as a resource for readers who are new to or curious about BDSM. She contributes to Beducated, Kinkly, and the BDSM Training Academy. Offline, Molly acts as Volunteer Coordinator for the Bay Area chapter of Kinky Salon. In the past, she worked as a munch organizer, shibari model, and kink-101 instructor. You can follow her on Facebook and Pinterest, or browse her filthy fiction on Amazon.