Sacred Sexuality: How to Ride that Sacred Wave of Pleasure

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Jenna Hall
Written by Jenna Hall

Let’s be honest. Sex isn’t always as exhilarating as your Saturday night romantic drama Netflix selection.

The truth is that sex, especially if you are in a long-term relationship, needs an erotic kick-in-the-butt every once in a while.

Or, perhaps your sex life is all roses and butterflies but you are looking to add a new layer of excitement.

Either way, whatever you are experiencing at this moment with your partnersacred sexuality is a great way to enlighten your love life and turn your sex life into a sacred practice.

So, What is The Meaning of Sacred Sex Anyway? 

Sacred sex is often associated with Tantra. Tantric techniques are designed to use sexual energy to reach higher or altered states of consciousness.

In other words, sacred sex brings the physical act of lovemaking to a whole new realm of highly pleasurable and powerful mind-body connections with your partner.

So, what are the features that make sacred sexuality a thing? Well as you may have guessed already, it goes way beyond just your intimate bits.

Sacred sex is more about enriching sensual pleasure, and feeling pleasure from every molecule of your soul.

It is also important to note that sacred sexuality is accessible to everyone, not just those who have studied Tantra. Anyone ( yes even you) can delve into the magical sphere authentic and unrestrained sexual vitality.

Feeling intrigued? Then it’s time to reveal the divine features that make sacred sexuality a thing. Read on to discover what makes sacred sex so awesome and how to take your sex to a whole new mind-blowing level.

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First, Get Comfortable With Your Yoni And/Or Lingam

Did you know that just by getting more comfortable with your most intimate bits can rev up your sex life? Psychotherapist and Certified Sex Therapist, Gila Shapiro says that “How you feel about your body affects your ability to express yourself sexually.”

In other words, the fear that we have about our bodies never being attractive enough can really put a serious damper on our sex life. Makes sense right?

So, how do you and your partner connect with your sacred sexuality and vital force? Well, you can start by healing your wounds with Yoni Self Massage.

By giving attention and unconditional love to the most sacred and powerful part of our bodies, we can free ourselves of past traumas, limiting beliefs and any feeling of disconnection to our core.

Try Self Yoni Massage with an open mind (and an open heart, as well). You will seriously be amazed by all the vibrant changes for growth and pleasure it brings into the different areas of your life.

As a result, the more self-acceptance you have about your own sexuality, the more deeply you will connect to your partner in bed.

Then, Begin With Some Sexy Eye-Gazing (I Promise It’s Awesome!)

Okay, while eye-gazing may feel a bit awkward or woo-woo at first think of it like an experiment and go into it with an open heart and mind. Soul or Eye-Gazing is a way of non-verbally communicating with your partner in a very sacred way.

It can open up new doors to intimacy and harmonize the energy of both partners. Moreover, it’s really easy to get started too!

A simple exercise can involve you and your partner sitting cross-legged in the bed (ideally with little or no clothing) and begin to gaze deeply into each other’s eyes.

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When the juices start flowing below (don’t worry if they don’t just yet) keep that sexy eye-gazing going when you start to get heavy between the sheets!

Regardless of what happens, keeping that sultry eye-contact is the secret ingredient that’ll bring spice and depth to our love-life. Want more of where that came from? Check out Why Keeping Eye Contact During Sex Makes It So Much Better!

Now That Your Feeling Tingly, Go Ahead and Incorporate Some Conscious Touch!

Now that your sensual bits are feeling good, take it one step further by incorporating some sensual conscious touch. Conscious touch is one of the tantric secrets of sacred sex.

Some even say that conscious touch can be one of the most nurturing and healing touches out there.

To boot, it can be super arousing. And, it’s really easy to do! Just take a moment to connect with your heart.

From there, begin to tune into your body (ask your partner to do the same) and start to slowly touch each other. Touch with the highest awareness, appreciation, and fascination you know.

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Next, ask yourself where on my body do I love to be touched? How does it want to be massaged caressed etc? Take turns exploring each other’s bodies just like this.

Keep in mind that conscious touch is not about jumping right into sex, but more about connecting on a soul and physical level.

What’s more, is that science also says touch is a vital part of human well-being.

In fact, a study conducted in the Division of Dermatology at the University of California San Diego Medical Center in 2012 showed that touch raises oxytocin levels and reduces the secretion of a stress hormone that is basically like nature’s built-in alarm system.

In layman’s terms, conscious touch not only relaxes the body but can reinforce the psychological bond between you and your current partner. So, ow that you have incorporated a little bit of conscious touch, congrats!

You are a few steps closer to experiencing sacred sexuality and a deeper connection with your partner. But wait, there’s more…

Now, Add in a Yab-Yum Tantric Sex Position

There’s so much potential for spiritual discovery with the incorporation of some sacred sex positions. A heavenly sacred sex position called the Yab-Yum promotes a mind-body connection between both partners.

The Yab-Yum position is where the woman sits in a man’s lap while he is cross-legged and she wraps her legs around his waist.

Ideally, both partners’ arms are also embracing each other. Yab-Yum is the symbol of divine union.

It is a posture in which man and women are united between heaven and earth.

Furthermore, the Yab-Yum Tantric sacred sex position can be used as mediation to help align chakras and promote energy flow through both bodies.

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A couple may sit in a Yab-Yum with or without clothes and it can involve penetration or not. Incorporating the Yab-Yum position is a beautiful way and sacred way to make love, but certainly not the only way. Let’s explore more.

Then Provide Your Partner With the Most Sacred Gift of All: Delayed Orgasm

Want to know one of the best features of sacred sex? Delayed orgasm.

Oh, but cum on you say! Aren’t orgasms the best part of sex? Wrong! In fact, what makes sex truly sacred is actually everything that happens between now and the finish line. And guess what?

Taoists believe that when the woman, or your partner, is turned on and properly satisfied, even more of this life essence, called “jing,” is created.

What’s more, is that you may even find that delayed orgasm is better than sex. The easiest way to practice this is by “teasing” your partner. You can do this by bringing your partner to the edge of orgasm, and then pulling back.

Think of it as a dance between two feathers, using your mouth, fingers or whatever part of your body to practice light, yet intentional touch.

Take turns flirting with your partner’s nether regions and then keep riding the wave of in-between-pleasure.

Ultimately, if you are really trying to sacredly connect to your partner on a sacred level, hone in on some sultry foreplay and hold the explosion. It will be worth the wait.

If You Need More: Orgasm Healing Is Where It’s At

If you can’t get enough of sacred sex, you can try adding a few more things to your holy-moly sex life. While orgasm is not necessarily the end-goal of sacred sex between you and your partner you can choose to practice orgasm healing.

Orgasm healing has actually been proven to induce a sexual-like trance.

In fact, Neuroscientist and PhD candidate at Northwestern University in Evanston, IL, Adam Safron says that rhythmical sexual stimulation, if intense enough, can quite literally launch you into an altered state of mind.

BAM – just like that! In other words, a full-body orgasm can be similar to an involuntary reflex, where all of your focus is on the present sensation. And, as a result, this type of orgasm can quite literally throw you into a euphoric dream-like state.

Wow, awesome, don’t you think? Aside from throwing you into a sexual trance, full-body orgasms can benefit women and men alike.

Full-body orgasms, for both males and females, are shown to reduce stress due to the surge of oxytocin, the so-called “cuddle hormone,” that occurs with orgasm.

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Yep, it’s true! A study conducted in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina in 2004 showed that having sex and orgasms along with more warm contact increases levels of the hormone oxytocin.

Consequently, this so-called love hormone helps us bond and build trust. So next time you want to give a little sacred boost in your relationship, try this: more eye-contact, more sensual touching, more healing orgasms!

Get Out There and Ride That Sacred Wave

So there you have it. Sacred sexuality isn’t just for spiritual gurus living in conscious communities in the woods. It’s actually quite accessible and exciting, right?

If you can apply some of the features listed above, then you are on your way to an enlightened path to deeper and sexier connection with your partner. Now get out there and ride that sacred wave!

About the author

Jenna Hall

Jenna Hall

Jenna discovered her passion for writing in 2005 when she started a sex and relationship column for her university newspaper. Shortly after she was recruited by Elle magazine to write as a Top Ten University Sex and Relationship Columnist for Ask E. Jean. She graduated from California State University, Dominguez Hills, became a yoga teacher in Lating America and now lives a simple but passionate life in Bolivia.