Pussy Worship: How to Celebrate Your Lover’s Sacred Flower

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Molly Lazarus
Written by Molly Lazarus

What’s soft, delicious, and warm all over? That’s right: pussy!

Vaginas are, without argument, one of the universe’s most incredible gifts.

They double as the path to life for much of humanity and the main source of feminine pleasure. As both a pussy owner and fan, I suggest we celebrate this sacred energy center for its powerful contribution to existence.

If you love lady bits as much as I do, then pussy worship could be right up your alley.

Just like cock worship, this ancient practice enjoys a long history in cultures around the world. It can be a healing ritual for both givers and receivers. In this article, we’ll explore pussy worship and how you can make it a divine experience.

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What You’ll Need for Pussy Worship

  • Set up some candles, aromatherapy oil, incense, music, pillows, proper lighting, or whatever else you and your partner desire for a sexy and comfortable atmosphere.
  • Grab your favorite brand of lube, if you prefer to use it. That slick, slippery feeling can intensify your partner’s experience tenfold.
  • Grab any toys or gear your partner might enjoy, like blindfolds, anal plugs, or dildos. There’s nothing wrong with combining different sensations while you worship!
  • Have a towel set aside or beneath your partner in case things get messy. You never know what will happen because vaginas are unique and mysterious.
  • Have a sarong or blanket for your partner to cover up with before you begin the ritual and while they’re relaxing afterwards.

How to Perform Pussy Worship

1. Get into the right headspace.

Pussy worship is about far more than trying to make your partner come. Sexual pleasure is a divine experience in itself, but the most important thing here is that their feminine spirit feels deeply adored, valued, and recognized.

If they come while you worship, cool! If not, no worries because that’s not your prime objective.

You also don’t want to worship with the expectation they’ll return the favor. Sexual acts are seen by some as an obligatory exchange. However, your partner will be able to sense this attitude, making it difficult for them to enjoy.

Forget the expectation that they should do something for you as follow-up. Pussy worship is all about giving!

2. Talk with your partner about how they feel about their pussy.

Many pussy owners have baggage and hang-ups related to their sweet pink bits. Perhaps porn or a past partner have led them to believe their pussy is too hairy, musky, or voluptuous. If they’ve experienced sexual assault in the past, they might also attach that terrifying and dehumanizing memory to their genitalia.

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Maybe they look in the mirror and think, “Why would I ever want anyone looking at or touching me there?”As expected, beliefs like this will impede their ability to enjoy with you, even if you think their pussy is incredible!

Being conscious of their feelings will allow you to worship with awareness and possibly help heal some deeply hidden emotional wounds.

So, have a chat sometime before your pussy-worship ritual. Hold space for them to speak while you listen. Even just feeling heard about this topic could mean the world to your partner.

3. Set aside a good amount of time.

You’ll miss the entire point of pussy worship if you’re caught up in worries about your to-do list or catching your favorite sitcom. Schedule your session for when you and your partner can relax and won’t have any pressing matters to attend to.

That way you’ll be able to dive in and luxuriate. Also, your partner won’t feel like they have to perform or fake their pleasure for your sake.

4. Create a comfortable setting and help your partner relax.

While your kitchen countertop or the backseat of a car may be hot places to get your fuck on, they’re not ideal settings for a pussy worship ritual.

You want to craft an atmosphere that’s comfortable for both you and your partner.

Heat up the room where you plan to hold your ritual in advance. When you’re ready to get started, have your partner lie somewhere soft, like on a bed or sofa, while wearing their blanket or sarong to start.

Then, use a few pillows to get them into a position that feels good and gives you unimpeded access to their pussy. Some people feel better when their knees, hips, or head are elevated.

Ask questions and make adjustments until you both find what works best.

Next, set the mood with candles, aromatherapy, music, or whatever makes you both feel good. You’ll have a much better time if the vibe is just to your liking.

5. Become present.

You’ve got to be in the moment to worship pussy mindfully. Let go of thoughts about the past and future and make the powerful energy of your partner’s Yoni your focus. Think about every part of their Yoni, such as the inner and outer labia, the hood of their clit, or the changing color of their skin.

Tune them in while tuning out distractions.

6. Use your eyes.

Pussy gazing is a hypnotizing, wonderful way to get in the zone as you begin your session. Stare at your partner’s pussy and the surrounding area with reverence. Allow yourself to lock into a devoted trance.

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Also, make eye contact with your partner at certain points throughout the process. Though it may make both of you feel vulnerable, eye contact is proven to deepen feelings of intimacy. Allow yourself to be seen and help your partner feel seen and accepted exactly as they are.

7. Use your words.

Your partner won’t know how you feel during the experience unless you tell them. Let them know how much you love the taste, smell, look or feeling of their pussy. You could even create art or write a poem about it!

This kind of adulation and specific praise could end up staying with your partner forever.

8. Perform the yoni-heart ritual.

Sit in front of your partner and place your right hand on their pussy while placing your left hand over their heart. Feel the connection between these two centres and visualize the energy of their heart running down your arm to their Yoni.

Hold this position for as long as it feels good. This will help your partner feel grounded and tune into your touch during your session.

9. Explore every inch.

It’s time to get handsy! But rather than diving in and going for gold right away, start by lightly touching and massaging the area around your partner’s pussy, like their thighs and stomach. Move inward gradually, finally reaching their pubis, labia, clit, vagina, perineum, (and anus too, if they’re into that).

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Explore like a curious pioneer roving new lands!

Caress, massage, lick, kiss, pinch, and whatever else your partner could enjoy. Notice their reactions and how they respond to your ministrations.

10. Ask questions.

Feedback will help you become an expert in no time. Put on your silkiest, sexiest voice and ask your partner how it feels when you touch them like this or that. Find out if they’d like more or less of something.

Then, zero in on your most effective techniques and watch them float off into bliss.

11. Intensify the experience.

As you continue, up the ante by applying more pressure, speeding up your movements, or changing your technique. Don’t worry if your partner becomes less vocal or outwardly aroused. They could simply be transitioning into a quieter headspace or building toward orgasm.

12. Allow yourself to bask in arousal.

Pussy worship is pretty much guaranteed to turn you on. Don’t be afraid to express your enjoyment! When I’m receiving, I have a way better time if I’m confident that my partner is genuinely enjoying the experience rather than considering it a chore.

There’s no need to be self-conscious about your own noises or reactions during the ritual. Feel free to let go.

13. Conclude when one of you is ready.

Maybe you’ll both decide to finish up if your partner comes. Or, maybe they won’t come at all and will simply feel sated anyway at some point. Maybe they’ll come multiple times and beg you for more! No matter what happens, encourage your partner to be open about how long they’d like to keep going.

It’s also important to be aware of your boundaries as the giver.

Pussy worship can be exhausting after a while. If you begin to feel tired, slowly wind down and bring the session to an end.

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Once you’ve finished, cover your partner with a blanket and give them time to absorb what they’ve just experienced. As they do, take this time to meditate next to them, observing whatever feelings or sensations arise within you as the giver.

14. Worship often!

The more you practice, the better the experience will be each time!

Regular pussy worship rituals can turn into a serious bonding activity, adding amazing depth to your sexual interactions and overall relationship.

The time has come to stop attaching shame to our bodies and revere our amazing genitals in all their glory. You can fight the good fight and boost intimacy with your partner by adding the art of pussy worship to your sexual menu.

About the author

Molly Lazarus

Molly Lazarus

Molly Lazarus is a freelance writer and sex educator specializing in BDSM and other pursuits of pleasure. She grew up in San Francisco, but has spent the last 10 years living in Osaka, Japan, where she organized a monthly BDSM munch, leads D/s community discussion groups, and mentors adventurous explorers as they wade into the exciting world of kink. Molly believes it's everyone's right to freely explore their sexuality in ways that are enjoyable, consensual, and safe for all involved.