Hurray for Hairy Vaginas

Written by Theresa Kirkby

We’re living in a world with vaginas of all sizes, ages and looks. Some are pink, others are dark, some are floppy, some are tight and others are firm. Some look like a mature rose, while others look like a clenched mussel from the sea. Though… Despite all the differences our vaginas may have, they also have many things in common.

One of them being: HAIR.

Yep. We’ve all got hair down below. It’s no secret, hairy vaginas are simply natural. However, society — or should I say the pornographic world — has somehow sneaked its way into our brains, making a lot of us believe that;”Eww.. Hair. Hair is gross. Hair makes you look like a bear. It gets itchy. It needs to go away. I need to shave it off. No, I need to wax it off. Or uhh.. I need to laser it off. Then it will be gone forever. Besides.. Men don’t like hairy vaginas. Do they?”

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Hmm.. That’s certainly what I believed. Boys, guys, men – they must hate hairy vaginas. Why else would all pornstars have no hair? Why else would all the “mature” girls in school shave their vaginas? Yep. I was pretty sure that having a hairy vagina was a no-no, and so I shaved mine and giggled softly at the “immature” girls in school that didn’t. Because having hair on your vaggi was pretty disgusting and made you look like a beaver.

Of course, it didn’t cross my mind as a 17-year-old gal to think that;”Maybe it’s quite normal to have a hairy vagina, seeing as we all get hair down there? Maybe we’re not really meant to shave it off?

Oh, by the way, vagina, anatomically speaking, points to the inner part of the female genitals while vulva hints to the outer part. Here I gave myself a freedom to say “hairy vagina” instead of “hairy vulva” because it’s one of the most common expressions. Now, let’s keep rollin’.

My vagina

I remember being very self-conscious about my shaved vagina, that looked like a pizza-pussy-face topped with ingrown hairs. Because come on? Who looks down at their genital area that’s full of red spots, thinking “Wow. You are such a beautiful piece of art. And I really want to kiss you“? Definitely not me. And so I didn’t like sleeping naked. I couldn’t relax properly when my boyfriend licked my rosebud and I didn’t want to go to nudist saunas, even though I was drawn to that freedom of nudity and expression.

But something changed.

It took me a few years to stop shaving or waxing it all off, and it wasn’t because I all of a sudden had a feminist epiphany. No, it was simply because I didn’t want any more of those ingrown fuckers on my skin and I started thinking more about myself than my partner. And voila… As I let my hair grow out more and more, the red spots disappeared.

And I started loving my vagina. I started looking at her. I started touching her more. I started embracing my nudist side.

Now.. I’m not saying that everyone should let their hairy goddess grow and that it’s wrong to shave or wax. Not at all. But I do think it’s worth pondering about the reason behind our actions to remove all of our hair. Is it really because it feels more comfortable? Is it really because we feel more clean and appealing? Or is it because we want to please our partner? I keep my vagina tidy and kinda trimmed and yes.. I do that because I feel more comfortable and appealing when I’m then with a man. Just like I shave my legs because it makes me feel smooth and sexy. I’m not a complete hair loving hippie, but would I be, had a society, fashion and porn not infected my brain?

Personally, I love having a hairy vagina, which is why I’d like to share with you some benefits of having hair.

  1. You don’t get that itchy scratchy feeling when you’re having sex with someone and your skin is rubbing on each other.
  2. You don’t have to worry about red spots and ingrown hairs.
  3. When you’re naked, you don’t feel completely nude.
  4. It feels nice to touch the little bush down below – it tickles.
  5. You don’t look like a little girl, and feel more like a woman.

For all these reasons I think everyone should try to let it grow a bit. Just to try it. I mean.. It doesn’t hurt to try, and you might discover that you love it. If not. Go back to being hairless, because there are also benefits of having no hair.


  1. Your partner might want to lick your pussy a bit more because it’s much smoother and there are fewer chances of getting your hair in his/her mouth.
  2. I’ve heard from a few people, that it’s nice to be able to see one’s vagina.
  3. You don’t have to worry about vaginal fluids getting stuck to your hairy bits.
  4. You don’t have to worry about your bikini line in summer.

But when all comes to all, it doesn’t really make any difference if you have hair or not. What makes a difference is that YOU love your beautiful vagina and feel comfortable with her because having a good relationship with one’s vagina is essential to having a good sex life. So.. What’s your relationship with your vagina? Do you look at her? Do you think she’s a beautiful part of you? Or do you feel insecure about showing her off? Are you in a rush to put on your panties after sex?

If you don’t like your pussy or haven’t given her a lot of thought, I suggest that you look at her in a mirror and take the time to study her. Would you like her more if you shaved a bit? Or if you let your hair grow? – Maybe you think you’ve got too much vulva or not enough, but you can’t change that, so that’s something you merely have to accept. The hair on the other hand, is something we can control.

I embrace and say hurray for my beautiful hairy vagina. What do you say about yours?

About the author

Theresa Kirkby

Theresa Johanne Kirkby is a certified holistic sexologist, who grew up in a small village in the south of Denmark. She is a free-spirited woman, whose vocation is to help with opening the minds of people by breaking societal limitations and taboos of sexuality and intimacy.

Over the past 6 years she has been dedicated in the path of self-love, which has taught her the beauty of connection and conscious sexuality - a beauty she now strives to share with others. She offers therapy sessions related to everything from a heartbreak to a dysfunctional sexuality.

Her passion for hula hooping is ongoing and she can often be found dancing barefoot to the rythms of a djembe-jam.

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