







About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Rejection is inevitable in relationships and intimacy. Learning to navigate it skillfully transforms your confidence, enhances communication, and creates healthier boundaries in all your interactions.
You're likely facing:
- Taking Rejection Personally - You interpret "no" as a reflection of your worth rather than a simple boundary or preference.
- Anxiety About Saying No - You struggle to reject others directly, often agreeing to things you don't want to avoid discomfort.
- Communication Breakdown - Awkward or defensive reactions to rejection create tension that damages your relationships and intimacy.
This course teaches you practical techniques to reframe rejection as valuable information rather than personal failure. You'll learn how to deliver "no" with compassion and receive it with grace. Lola's trauma-informed approach helps you develop emotional resilience while strengthening your communication skills, potentially leading to more authentic connections in both sexual and everyday contexts.
What You Will Learn
"Rejection isn't personal—it's information. Learning to navigate both giving and receiving 'no' transforms your relationships and builds authentic intimacy through clearer boundaries."
— Lola Jean, Intimacy Educator
Reframing Rejection
- Emotional Detachment Techniques - Practical methods to separate rejection from your self-worth, transforming "no" from a threat into useful information.
- Rejection Resilience Building - Develop a healthier relationship with hearing "no" through trauma-informed exercises that reduce defensive reactions.
Compassionate Communication
- Boundary Expression Framework - Clear templates for saying "no" confidently while preserving the relationship and respecting the other person.
- Active Listening Skills - Techniques to truly hear your partner's boundaries without taking them personally or becoming defensive.
Building Intimate Authenticity
- Rejection Conversations - Scripts and approaches for discussing boundaries before, during, and after intimate encounters without awkwardness.
- Preference Exploration Methods - Safe frameworks to discover and communicate what you truly want, making rejection less necessary.
By course completion, you'll transform rejection from a relationship barrier into an opportunity for deeper connection, responding with confidence rather than defensiveness or people-pleasing.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Course Introduction
- 2. Defining Rejection
- 3. Reframing Rejection
- 4. How to Process Being Rejected
- 5. How to Get Over Rejection
- 6. Why We Ghost People (But Shouldn’t)
- 7. What Happens When You Avoid Rejection
- 8. How to Communicate Rejection
- 9. How to Handle Emotions
Your Instructor

Lola Jean
Sex Educator & Dominatrix
Lola Jean is a New York-based sex educator and professional dominatrix specializing in trauma-informed communication and boundary-setting frameworks. Her expertise in navigating rejection and negotiating consent has been recognized by The New York Times, Vice, and Men's Health, where her practical approach to emotionally charged conversations has helped thousands develop healthier relationship dynamics.
Early in her journey as an educator, Lola discovered that even experienced couples struggled with the vulnerability of expressing boundaries. Through developing her "Intel-Based Trash Talk" technique, she realized that rejection wasn't the conversation-ender many feared, but actually the beginning of more authentic connection. This revelation transformed her own relationships and became the foundation for her compassionate approach to teaching what many find uncomfortable—the art of saying and hearing "no."
Lola's teaching cuts through theoretical concepts with a refreshingly practical "no frills" methodology. She combines technical communication frameworks with emotional intelligence exercises, ensuring you develop both the scripts and the resilience needed for difficult conversations. Each lesson balances authority with playfulness, making potentially awkward topics accessible while honoring the courage it takes to establish healthy boundaries.
Course FAQ
Not at all! Rejection and boundary-setting are universal experiences that affect all relationships, not just romantic or sexual ones. Whether you're single, dating, or in a committed partnership, Lola's techniques for handling "no" apply equally to professional contexts, friendships, and family dynamics. In fact, many students find that developing these skills while single creates a foundation for healthier future connections.
The course includes practical scripts and role-playing scenarios that prepare you for emotionally charged moments. Lola teaches specific grounding techniques you can use in the moment when rejection feelings arise, along with post-interaction reflection exercises. You'll practice gradually through the Rejection Resilience Building module, making implementation easier when real situations occur.
Lola specifically addresses solo implementation with thoughtful strategies for bringing partners into your journey. The Compassionate Communication module includes "conversation starters" designed to introduce boundary concepts without triggering defensiveness. Many students report that simply modeling the techniques—responding differently to rejection themselves—naturally invites their partners to become curious about the approach.
Most students report an immediate shift in perspective after completing the Reframing Rejection module, which takes about 30 minutes. The emotional resilience develops with practice—typically 2-3 weeks of applying the techniques in low-stakes situations before tackling more triggering scenarios. Remember that progress isn't linear; you'll likely experience both breakthrough moments and occasional setbacks as you rewire these deep-seated responses.
Unlike general communication courses, Lola's approach is specifically trauma-informed and focuses on the unique emotional landscape of rejection in intimate contexts. The course addresses both the psychological and physical responses to rejection, incorporating somatic techniques alongside cognitive ones. You'll receive specific scripts for intimate scenarios that general courses typically avoid, plus the Preference Exploration Methods that help prevent unnecessary rejection situations altogether.
This course is deliberately action-oriented, with each concept immediately followed by applicable exercises. The Boundary Expression Framework provides ready-to-use templates you can adapt to your specific situations, while the Rejection Conversations module includes actual scripts for before, during, and after intimate encounters. Lola's teaching style emphasizes real-world application over theory, ensuring you finish each section with concrete tools rather than just concepts.
Actually, the opposite is true! The course specifically addresses the fear that setting boundaries damages connections. Lola teaches that thoughtful rejection creates more authentic relationships by eliminating the resentment that builds when we say "yes" to things we don't want. The Compassionate Communication techniques ensure your "no" is delivered in ways that preserve and often strengthen your connections rather than harming them.
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