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Hey, and welcome to fingering orgasm mastery. I'm Ryan MacLane, and I'm so excited for you to learn how to give your partner some incredible pleasure and mind blowing organisms using nothing more than just your fingers. In fact, your fingers are some of the best tools that you have to give your partner pleasure and to bring your partner to orgasm. Your fingers can do everything from super light, accurate featherlike touch to a more calming massage like pressure, or can even get more vigorous and apply firm pressure to the pleasure points of your partner and bring them to incredible internal orgasms. But like with any skill, it's really important that you get the foundations and the fundamentals correct before moving on to the advanced techniques. Because even if you have the best technique in the world, if your partner is not in the right headspace, then they're not going to be able to orgasm. While this course is primarily designed for people giving pleasure to their partners, it can also be used for giving pleasure to yourself, you may need to change some of the hand angles in order to make things work. But most of the fundamentals here will be the same. In this video, we're going to talk about the overall experience of fingering and making your partner comfortable, which is extremely important. We're going to be talking about orgasm and the waves of pleasure and how to build up to orgasm. Because actually, if you approach orgasm incorrectly or too quickly, you can push your partner over the edge, and it actually becomes too sensitive and becomes painful for them. So we need to approach orgasm correctly, if we want to give our partner orgasms. And also, I'm going to show you four different techniques in this video to wet your appetite. These are the basic bread and butter techniques that are going to make you better than 90% of people out there when it comes to fingering. And there's only four things to remember. When fingering our partner, it's really important that we remember that we're creating an overall experience for them. While a lot of our focus will be on their vulva and using our hands down there to give pleasure, we need to remember that this is going to be an overall experience for them and we need to get them into the right mindset in order to receive pleasure from us and to be able to build up and ride the waves of pleasure that are going to lead to orgasm. So getting them in the right mindset and having the right mindset yourself is extremely important. Now what I find is that some people when they're approaching fingering their partner, they're coming into it with some ego attached that "I'm going to give you pleasure" or "I'm going to bring you to orgasm." And there's this ego that what I'm going to deliver this to you. And while that is great that we want to give our partner pleasure, that can actually put pressure on our partner, where they now feel like "oh, I have to orgasm. And this has to feel good for me in order to make the person giving me pleasure happy." And so that can actually create a mindset block in them. That makes it harder for them. So we want to flip the script a little bit here. And more yes, we want to give them pleasure and bring them to orgasm. The key mindset shift that we want to make as the person giving pleasure is that we are doing this for our own benefit. We actually get off on fingering our partner, we get off on giving them pleasure. We're not doing it. So then they will reciprocate back and touch us or give us pleasure, the very act of doing it is pleasurable for us. We don't even have to do it to lead to sex, even though often after we do this, they will be begging and want for sex, and it will be very easy to transition into sex. And that may happen in a lot of cases. But that's not why we're doing it. We're doing it from a selfless kind of way to give them pleasure. But also it's kind of selfish in that I'm just actually getting off on doing this. So having that mindset where you're actually enjoying it, the very act of doing it is enjoyable for you is going to ease their mind because they know you're having fun. And a lot of subtle things will come out of that as well where you will be smiling or they will feel it in your body that you're actually having a really good time. And I also advise that you be a bit more upfront in expressing that to your partner in some circumstances. A lot of vulva owners are very self conscious about their vulva, it's about the way it looks about the way it smells about the way it tastes. So we want to make sure that they feel really comfortable with that. And we can do that by expressing our pleasure to them. So when we are touching them, we can tell them how sexy their pussy is or how much we love touching them or how good it feels to have our finger inside them. Or even after if we fingered them, depending on how comfortable you are. You could even smell your fingers or even taste your fingers and tell them how good they smell, how good they taste, how much you love their pussy. And while this may seem a bit over the top, the idea here is that we're making them comfortable, they don't have to worry about their self consciousness. And so then if they can let go of them being stressed about how you're perceiving them, then they can receive more pleasure. You also have to remember in creating this overall experience to be connecting with your partner at the same time. So you may want to be touching their neck or touching their hair, or kissing them or holding them or stroking their body. And when it comes to actually starting fingering, which we'll talk about, in an upcoming video, I'll talk about leaving the panties on and how we're creating this experience for them. Another really, really important key when it comes to the fundamentals of fingering is that while yes, techniques and our fingers are our tools, here, your biggest tool is actually anticipation. If your partner doesn't know exactly what you're going to be doing, and there's that build up and that anticipation and that teasing for them, then they can get more aroused, and things will actually feel better, the more aroused they get, because blood will flow into the area, and everything will start to feel better. So don't be in a rush. Remember, we're creating this experience for them. And time is on our side here, we're not going to be in a rush to bring them to pleasure straightaway. In a later video, I will show you how to give a 10 second orgasm. But ideally, we're just taking our time with this and approaching it, we want them to feel like we know what we're doing. And we can and will give them amazing pleasure. But they just don't know when it's going to happen, or exactly how it's going to happen. And so there's a little bit of that excitement and nerves there. And we can lead up to it. And so the video on how to begin fingering, we'll talk more about that. Now, it's really important that when we're trying to give our partner an orgasm, we approach it correctly, what we often want to do is just go in and hit the G spot hard really quick, while stimulating the clit at the same time, hit all of those pleasure points straight away, bring them to orgasm straightaway and give them an amazing experience. But also, and by doing that, we can actually hurt our partner. Now every person is going to be different and the way each person approaches orgasm is going to be different. So take this with a grain of salt, some people will cum really quickly, some people will take a really long time, and it can be really finicky with how they orgasm. That's why this course has so many different techniques that you can try with your partner. But as a general rule, if you're trying to give a vulva owner an orgasm, it tends to be best to actually build up to that orgasm and give them different waves of pleasure, what you can find is that we can be giving our partner pleasure and the pleasure of ramps up ramps up ramps up. But if we approach it too quickly or too vigorous for too long, we actually push our partner over the edge they miss out on the orgasm, but the entire vulva becomes extremely sensitive. And if you're still going hard on the clit, or the g spot or anywhere else, it can become so sensitive that it becomes painful. So we can actually ramp up ramp up. And if we're too much, we can miss the orgasm completely. And it can go into kind of pain and over sensitivity. So we want to avoid that. And a good way that I've found to avoid that is to go through differing waves of pleasure and arousal with our partner. So when we're fingering them, we're remembering it's an overall experience. I will say it many times in this course, orgasm isn't the goal here. The goal here is to give our partner pleasure, if we can give them an orgasm, great, but if they can't orgasm, that's okay, we're still getting turned on touching them. We're enjoying giving them pleasure. So we don't have to give them an orgasm. But obviously, it can be really nice to give our partner an orgasm. But with this in mind, we can approach pleasuring them. And we can start slow and gently imagine we're starting at 0%. And then we're starting to touch them slowly and build them up to 10-20%, we might start to massage the clear get up to 40 or 50% fingering inside we might be massaging that and just bringing blood flow in the area, building up their pleasure to 60, maybe 70% We might even go a bit more vigorous building up to 80%. But then rather than going for orgasm straight away to try and hit 100% We can actually calm it down or we can mix it up. Maybe we go from simulating the g spot. We have a break from that and we come back to the clit. So we could go from 80% Maybe back down to 70 or 60 or 50 and pleasuring them there. Then we can ramp up again up up up to 90% and then come back to 80 or 70 and then ramp up again. So all the time helping them to let go helping them to have an experience and when they're fully in that zone when you can feel that your partner is ready to orgasm. Then we can go from 70-80% and we can push them up and actually give them an orgasm. So think about it in terms of waves of pleasure, we're not going from zero trying to reach 100. straightaway, we can ramp up to 70-80% and then go back down, we're not in a rush here. And then we can ramp up again. And we can go through these different waves as many times as our partner needs to. And then when they're ready, we can bring them to orgasm. So some partners may be able to go from zero to 100 straightaway really quickly, while its other partners might need to go through lots of those ways of pleasure. And some partners might not even be able to reach orgasm. Or it might take multiple different sessions with you trying different techniques on them, finding out what they really like, they might need to be in just the best headspace possible in order to achieve orgasm. So orgasm can be tricky, it can be finicky. Don't be worried if your partner doesn't orgasm, but the techniques that you're going to learn in this course, are definitely going to increase your chances of giving your partner an orgasm, but it's going to give you the tools to give your partner amazing waves of pleasure, whether they orgasm or not. And with that in mind, I'm going to teach you four key fingering techniques that will make you better than basically 90 to 95% of people out there when it comes to fingering. So if I could compact this course, and all the techniques into just four things, I would teach a beginner on how to finger this is it. Remember we're keeping in mind the experience and the mindset, we are so turned on by giving them pleasure, that's for our benefit, we're going to keep those waves of pleasure in mind as well. Four techniques. The first one is to start from the outside and work our way in. So do not ignore the outer lips. But start at the outer lips start gently here or massaging it and then we're going to work our way in to the inner lips, we're not going to just go straight for the vaginal opening or straight for the clitoris, we actually want to warm up the area first. So that's tip number one. And as we begin to move in, it's very important that your fingers are always wet, we can use the wetness of our partner, we can use lubricant, or what I like to do is just put some spit on my fingers and use spit but whenever you're touching the inner lips, you always want to have your fingers wet. When it comes to the clitoris. There's two main techniques that are going to form your bread and butter. Now I have done full videos on how to find and locate the clitoris and how to give clitoral orgasms. But your two main techniques one is going to be a massage like pressure over the hood and the shaft of the clitoris. So you could do this in circles like I'm doing now, we could do side to side or up and down. But this massage like pressure is how a lot of vulva owners will masturbate and you can then ramp this up to bring someone to orgasm. The other technique is to focus on the head of the clitoris directly. And to use a feather like touch. Remember making sure our fingers are wet, but a feather light touch going back and forth. With more speed and vigor, we can go side to side on there or we can go back or forth. But when you're touching the head of the clitoris, often you can do that really, really light touch there to give intense pleasure and orgasm as well. And the last technique is when it comes to actually fingering our partner. And the mistake most people make is they keep their finger straight. And they just want to finger jab going in and out. But the key to fingering internally in our partner is to be massaging the roof of the vagina primarily as well as the rest of the vagina with our finger. So we're actually massaging the roof of the vagina. So when we go in, we're pulling up with our finger and massaging that roof so it's less about the in and out. And it's more about the internal massage that we're giving them while we're inside them. I'm really excited for you to learn many more advanced techniques in this course and how to give your partner incredible pleasure and orgasms. But this should form a pretty good foundation for you combined with the next video, which is really important when we talk about the pleasure anatomy of the vulva where the pleasure spots are because if you understand where the pleasure points are, you can make up a lot of your own techniques depending on what your partner likes. But if you don't know where things are, then often you can do the right techniques but you're in the wrong spot. It's really important that you understand that pleasure anatomy. So go ahead and check out video number two now. If you want to give your partner some of the most incredible mind blowing vaginal orgasms, then understanding the anatomy of the vulva and where the pleasure points are and what feels good is one of the most important things that you can do. If you don't know where things are, then chances are you might be doing the right techniques in the wrong spot. However, if you know where everything is, then you can actually make up techniques on the fly, you can go with your intuition more you can flow with your partner and what feels good, and really, the world of pleasure opens up to you. So while I will be teaching you specific techniques for specific areas later in this course, it's really important that you understand the entirety of the vulva, understand the full anatomy, because it is quite complex. And there's so many different pleasure points on there. Understand that and also how to kind of approach each section and pleasure each section we're going to start from the outside and work our way in. So you'll get a full understanding of every different section of the vulva, the pleasure points and also how to approach each section. Now what most people call the vagina is actually called the vulva. The vagina is actually just the vaginal opening and inside the vaginal opening where your finger might go, or your penis might go, however, the vulva is the entirety of the genital region here. You can call it vulva or pussy or Yoni or cunt this is less about being anatomically correct and the names that we give and understanding how to please our partners. Beginning here, just down from the stomach, we have the mons pubis, so we have pubic bone and the layer of cushion there which can help during intercourse. And interestingly, just above that, we'll notice that down here on the mons pubis, there's a bit of cushion but if you push harder, there's bone there. However, if you go a little bit further up into the stomach, and then push down, you'll notice that it's much squishier up here, and actually underneath there is the g spot and you can stimulate the g spot through there, which we'll talk about later. Coming down from the mons pubis, we have the labia majora and the labia minora are what I like to call the outer lips and the inner lips. I don't think majora and minora are really good names, because in some cases, the outer lips are bigger. In some cases, the inner lips are bigger. If we go ahead and have a look at this model here, we can see that the inner lips on this model are significantly larger than the inner lips on this model, which are really small and you can hardly see at all. So every single vulva is going to be different. Some will have puffier outer lips, some will have smaller outer lips, some will have larger inner lips that stick out and hang down. Some will have more hidden inner lips or some will be almost hidden completely. All of that is completely normal. But regardless of how it looks, how you approach it in terms of pleasuring it is going to be very similar. So starting with the outer lips. Interestingly, the clitoris isn't just the head of the clitoris, which we might see on this model, but it's actually a full network that runs up and then runs out and around including the outer lips. So the outer lips actually contain the bulbs of vestibule, which is part of the clitoris, and when your partner gets aroused, blood can flow into this area, and it can expand in this book on the anatomy of women arousal by Sherri Winston, you can see some great diagrams of how the outer lips can expand and engorge when your partner gets aroused, the outer lips are really sensitive and they really like light touch as well as a massaging sort of touch. So we can begin by lightly stroking the outer lips which is a great way to warm our partner up. And we'll talk more about this in how to begin fingering and how to approach fingering. But we can start with light touch there. Or we can also use a massage like technique, we can put our entire hand over the vulva and apply pressure that way which can feel good while it's over, we can begin to massage in circles, or we can even use fingers on either side and begin to massage that area. We can go up and down or we can actually squeeze those outer lips together which will also clench the clitoris so the outer lips it's okay to touch them dry. However, as we move into the inner lips, these really like to be wet. If you're touching these dry that can often be quite painful for your partner. So always use lubrication. When you're down here. You can access your partner's vagina and their own wetness, if they have enough wetness. You can use a natural lubricant like coconut oil or grapeseed oil or you can get water based lubricants or oil based lubricants. Or what I like to do in the moment is simply just spit on my hand and you spit in order to wet that entire area, you're unlikely to give your partner an orgasm through touching the inner lips. However, it's a great way to warm them up. And it's a great way to build anticipation which is one of our biggest tools when we're giving our partner pleasure. Moving on from the inner lips, we're going to talk about a spot that you've probably heard before, and that is the clitoris. Now the clitoris is the most sensitive spot on the vulva. In fact, there's more nerve endings packed in just the head of the clitoris, that tiny little spot than the entirety of a penis. So you can imagine just how sensitive that spot is and understanding that sensitivity is really important when we approach it because it's so sensitive, it can actually be painful if you are too rough with it, or if you begin to simulate it too fast too quickly, when your partner isn't aroused. And it isn't engorged what most people know as clitoris is actually just the head of the clitoris. And the clitoris is actually a full pleasure network that runs throughout the vulva. So in this model, we've got the head of the clitoris here and leading up from the head of the clitoris is the shaft of the clitoris and covering that shaft is the clitoral hood. Now, most of vulva owners when they masturbate, will actually focus primarily on this hood area. So they might use three fingers or two fingers or even one finger and what they'll do is they'll actually massage the shaft of the clitoris they may go down and use their finger to also pleasure the head of the clitoris. But a lot of the times they will actually keep that hood over the clitoris and massage the shaft and bring themselves to orgasm that way. So the head of the clitoris, while it is the most sensitive spot isn't the be all and end all and isn't necessarily the best way to give your partner an orgasm. And when we talk about how to give clitoral orgasms, then we'll talk more about the shaft and the different ways to please it but for now just understand how pleasurable it can be. And also, an easy way to think about it is to think of the head of the clitoris, kind of like the head of a penis, which is the most sensitive spot of the penis. And then the shaft of the clitoris is kind of like the shaft of the penis and the skin here, the clitoral hood you can imagine as similar to foreskin which will actually cover the clitoral head in most people. So in most people, you won't be able to see the head of the clitoris directly like you can in this model, the hood will actually come over and cover the clitoris and when your partner gets aroused that clitoris is made from erectile tissue, so it will expand and grow and the head may pop out like this or it may still remain hidden under the hood. Now you can expose the clitoris by gently pulling up on the skin of the hood. Or you can get your hand or your palm and you can actually pull up on the top of these upper lips here, you can pull that skin back and that can actually reveal the head of the clitoris if you want to go and stimulate that coming from the shaft to the clitoris. The clitoris actually comes down in a wishbone like shape and goes back into the body. But also you got the bulb of vestibules which exists both in the outer lips as well in the inner walls of the vagina. So for some partners, they will actually have this wishbone sort of shape will appear in the side here when they are fully aroused next to the shaft. And this is why in some people, it can be extremely pleasurable for them to touch to either side of the shaft of the clitoris. In fact, some people can actually orgasm from these pleasure points more than from the clitoris. Every single person is different pleasure spots can be different, but this is why some people like it to the side of the clitoris rather than directly on the shaft or the clitoris itself. To find the clitoris, you can either follow the shaft and the hood down to find it there. Or you can actually follow the inner lips up to where they meet. And just above that, you'll find the head of the clitoris. So in this model, the shaft goes down and the clitoris is small and hidden under there, but we can see these little inner lips actually lead up to a point and that is where the clitoris can be found. And we've got a full section on exactly how to find the clitoris so you can get more information on that. Now coming down from the clitoris before we reach the vaginal opening, we're going to have the urethra or the wee hole. A really interesting fact is that the urethra is covered in something called urethral sponge which is erectile tissue and when your partner gets aroused, this urethral sponge will expand and that's actually what the g spot is. But even on the outside here the urethra can be extremely pleasurable for some people. You always want to be very soft with this area and you want to make sure that your hands are extremely lubricated. If you're going to be touching this area. The urethra is also where your partner will squirt out of if you're giving them a squirting orgasm going down from the urethra. We have the vaginal opening this is where babies come out of this is where you will finger this is where penises go in. And we will talk more about internally as well. But just moving down from that we have the skin between the vaginal opening and the anus that's called the perineum. Now in the perineum is more erectile tissue called perineal sponge and can be extremely pleasurable as well. So when you have your fingers inside your partner, or pleasuring your partner, by doing an up down motion, you can stimulate both the g spot when you're pulling up, but also when you come down and give that G spot a break, you can actually be massaging the perineal sponge, and that can feel really good for your partner. And then coming down from the perineum, we're going to find the anus, which also has a lot of nerve endings, and can be extremely pleasurable as well through fingering the anus, you are actually able to stimulate the a spot and give a spot orgasms, which we'll talk about in a little bit back to the vaginal opening. A lot of people don't know this, but most of the nerve endings are around the opening of the vagina. So what this means is that we can use just the tip of our finger, use our tongue or even just the tip of a penis or a toy and simulate this area, we can simulate around the outside, we can put just a knuckle in. And we can make circles around there. Also the very act of insertion and pulling out as those muscles kind of expand to let you inside and then kind of also contract and pull back together as you pull out that can be extremely, extremely pleasurable for a lot of people. So often we will go in and try to focus on the G spot. But sometimes it's really good to spend time here, just going really slowly for your partner allowing them to feel those sensations and then coming back allowing it to kind of suction out as you go slowly can feel really pleasurable for your partner moving further into the vagina. Now on the sides, we have the bulb of vestibule which we talked about when we talked about the clitoral network, and they can actually expand and engorge when your partner is aroused. So you may notice when you're giving your partner G Spot pleasure, or bringing your partner to a squirting orgasm, that those bulbs of vestibules will expand and inside their vagina will kind of balloon up and even push you out as they have an orgasm. But one of the favorite spots to find internally in the vagina is the g spot. We already talked about how that's actually urethral sponge if we imagine that this bottle is the vaginal opening, and then above it, we have the urethra this obviously isn't to scale. But surrounding the urethra is erectile tissue called urethral sponge and at least about two to three inches back into the bladder. Now what happens when our partner is not aroused if we're trying to reach the g spot, if that sponge isn't actually engorged, it's going to be difficult to reach. And even if we can reach it, it's not going to feel incredibly pleasurable for our partner. However, now let's imagine that we have gotten our partner aroused. And the urethral sponge has now expanded, what you'll notice this expansion actually pushes down into the roof of the vagina. So when we're going in and simulating the g spot, what we're actually doing is stimulating the urethral sponge through the roof of the vagina. This is why the g spot has that spongy like texture. But it's also really important to note that the G spot isn't just a spot, it's actually two to three inches long. Remember when I talked about how we can actually access the g spot through the stomach, that's because the g spot is this urethral sponge, it expands in all directions. And we can go ahead Yes, and we can simulate it through the vagina. But we can also push down with their hand over the stomach and pleasure that way. We'll talk more about this in an upcoming video. But when pleasuring the g spot, you want to go about one to two knuckles in and we're going to reach up onto the roof of the vagina and use a come here motion. So as you can see, we can stimulate the g spot that way. And then if we go even further back into the vagina, we're going to find the cervix. The cervix is a donut like shape and most people don't like their cervix stimulated directly some people can actually have cervical orgasms, but for most people, it feels a little bit uncomfortable. However, if you're fully back and you can feel the cervix, if you go to the muscle and the skin just above the cervix or anterior to the cervix, that is going to be the a spot. Now when a vulva owner orgasms, what happens is the muscles around the cervix actually contract during an orgasm so we can actually induce an orgasm by touching the a spot directly with the G spot will go in about one to two knuckles and we use the come here motion with the A spot, we're actually going all the way in. And what you'll notice that I do when I try to find a spot is not only will I use my middle finger, which is the longest but I'll actually push up against the body to get as deep as possible. And when I'm simulating the a spot, I'm not going to use a come here motion and pull on it. I'm going to find one spot and actually apply and release pressure So I'll find one spot and then I'll kind of apply and release pressure. You can also simulate the a spot underneath the cervix. So you can go in with your finger pointing down as far as possible and simulate the a spot. That way, you can also access the a spot through the anus pushing up through the anus in order to reach the A spot. And this is why some vulva owners can have incredible mind blowing orgasms through anal penetration because the penis is actually stimulating that a spot that should give you a pretty good understanding of the pleasure anatomy of the vulva and a good idea of what sort of things feel good for your partner. This allows you now to go in understanding that, yes, the outer lips are extremely sensitive and they do feel good, or Yes, I know what the g spot is now, so I can try to simulate it in different ways. I know that the clitoris is an entire network. So rather than just focusing on the head, I can try lots of different things. As you can see, understanding the entire anatomy then gives you the ability to play around with your partner. Try different things, get feedback from them, and see what feels best for them. And in upcoming videos, I'm going to show you some of the tips tricks and the best techniques to pleasure each and every area to bring your partner to some of the most amazing mind blowing orgasms of their life. body positioning plays a key role when fingering our partner. If we're in the right body position, we can get the right angles and give them the maximum amount of pleasure. If we're in the wrong position, then there's certain spots that we just can't reach. So in this video, I do want to show you some of the best body positions that you can be in in order to finger your partner and give them some amazing pleasure. Now, one of the common positions you'll find yourself in is lying down in bed with your partner if we imagine a body going this way. Now, this can be a great spot to really begin to pleasure your partner, because you can really engage with them up here by kissing them by stroking their body, but by also coming down and pleasuring their vulva, light touch on the outside, even going ahead and wetting our fingers, and then touching the inner lips, even pleasuring the clitoris can be great here, or the vaginal opening, and the outside of the vagina. However, from this position, it's going to be very difficult to do any good G Spot stimulation, the reason for this is it can be quite difficult to actually bend our fingers all the way around, in order to reach the g spot. And to get enough leverage on the G spot, the higher up we are, the harder that is going to be. And for people who are pleasuring themselves, this can be really difficult, it can be hard to get your hand all the way in in order to find the g spot when you're in this position. Now, if you're pleasuring yourself, or if you really want to play your your partner's G spot in this position, then you're going to want to raise your partner's pelvis, you're also going to want to get them to throw their legs over their head, which is going to tilt the pelvis, shorten that G spot and allow you to access it much easier. So if you are trying to simulate the g spot yourself, then you're going to want to do some gymnastics and get in a position where you can reach it a lot easier. Whereas when you're lying down like this, it's just very difficult to be able to reach the right spots. When pleasuring our partner, one of the best positions we can be in is to actually be on our knees with our partner's legs going either side of us. And this way, we have full access to the vulva. And as well we have full access to our arm and to put our arm in different positions. So if we want to really stimulate the g spot, we can then lower our arm and get that leverage up there. Or we can play with the vulva, we can play with the clit here, we can go in for cunnilingus as well for this spot. If you really want to give your partner some vigorous fingering, then you might want to actually move to the side a little bit. And what I find I tend to do is actually lift one of my legs up here, and I will put one hand on my partner, or even one hand over them onto the bed. So we imagine their body goes this way, what this means is, I'm going to be able to get maximum leverage out of my arm in order to go in and to pull up and stimulate them. So if you're being really vigorous, then a position like this, where you find yourself grounded with three different points can really allow you to engage your muscles, and to give them the maximum amount of stimulation and the best chance of giving them an orgasm, and also giving them a squirting orgasm, when you're sitting in this position as well play around with different ways that your partner has their legs. So if we imagine that I am the partner for now, if our partner has their legs down, that can give a certain sensation and can be good. However, if they lift their legs up, that can actually tilt their pelvis a little bit and give us easier access. And it can feel different for them. Again, it can be different, if we go ahead and throw a pillow underneath them, that's going to tilt them up even more, and throwing their legs over their head is actually going to give us more access again. So there's a few different variations that you can try there when they're lying on their back. The other thing you can do is actually get them to go into doggy style, and to actually have their knees up. And this can be a really great way to simulate their G spot. So we imagine our partner's doggy style with their legs down. What we can do here is actually enter them and rather than pulling up like we usually do, we're actually going to push down on the G spot so we can go in with our middle finger and push down. I actually find in this position rather than using my two middle fingers, which I usually use. actually find this position is really good to use the two pointer fingers and you can give some intense intense G Spot stimulation from here. They can be more difficult to do when they're lying on their back. So getting them in doggy style position or even if they just lie down but they kind of arch their back and tilt their bum up you can get in there with One finger and give them more massage like pressure. And lastly, because you know, I like to leave the best stuff for last, the one of the best positions that you can do is to actually, rather than having a partner on your their back, you actually want your partner in a position like this, where they're up on their knees. And so if you imagine the partner is like this, and then you're going to be on this side of them, entering them here, this is going to give you so much strength in your arms to be able to pull forward and to stimulate them. And also they can lean against you and you can lean against them. Or you can even lift this leg up, put more of your weight here, allow them to push onto your shoulder, push into them, as you vigorously stimulate them. What's really great about this position as well is when you stop being vigorous and they start leaning on you, you can actually hold them, you can kiss them, you can be very intimate with them, like we had when we were lying down together. But you've got kind of the strength that you have when you're sitting between their legs. So that position can be really good for some intense stimulation and for squirting. So there you have a bunch of different body positions to try out. Each position has its own purpose and pros and cons. Play around with it with your partner, see which you like best and play around with all of them because you don't have to just choose one you can start lying down together, then you can end up between their legs, you can get them to rollover to give them more pleasure. That way you can also combine this with intercourse. So let's say you're having sex, then you can go ahead and use your fingers with them. Or you can turn around to doggy style and you can have some doggy style sex and then you can come out of them. Put your fingers in and stimulate that G spot in a way that a penis just isn't going to do flowing with your partner and moving through all these different positions is going to give an overall greater experience for them and it's just going to feel amazing and it's going to be a lot of fun for both of you When we want to finger our partner or we have the intention of giving them pleasure with our fingers, how we begin, and how we touch the vulva in the beginning is going to be really important to get them in the right mindset to help to get them aroused so they can receive the pleasure and have the best time possible. Remember, when we're doing this orgasm isn't the goal. While we may eventually achieve orgasm, our goal is to give our partner an amazing experience, and then involves a sensual experience, as well as that heightened pleasure that can lead to orgasm. So you'll notice that my model here has its panties on at the moment. And that's for good reason. Because generally, when you're starting pleasuring your partner, they will have their panties on, or they will have their clothes on and be fully clothed. Remember, this is part of an overall experience that we're creating for them, we're not just taking everything off going straight for the clitoris, which is the most sensitive spot, simulating that really hard really quick while we hit the G spot and giving them an orgasm in 10 seconds. Now there can be a time and a place for that. And in one of the bonus videos, I'll show you how to give a 10 second orgasm, but that's assuming that your partner is already fully aroused through passionate kissing, or through an amazing date, and they're just ready for you and they want you however, in a lot of circumstances, they won't quite be there yet, they may be a little bit nervous, they may just want that time to be warmed up. And remember that as blood flows into the area, everything is going to feel so much better. So in the beginning, there's not going to be that blood flow, there's not going to be that engorgement of the area. So going too hard, too fast, won't work. So how do we begin? And how do we begin touching the vulva? Well, here I have the panties on. And what I advise in the beginning is to not actually try and touch the vulva underneath the panties, we're not going to go underneath and try and touch them in the beginning or from the side. But we want to play remember, anticipation is one of your number one tools, what we're going to do is we're going to connect with our partner passionately kiss them, touch them all over their body, find out other sensitive spots, like they're like, maybe they're like in the back of the neck or they like to be kissed on the neck. Or maybe they like to be made out with passionately or touched over their chest or their breast or down their stomach or even the inner thighs. So we wanted to make this a full body experience, not just focusing on the genitals, but beginning by focusing on the entire area of their body, then what we can do as we're touching their legs or their stomach, we want to create some anticipation, so we're not going to go straight for the clitoris or anything like that. But just while they still have their panties on, we can touch the outer lips of the vagina. So we look under here, I'm going to be rubbing these outer lips, but the panties are going to stay on. So what we can do is we can rub the outer lips really softly, really gently. And then we can bring our finger up the middle right here. So from the vaginal opening, if you watch the anatomy class on the pleasure spots, we can go from the vaginal opening up past the urethra up over the clitoris. And we can also even lightly stroke and massage the clitoris here we're not using a lot of force, it's very light, feathery touch, just to begin to get them around to get them like Oh, I really want to have your fingers inside me. And what we can do here is not even go under yet. But now we can begin to hold our fingers over the clitoris and over the clitoral shaft. So we're not aiming for the head of the clitoris at this point in time, but just over the clitoral shaft with three fingers or even just one finger and we're kind of holding it in place or we may move it a little bit over the panties. One of the really cool things about having panties on and touching the vulva while they're still closing there is as you run your fingers over. And as you apply just a little bit of pressure a little bit more than that feathery amount we talked about earlier, you'll notice that your finger kind of vibrates over the fabric so creates this really unique vibrating experience for them. And then as you pull up, it can vibrate on the way up or even as you do circles, you get these micro vibrations that occur, which can be extremely teasing, but also extremely pleasuring as they begin to get more aroused as well. You can work your fingers down to the vaginal opening, and push in just with this part of your finger. So we're not trying to enter into the vagina and push the panties in. But we're just trying to push in just the tiny bit of our finger there. And then we can actually massage the opening of the vagina. So I'll talk more about this when we talk about how to finger a vulva and how to finger the vagina. But the opening here around the vaginal opening is one of them sensitive parts. So inside, yes, the G spots in there. But this entrance is extremely sensitive. And so what we're doing with our finger, we're leaving the panties on. But we're getting to that vaginal opening, and we're massaging around that vaginal opening. So what we're doing there, it's putting our hands down towards the vaginal opening, and we're massaging applying a bit more pressure than we have before our fingers going in a bit, their panties should start to feel wet, if there's someone who tends to get wet, and this is absolutely okay, these panties are definitely going to need to be washed. But that's a really sexy part about it. One of the great things about leaving the panties on is that a lot of vulva owners can actually be very self conscious about their vulvas, about the way it looks about the way it smells about the way it tastes, all of that sort of stuff. So if we try to rush in and instantly take off their panties and go for it, then it can be quite a jarring experience for them. But if we can just leave them on. So they've got that comfort, but we are getting them fully aroused, then when it comes time to take them off, it's just very natural, and they're going to be more comfortable. What we can do now as well, still leaving the panties on, we don't need to take them off. Remember, this is a journey, we're just having fun with this pleasuring our partner is we can begin to pull them to the side. And we come into touch with our finger, the outside of the lips, or we can pull them towards the middle, and we can touch the outside of the lips. What we'll be able to do then is as you can see, you can slide your finger under and begin to touch the inner lips. And the clitoris as well. What I advise here is to either use the wetness from the vagina to get wetness on your finger, or if you can get some spit on your finger. And if we're going down from the top of the panties, bend your finger over so that it stays in there. As you go down. It's kind of a little bit awkward, but then you can let it out and the witnesses there. Remember, we always want to be touching those inner lips, we want our fingers to be wet. Or if we're going from the side, we put some spit on our fingers or you can use lubricant, coconut oil or any sort of lubricant. But I just find spit in the moment, you can just do it, it's quite discreet, you don't have to stop to kind of get lube out is that you can then go and get underneath it can be a little bit tricky to get underneath. But if you get underneath, kind of hold it up or use a couple of fingers to hold it up because the panties are going to be tighter than this one is here. So we hold it up. And then if our middle finger is wet with spit, we can use that to touch very gently and very lightly on the vulva there. At this point, if they're wet enough and ready, we can go ahead and slide our finger in. And I will be teaching you a whole bunch of techniques on how to properly pleasure the clitoris and also how to finger properly so that it feels really good for your partner. And all of those techniques can be done underneath the panties. If we go under with our hand, we can still achieve all the same sorts of things, just the fabric can kind of get in the way, we can work around that by it being over our fingers like that, or we can actually push it to the side completely. In order to access it much easier. This will generally feel absolutely fine for your partner to have it push towards the side like that. And it gives you full access without them having to take it off. Then if you get more serious and you're in the bedroom, then you can go ahead and at this point, take off the panties so that you can begin to have better access to the vulva. Now that we have full access to the vulva, we're going to use the same idea anticipation is key here. You don't want your partner to be able to anticipate exactly what you're doing. You want them to know that yes, you know what you're doing and you're going to give them amazing pleasure, but they don't know when it's going to happen. And so they get a bit squeamish they get a bit excited as for when you're going to touch the good spots like the clitoris or when you're going to put your finger inside them. So we can play with this. We can tease them, we can touch the outer lips gently. I always like to start being really soft and gentle with the vulva because that can just be such a nice way to get your partner relaxed and get them feeling really good. And the clitoris actually starts here it comes up and it's got a wishbone shape with the bulbs of vestibule, which actually exists in these outer lips so they're not to be ignored at all you can massage those outer lips with your fingers, you can put your palm over it and then rub your palm like this, which is going to massage the entire area as well as the clitoral shaft so that can be a really nice starting point for your partner. Again, we are going to be gentle, we're going to focus on the entire area. It's really important that we begin to play with the inner lips and the vaginal opening the urethra, the clitoris, etc. Anything other than the outer lips basically and the legs, we want our fingers to be very wet. So we can use lubricant for that we can access our partners witness as well. Or what I like to do is just spit on my hands, and use spit to make the entire area wet, the inner lips and the clitoris don't like being touched when they're dry, it can be quite painful, it was different when the panties were on, because it created that vibration, we weren't touching it directly. But if your fingers are dry, it can be quite painful to touch directly. So we want to make sure that our fingers are wet as we go down there. And as we begin to work our magic on the area, what you do next will really depend on your partner and what they like you could focus on the clitoris and begin massaging the clitoris, you may want to work your way down to the vaginal opening, put just a little bit of a finger in there work in there, or they may like to be fingered early on, and just some gentle stimulation in there. Or they may like the u spot and that area between the vaginal opening and the clitoris, they may like that to be touched softly. But I've got full videos on how to do all of those in the course this video was all about how to get started and use the correct approach so that our partner feels comfortable and so that we can build up that arousal rather than just going in hard and fast. So go ahead and watch those other tutorials and remember to incorporate all the different techniques but also paying attention to your partner and their experience and give them this sensual experience. That is a build up rather than something that's just going in with a clear orgasm in mind, the orgasm will come and the orgasm actually way more likely to come. If you take your time. If you have fun with a if you explore all of the different ways to give them pleasure and then towards the end as they're fully aroused. fully ready to receive it. You can use the techniques that I teach you on how to give clitoral orgasms, G Spot orgasms or a spot orgasms. So go ahead check out those techniques. I'll see you in the next video. The clitoris is the most sensitive spot on the vulva with more nerve endings on just the head of the clitoris than you'll find on the entirety of someone's penis. So it's a super sensitive spot, but it's also a primary source of orgasm, you'll find that people who own vaginas when they are stimulating themselves when they're touching themselves, most of them will actually stimulate the clitoris, and orgasm through clitoral stimulation, rather than internal stimulation. In this video, I'm going to show you how to find the clitoris both visually and how to find it with your fingers because often you might be standing up and reaching down into your partner's panties, or you might be lying down next to each other and then reaching your hand around and so you can't see it directly, but you need to be able to find it with your fingers alone, it's really important to note that the clitoris isn't just a spot you may have heard of the clitoris as a spot or the clitoral head, but it's actually a full network of erectile tissue that runs through the vulva. So you'll often have a clitoral head and then a hood that comes up called the clitoral shaft or the clitoral hood, and then it will come down in a wishbone shape and exists in both the outer lips as well as inside the walls of the vagina. Stop thinking about the clitoris just as the head of the clitoris or that spot, but think about the entire network when you're looking for it. And when you're pleasuring it, if we're looking for the clitoris, we want to start at the stomach and then we've got the mons pubis, which is the hard bone here. If we slide down from that, we've got the outer lips here. And inside the outer lips, you'll have the hood of the clitoris, which hides the clitoral shaft and underneath that hood will be the clitoris. Now clitoris has come in different shapes and sizes, we can see that in this one. The clitoris is actually really small, and it's completely hidden under the hood there. And so you'd have to pull that skin back in order to see it and it's quite small. However, if we look at this model, we can see that the head of the clitoris is actually sticking out there and it's much bigger than on the other model. So clitorises has come in all different shapes and sizes. When your partner is more aroused as well. Blood will flow into the area and the clitoris will engorge and grow in size and become easier to find it may still stay under the hood, even when it's edgorged or may actually pop out like it does on this model. But looking visually we're coming down we can find the hood of the clitoris there and at the end of the hood before the urethra which is the wee hole and before the vaginal opening, you'll find the head of the clitoris underneath there. Over look at this one. We come down from the top we've got the hood or the clitoral shaft there and then we've got the clitoris. If we're coming from the bottom up, we will have the vaginal opening will then have the urethra which doesn't exist on this model. And just above that before the hood will be where the head of the clitoris is will now do a quick little quiz where I'll show you a few pictures of real life vulvas you'll have a couple of seconds to identify where the clitoris is visually and then I will point it out for you. Okay, have a look at this one and see if you can identify the clitoris. This is the clitoral hood and shaft here and you've got the clitoris poking out a little bit right there. On this next one have another look. And we can see there's a little bit more skin but there's the hood of the clitoris and there is the clitoris head right there. This one has numbers on it. So see if you can guess which number is the clitoris. If you guessed number two, then that would be correct. Number one is the hood and the shaft of the clitoris. And number two is the head of the clitoris. That's just a couple of selections. But down below I'll have a full video showing a whole bunch of different vulvas and we'll go through them and how to identify the clitoris practice makes perfect here. So the more practice you have looking at vulvas and identifying the clitoris in different parts of the vulva, the better you'll become no matter which partner you're connecting with. Now that we know how to find the clitoris, visually, it's important to be able to find it with our fingers. Because more often than not, we're not going to get direct visual access to it. And the best way that I find to find the clitoris is to actually use three of our fingers. And to do this, we slide our three fingers down with two fingers going on the outer lips of the vulva there and the third finger going down the middle. Now we want to make sure that this third finger especially isn't dry because that can be quite painful. So Go ahead and throw some spit on there or use some lubricant as you slide down so that it's nice and wet. And it feels really great for your partner, these fingers on the outside providing this light touch is also going to be very pleasurable for your partner. And what we do is we slide our fingers down, and we're not trying to find it on the way down exactly, but we come down towards the vaginal opening, we can kind of stimulate the outside of that a little bit. And then we slide our way up. And what we'll find is that as you slide your way up, your finger will naturally go under the hood of the clitoris, and will touch the head of the clitoris directly, you want to be really soft here, especially in the beginning, because this spot is so sensitive, that if you go straight for it, and if you go hard for it, the sensation your partner's going to feel is going to actually be quite painful and not be pleasurable at all. So we grabbed this model and we do the same thing. Let's go ahead and wet our fingers. And we'll slide down with three fingers there and sliding up. You can see that with my middle finger here and kind of bending it a little bit. And that's going to help me come underneath the hood and find the clitoris directly. If you've got longer nails than me, you want to make sure that you're not scratching at all because that's going to be very painful. So using the outside of your hand and just the soft part of your finger to find the clitoris once we've found the clitoris, as I mentioned, we don't want to go hard and fast on the head of the clitoris straightaway, because that's going to be painful for our partner. In fact, a lot of the times we don't necessarily actually want to touch the head of the clitoris much in the beginning anyway, instead, what we want to do with our wet fingers is to begin to massage the hood or the shaft of the clitoris. So we can come down with three fingers and begin in a circular motion here, which will keep the skin of the hood of the clitoris over the more sensitive head. And we can begin with light touches there, we can also begin to apply slow, firm pressure to the area, we can also just slide down and involve the entirety of the vulva we don't just want to focus on this one spot right now. But rather, using anticipation using the entire area, pleasure them around all of these spots, and then come back to the clitoris as a more sensitive and pleasurable part for them. You can use two fingers as you can see on either side. And what I'm doing is actually kind of closing my two fingers and using the force to push them together. As always, we want to be quite wet when we're down there, it doesn't like it dry. But if we go either side, and you can see that you can squeeze your fingers together, you can do it with your fingers being stationary, or we can slide our fingers down and kind of close them together. And you can see that the clitoris kind of disappears under there can come back up to the top and down like that. Or we can go down with the entirety of our hand. And we can actually use our knuckle here, or even the palm of our hand to touch the clitoris. So we go down, we're touching all of this area. Remember, the clitoral network actually wraps around in a wishbone shape and is actually inside these outer lips of the vulva. So we're going down with our full hand, we're stimulating everything down there. And you can see that my knuckle here comes over the hood of the clitoris, there applying pressure and I can hold pressure there, I can then move this around like that with my hand open, or I can put my hand down and move it around as well. I can also slide down and have a finger inside my partner with the knuckle on the clitoral hood on the shaft and massaging it that way. Remember, we're involving everything we're not just focusing on the one spot in the beginning this is going to get your partner more aroused is going to bring more blood flow into the area which is going to make it increasingly more pleasurable for them. And also allow us to do the more vigorous techniques that are going to bring our partner to orgasm. Another thing that I like to do is if I come down with my three fingers, and we come up and we find the head of the clitoris, I'm going to be quite soft, extremely soft. With my finger here. I'm not going to be hard and fast, but very soft touch and I'm just going to do really slow and really small circles, hardly touching the clitoris at all seeing how my partner responds to that. And if they like that, I can then move away, give them a break. I can then massage the shaft or I can then come back to it and continue doing it. I can start in slow circles. If they're someone who really likes clitoral stimulation. Then I can start with slow circles and I can either move it up from there by applying more pressure or pushing harder. Not a lot harder but Just a little bit harder, so becomes more of a massage than a soft touch. So you can keep the same speed but apply more pressure there. Or I can begin to speed up. whilst keeping it really, really soft, I can do this in circles, I can flick up from the bottom, over the clitoris there, or I can go side to side, really soft, really small sides aside, it's not big motions here. And the entire time here, we want to be communicating with our partner, seeing what they like seeing what is pleasurable to them, or what they're making noises about and what they like. And remember that this is the most sensitive spot on the body. So while we might love to stimulate this, we might want to have a break as well or change it up. As we're getting them more and more aroused. Change it up, spread the love to the other areas as well change from a soft touch directly on the head to something more like a massage over the entirety of it by now your partner should be getting very, very aroused and there's blood flow in the area things are feeling better and better. And we can now use different techniques in order to bring them to orgasm. And that's what we're going to cover in the next video is how do we take it from just being nice and pleasurable and how do we actually give a clitoral orgasm? Hey, and welcome to the clitoris quiz, where we are going to look at a whole bunch of different vulvas and learn how to identify the clitoris on each of them. Practice makes perfect and having a diversity vulvas to look at, and being able to identify the clitoris on each of them is going to mean that it's going to be easier for you to find the clitoris on any particular partner that you're with. All vulvas are different, they all look different. But the anatomical structure and the location of the clitoris is going to be basically the same in each one. So we'll go through, we'll have a look. When we get to each one, I encourage you to pause the video if you need to, to try and guess where it is and locate it yourself. And then I'll talk about it and how to find it. And any problems that may arise are things that we can do to more easily locate it. So starting with the first one here we can see this person is actually spreading their vulva apart and we can see clearly defined here is the shaft of the clitoris and we've got the clitoral hood there which means underneath even though we can't really see it in this photo, the head of the clitoris is going to be right there. So remember this shaft is a really strong pleasure point and the clitoris comes up and actually wishbones out from the shaft down here. So these sides can also be very sensitive and very pleasurable. Looking. In this one, it's a bit of a dark photo. But often when we're connecting with our partner, it's going to be in the dark. And we can see here again, the top of the clitoral shaft the clitoral hood, and that would be the clitoris right there. On this one, we can see that we've got the outer lips here, we've got the mons pubis, up here and down here we've got the clitoral hood, it's a bit difficult to see exactly where the head of the clitoris is, I would probably predict it's about there, but it's okay to not be able to see it straightaway and to need to get in there and fill it with your fingers and find it I'd predict it would be there and down here would be your urethra and then your vaginal opening. This one I wanted to include to show that all clitoris is a different some people have quite large clitoris is that stick out and you should never body shame someone for the way their clitoris looks. Just enjoy them for what they are in fact, enjoying this person and this clitoris, it's going to be very easy to find. And there's going to be a lot of unique ways that you can pleasure this clitoris by sucking on it. And by stimulating it because you have so much area to work with. So everyone's going to look different. Never body shame anyone and have fun with the vulva that you're working with with the clitoris that you're working with looking here, we actually have I think the same vulva here with a whole bunch of numbers on it. Let's start on the left and see if we can locate the clitoris just from this picture. I would say that here we have the shaft in the hood of the clitoris, which means the clitoral head would be underneath there. Here we can see that they're actually pulling the skin up to reveal the clitoris. We can see the shaft in the hood here, which would mean that number two would be the clitoral head. Looking at this one here, we can clearly see the shaft and the hood of the clitoris here and the fold of skin here. The clitoral head would be underneath there. So you need to get your finger under there or pull back the skin a little bit to reveal the clitoral head here we have one where it's quite clearly defined where it's going to be got the mons pubis with the pubic hair up here, we've got the hood of the clitoris. And right in here underneath is where you'd find the clitoris here you can see the inner lips is actually folding over the opening of the vagina. So you would actually need to part this over to the side using your finger in order to get your finger inside this partner. So that's a good representation of how the inner lips can just be really different in size. Here if we have a look at this one, this one should be pretty easy for you because we can see the hood and the shaft of the clitoris here. And you can see poking out right there is the head of the clitoris coming down. You can see this is the vaginal opening here. On this on we can see that they've spread their lips and we can also see that the lips can be different colors. They can be different sizes. You can see that it's higher up here and lower down here. Everyone's going to look different. It's all beautiful. We've got the vaginal opening here Shaft of the clitoris is here and the hood and we can see the clitoris poking out there. If we look at this one I wanted to show this because it's not really easy to actually identify where the clitoris is we can see with this person, they have smaller inner lips and larger outer lips so the larger outer lips completely cover the vaginal opening and also cover the clitoris but we can still see from the top here the beginning of the hood of the clitoris and the shaft, which means the head of our clitoris is going to be around here somewhere. But what we need to do is actually spread these outer lips, in order to get our finger in into find the head of the clitoris. So this, it can't find the head just by looking at it, we need to actually open our partner up a bit to be able to find it. And that's completely normal. This one was in the previous video, it's just looking from a different angle. For example, if your partner was sitting on your face, then this would be a great view for you. And you would have a lot of fun with this, we can see that we've got the anus up here, vaginal opening, and we can see the shaft and the hood of the clitoris here and the clitoral head is poking out, and is right there. With this one. Again, this is from behind. So we've got the anus here, which means this is the vaginal opening, can't actually see the clitoris on this one, or you kind of can a little bit, we've got the shaft of the clitoris there, which means the head of the clitoris would be right about there. With this one, it took me a second to work this one out just what angle is happening here. But we've got the vaginal opening here. And the anus is actually down here. So we're going to have the clitoris shaft up here. And it looks like it's kind of hidden underneath the inner lips. So I predict that the head of the clitoris is there. But even me knowing a lot about this, sometimes I look at these and I'm not completely confident. And that will take actually feeling around and seeing how my partner reacts to be fully confident that I found the head of the clitoris, this is another one that's a little bit tricky just by looking at it just because of the shape of the inner lips. And the way the inner lip folds up here. It makes me think that the clitoris head could be there. But really, I think we've got our inner lips that separate out along here and then down there. So I would imagine that the head of the clitoris would be right in this spot here. So some can be a little misleading and harder to find. But that's okay, just take your time feel around, and eventually you're going to find it. This is a great example of how when our partner has quite a lot of hair, it can be much harder to locate the clitoris just by looking at the outside of the vulva because the hair obviously obscures our view. So here, I can't actually really identify where the clitoris is, I would say probably comes from up here and would be around here somewhere. But I would actually want to spread those outer lips using my hands or using my fingers and then use my finger to feel around because it's not going to be hairy on the inside. And so once we move that hair out of the way, we'll be able to find it. Here we can see another person that has quite a lot of hair, but it has been spread apart. And we can see that there's no hair on the inside and it makes it really easy for us to find the clitoris. So you should be able to see this one by now we've got the shaft and hood here with a clitoral head right there. This one we've got a kind of subdued or hidden clitoral head, but we've got the shaft of the clitoris coming down here and the clitoris head would be underneath there. Here we have a top down view. So you can't see the clitoris head from here. But you should be able to see that right here is the shaft of the clitoris and the hood, which means that the head of the clitoris would be underneath there. So you'd want to come all the way down and then back out like I showed you in order to stimulate the head of the clitoris. Here we've got a front on one that should be fairly easy for you. Now that we've been through quite a few. We've got the shaft of the clitoris here and the clitoral head is poking its head out right there. Here we have someone either in doggy style or lying down with their legs raised and we can see the anus here. If I was to come up from here, not a really defined clitoral shaft or clitoral head. And I'd imagine that the head of the clitoris would be in there right about there because we can see the inner lips beginning in that spot. But again, another good example of how I can't even always be certain as to where exactly it is, you may need to get up closer you may need to feel with your hands or with your mouth in order to find it. Here we have one where we can see the shaft and the hood of the clitoris quite defined there, which means the clitoral head would be in and around here somewhere and maybe this spot here, it might actually be this spot or it could even be up there. So I'm not actually sure with that one, but it's definitely around there. And you could feel around actually even down here could potentially be the head of the clitoris. So with this one, I would definitely be feeling my way around using my finger to get under the fold of skin here and then also watching my partner and seeing how they react to know where exactly to stimulate them. This one again another different angle. We can't actually see it here but we can see the inner lips of this person here. Which means if we work our way out from the inner lips, we should be able to find the head of the clitoris around there, the clitoral shaft and hood is hidden by the outer lips here. But as we can see from going vaginal opening urethra, we've got the inner lips here, we can locate the clitoris that way so we don't always need to be able to see the shaft to know where it is, we can actually locate it using the other anatomy of the vulva. Here we have someone spreading to make it really easy for us to find and we can see that the clitoris actually pokes out on this one so the shaft actually comes forward and the hood there and we've got the clitoris poking out there. And then we have the inner lips here. So you see the inner lips lead up to the clitoris and to the head of the clitoris. This one should be really easy to locate because it is quite a large, protruding clitoris. You can see that hood is not covering this one. This can happen with some people, they can just have their clitoris like this exposed all the time, or when they're fully aroused. The clitoris has erectile tissue engorges and can poke out. And so again, we can see the inner lips leading up to the clitoris, we can also see the shaft leading down and hood going around the clitoris. This one on its side, the clitoris head is hidden underneath skin. But again, we can use we've got the shaft coming down here, we've got the inner lips leading up, which would mean that the head of the clitoris would be around here. But this looks like quite a decent hood in terms of how much skin is there. So we may need to feel around to get underneath the skin. If we want to stimulate the head of the clitoris directly. This one is a great example of how it can be hard to see just front on we can see that a lot of the skin is covering it, it's difficult to work out where exactly the head of the clitoris is, it could potentially be here, it could potentially be here, or it could even be further around here. So we actually need a better view, we need to use our fingers. In order to find this. I'd imagine if I was going down with my fingers, I would either find the clitoris there or underneath there, but I guess my guess would be here. And we can see this same person is now opening up their lips to make things easier to find. And we can see the shaft leading down here. And a way to find it. Again, we're looking at the inner lips leading up and so I would imagine the head of the clitoris would be underneath the fold of skin here here we have a bit of a different one because we've got multiple folds of skin here. So it can be difficult to understand. Okay, what is the inner lips, what are the outer lips but what I would say is that the inner lips is this one here, and this one here. And this here is actually part of the outer lips of the vulva. And so what we do is we would follow up those inner lips and imagine that we'd find the head of the clitoris right here, and this would actually be the shaft and the hood of the clitoris leading down over there. So this one is a little bit to the side in this person. Here we have some numbers so you should be able to guess that the clitoris is number two, we've got the shaft and the hood and the clitoral head is exposed. We've also got the inner lips leading up to the clitoris there. This one we can see that pulling back the hood and making the clitoris pop out so we can see the tip and the head of the clitoris here. This one you can see the vaginal opening is right here. And if we go up you can see the urethra as well. And then if we come up, then we've got the clitoris. Here we have two different vulvas. And this is a really great picture to show you that on some people, their outer lips are bigger and the inner lips are quite small. Whereas on this one on the right hand side, while the outer lips is still there, the inner lips are quite large and actually stick out. So both of these are incredibly normal, but it can make it different to find the clitoris but this one we can see that we've got the hood of the clitoris here, which means we'd find our clitoral head under here and maybe quite a small clitoris on this person. And on this person here we've still got the shaft in the hood of the clitoris. And we can see the inner lips lead up to the clitoral head, which would be there. Here we have another one that is spread open and should be easy to find. For all of you at this point. We've got our inner lips directly leading up to the head of the clitoris which is poking out. We've also got the shaft poking down there as well. Here we have an example of how the vulva can change in appearance as it gets more aroused and more engaged. So we can see on the left hand side, not much stimulation but we can see on the right hand side as they get stimulated these outer lips can actually engorge because remember, the clitoral structure actually goes into the outer lips. Those bulbs of vestibule can expand down there. This one's actually a bit tricky to find the clitoral head here, but I'd imagine that it would probably be in there. Looking at this picture here. You can kind of see the shaft and the foot of the clitoris, which would mean the clitoris would be there, or it could actually be further down there. See this is one where I would need to use my fingers connect with my partner in order to find it and that's completely okay with a bit of time, you'd definitely be able to find this it wouldn't be hard to locate with your fingers. But just visually looking at it, it can be a bit tricky and misleading. Here we have a picture where it's spread, there's a lot of different numbers on here should be able to say that number one is the shaft and the hood of the clitoris. Number two is the head and number four is the inner lips that lead up to the clitoris. Number five is the urethra where they are we out of six is the opening to the vagina. On this one, we can see that there's really no clearly defined clitoral shaft on this person. But we can see that the inner lips while extremely small, still lead us up to the clitoral head which would be underneath the fold of skin here with this person we can see the clitoral shaft is actually underneath here. It's just not as defined because of the shape of the outer lips and the size of their inner lips. But it's still going to be very easy to find that clitoris. Here we have one with a few different labels, including the clitoral hood, which should make it easy for you to find the head of the clitoris. We follow that clitoral hood down, we can also follow the inner lips up, we will find the head of the clitoris in this section here. Here we have a person that is penetrating themselves with a toy, and we can see the shaft in the hood of the clitoris here we can see the fold of skin here, which means we'd find the head of the clitoris in there, this one can be a little tricky, but it's a great example of how to find the clitoris using both the shaft as well as the inner lips. So we can see that the shaft leads down here. And we can see that the inner lips lead up and meet at this point here, which means the head of our clitoris would be in this section here. In this one, we can see that the inner lips have actually been pushed to the side and actually covering the clitoris. So we've got our inner lips here, and we've got another one here. But we can see that the inner lips kind of lead up to this point here, which is where you're probably most likely to find the clitoris could potentially be higher up up there. But no, because the inner lips meet at this point, that is where I would definitely first be looking, but you would actually need to spread these lips apart in order to correctly finger this person because this inner lips push to the side and getting in the way. So we just move that out of the way with our fingers and then we have full access to our partner. Here's another one where the shaft and the hood of the clitoris isn't clearly defined, but we can see the inner lips leading up to the head of the clitoris which is poking out there. So yes, we can use the shaft to identify it. But also we can use those inner lips to identify and locate the clitoris. Just a couple more looking at sex and penetration if you are a penis owner and penetrating your partner and this is your view, how do we find the clitoris? Well we can see that the inner lips are leading out to it. We can also see here the shaft and the hood of the clitoris. This clitoris is actually poking out. So stimulating the clitoris with your hand whilst penetrating your partner can feel really good for them. Here we have a another penetration photo. And here we can see the inner lips leading up to this point. And this clitoris is actually sticking out a bit. So we've got the shaft here, and then we can see the clitoris there. With this one, we can see that these people are engaging in some anal sex. If we follow up these smaller inner lips, as well as follow the shaft and the hood down. We can find the clitoris in this location. And that completes the quiz. How did you go? How many did you find you can always go back and do this multiple times so you can continue to learn how to find it easier. I even learned by doing this how we can follow those inner lips up to the clitoris which is something honestly I hadn't thought of before making this video. So the more that you practice, the more you look at vulvas and learn how to identify the different parts, the easier it becomes to find them and as you can see, some of them are also quite hard and we need to do some more exploration in order to find the clitoris and that's completely normal. We also saw a wide diversity of vulvas and clitorises is there and all of it is absolutely beautiful. So always encourage your partner and let them know how beautiful their vulva is or their clitoris is or their Pussy is or whatever language you want to use. Let them know how much you desire them and how beautiful they are. As we know the clitoris is the most sensitive spot on the vulva and can be a great source of pleasure for our partners. In fact, most vulva owners when they masturbate, will focus on the clitoris and give themselves clitoral orgasms rather than putting their fingers inside themselves and giving them internal orgasms. So we know that the clitoris is a source of orgasm, and in this video, I'm going to show you the different techniques that you can use to give your partner a clitoral orgasm. Now it's really really, really important that here we think about and understand the waves of pleasure and the build up to orgasm that we talked about in the first video on the foundations of fingering. So if you haven't checked that out, I highly recommend you do. But what can happen because it is such a sensitive spot, it's very easy to push our partner over the edge and the clitoris become oversensitive and actually painful. So we want to avoid that by actually building up to a clitoral orgasm, rather than just going in and trying to give them a clitoral orgasm straightaway focus on the entirety of the vulva. And as well use your fingers inside them to stimulate the g spot and to build up that area. In fact, what I find is that if we just purely focusing on the clit, I find that my mouth and my tongue are probably the best tools to give just a clitoral focused orgasm. However, my fingers are great tools when I'm doing a combination of internal simulation and touching the clit. Or if I'm going to give them a clitoral orgasm with my fingers alone, just focusing on the clit. We've already built up to that by stimulating the entire area by massaging the clit and giving him pleasure like we talked about previously. And then also by fingering them simulating the g spot or the a spot and then when they're fully aroused, they're fully in the zone, they're lost, they're ready to receive that orgasm, then we can use those techniques to focus on the clit. So it can be a little bit finicky is what I'm trying to say here. When we're trying to give clitoral orgasms, there are a lot of different techniques that you can use to give clitoral orgasms. And so I'm going to teach you those and then you can play around with your partner and see which they like best. And when it's most appropriate to use each to bring them to orgasm. One of the tried and true bread and butter approaches is what vulva owners often do when they masturbate, and that is to focus on the shaft and the hood of the clitoris, and maybe bringing your finger down over the head. But we're not fully exposing the head here. And we're using a massage like pressure over the head of the clitoris here. And as you can see I'm going in circles, or we can go up and down. Here there's many variations on this as well, you can use two fingers and go side to side here, you can even lick your finger and your thumb. And you can actually go side to side almost like you're masturbating the shaft of the clitoris. But the same concept here is that we're applying pressure over the hood and the shaft of the clitoris, you can do wide strokes all the way across. Or you can stay really focus and do small strokes, just with one finger. There's a lot of variability to try here with your partner. Another thing that you can do to up the intensity is rather than just focusing on the hood and the shaft, is actually move your finger down a little bit focusing on the head of the clitoris. So we're looking at this model here where the clitoris is more pronounced in the beginning, we're doing that massage like pressure here, over the hood and the shaft of the clitoris. But what we can do is actually bring our finger down so that we're actually massaging the head of the clitoris directly, or we can do wider strokes and massage the hood and then coming down over the head. When we're doing our side to side strokes like this, we can move our fingers down over the head of the clitoris and do side to side over the head of the clitoris. Another finger technique here is as you can see my fingers are together, which gives one sensation but you can actually spread your fingers apart and will actually flick between so depending on how aroused they are depending on what they like. You can vary it up. So maybe they're not fully crazy aroused. So just using smaller strokes with my three fingers is really building them up. Or maybe they've already had a G spot orgasm, and they're really really aroused and I can spread my three fingers apart go really hard, really fast, and they're going to have one of the most intense clitoral orgasms of their life. So you can really vary it up here. Another technique to give clitoral orgasms is to focus on the head of the clitoris. And for this one, we actually want to have the head of the clitoris exposed so if the head of the clitoris is hiding under the clitoral hood, you might want to expose that by pressing down just here on the mons pubis. If you press down with your other hand and push back that can act pull the skin back and expose the clitoral head. And here we're going to be touching the head directly. Again, we want to make sure our fingers are wet. And we're touching the head directly, we want to apply a very light pressure to the head. And we're not doing huge, big motions like we were over the hood. But rather, we're using one finger and this part of our finger, and we're getting it on the clitoris head. And we're just going backwards and forth with that, or we can go up and down with that, you can see that my pressure here is really light. And then what we can do is we can actually speed that up and keep it really light. And you try and go as fast as you can, almost vibrating your hand there, in order to give them an orgasm. That way, you can also apply a little bit more pressure, I wouldn't go fully really hard here. But if we're starting kind of like feather like hardly touching. And then you can apply a little bit more pressure, trying to keep your finger on the head of the clitoris, and then going backwards and forth as quickly as you can, but never going off the clitoris completely kind of staying on it, it can also sometimes be easier to go up and down. Rather than going side to side. Throughout all this always try to remember those waves of pleasure. So we could be building our partner up, it could be feeling great, but be in tune with your partner in this moment. And whether or not they're going to orgasm. If you feel like it's taking a bit too long, and they're not quite getting to orgasm, it can often be a really good idea to actually slow down or to stop rather than trying to push through and get them to that point and bring them to orgasm, you might actually find it's better to stop, have a break, kind of massage the area around your partner, maybe finger them a bit as well and give them a bit more of overall love to the vulva. Before we come back to it for this, it really comes down to knowing how long your partner usually takes the orgasm and just having an intuitive sense of whether it's taking too long, what we're really trying to avoid here is pushing them over into that over sensitivity, and then they're not going to enjoy it, it's going to hurt and then orgasms going to become really difficult after that anyway, as you can see clitoral orgasms are very dependent on your partner. And a lot of it comes down to actually being in tune with your partner, and knowing what your partner likes. And if you're unsure, it's a really great idea to just ask your partner how they like to be touched. Or what you can do is be pleasuring them internally with your finger and get them to touch themselves by pulling their hand over their clit they'll know what to do or even asking them directly. And when you're simulating them internally and they're touching themselves, watch them and see exactly how do they simulate their clitoris. And that can give you an idea for what to do. Or you can have play sessions together where you can say, I just really want to learn what sort of things that you like. And you can try a bunch of these different techniques on them and get feedback as to whether they like it or not. So you can find out for future play sessions. It's very partner dependent, so communicate with your partner get in tune with them. And what I'm finding is that more often than not, I'm giving internal stimulation while I'm also stimulating the clit, and that's what's bringing my partner to orgasm. So in the upcoming videos, you're going to learn how to find the g spot and how to give G Spot orgasms Before we move on to talk about putting our fingers inside our partner and pleasuring the g spot and giving our partner G Spot orgasms, it's important to talk about the u spot because this is a very erogenous zone. And this technique can give your partner some intense pleasure and can really help some partner's orgasm. And not a lot of people know about this. So if we remember our anatomy, coming from the top, we have the hood and the shaft of the clitoris and the clitoral head, we come down and we have the urethra, and then we come down to the vaginal opening. And between the vaginal opening, and the clitoris, this is what I would call the u spot zone. Really the u spot is the urethral opening and the tissue surrounding that. We'll talk more about it when it comes to G Spot orgasms. But the urethra is actually surrounded in erectile tissue. So when your partner gets really aroused, that spot can engorge and become extremely sensitive. When we are touching this area between the vaginal opening and the clitoris, we want to make sure we're using an extreme amount of lubrication or spit. Remember, my rule is there's no such thing as too much spit. So make sure you get a whole bunch on your hands, you want to make this area extremely wet. If you're doing this dry, you're going to hurt them, it's not going to feel nice, so you want it to be very wet. And the technique that we're going to be using is extremely light pressure. Using this inner part of our finger coming from the vaginal opening, we're just going to go inside the inner lips, pulling our fingers up, up till just before we feel the head of the clitoris. So from here, this is all extremely sensitive. And depending on your partner, and where they like it best, they might like it best right near the vaginal opening, they might like your best a little bit further up around the urethral opening. And you can do little circles there, or a lot of partners as well might like it just under the clitoris without actually touching the head of the clitoris directly. But just underneath, they can really like stimulation, they're generally this area you want to be very soft and rubbing on the inside of those inner lips. But you can actually stop on an area apply a little bit more pressure and then go in slow circles or slowly up and down or slowly side to side. This is not an area to go vigorous on unless your partner has explicitly said that they liked that this is an area to be soft, and to be slow. And to just play with it and find out what your partner likes. This is going to be extremely pleasurable for a lot of people, it can bring some people to orgasm, or even if your partner prefers orgasms through the clitoris or internally through the g spot or the a spot, this can be a great way to build up that anticipation. Build up the blood flow in the area and give them some unique pleasure. Also, as always saving the best tips for last is that instead of just relying on this spot to give your partner an orgasm, get them to touch themselves on their clitoris or use a toy on a clitoris or you yourself use your other hand to stimulate the clitoris and then you lightly touch this area and just that extra little bit of sensation can be enough to really send them over the edge into an orgasm if they're getting close with the clitoral stimulation, but they're not quite getting there. If they're playing with themselves especially I just find this can be really great to just touch lightly there but also be touching around the outside of the vagina those outer lips and then coming in being super soft here. Such a unique experience for them and they can have some pretty unique and amazing orgasms fingering your partner and having your hands inside them can be a really intimate and connecting experience for both of you. But also something very unique because as a partner, giving internal pleasure with your fingers, you can touch them and reach spots that they're unable to reach themselves, fingering internally, giving them internal orgasms is incredible. But you need to learn how to do it properly, so that you're not hurting them, and you're giving them the maximum amount of pleasure. So before we get into it, and I show you the exact techniques about how to finger I first want to talk about our hands and our fingers, we want to make sure that our hands are clean, and well trimmed. If your hands are dirty after a long day at work, you'll want to go and make sure they're washed. Also with your nails, you want to make sure that they're trimmed and manicured. Because if you've got sharp edges on your nails that can catch inside and be quite painful. Now, if you have longer nails, and you want to finger your own vulva or the vulva of your partner, you can still do it with long nails, and I will talk about how to do that in the video. But you will need to be a bit more careful. Just make sure your hands are clean and your nails are nice and trim. So we're not catching or hurting them in any way. Remember, anticipation is one of our biggest tools that we have to give our partner incredible pleasure. So we're going straight in there inside them really hard really fast, that can be appropriate in some times of intense passion. But more often than not, you're actually going to want to lead up to it. So rather than entering your partner straight away, we want to create some anticipation in this moment, this means maybe even leaving their panties on in the beginning going over the top or if their panties are off, then we can touch lightly around the outer lips of them, we can touch their inner thighs or their stomach leading down and we can stay away from the really sensitive areas like the clitoris, or even the vaginal opening and touch the areas around it we can even brush across and then skip over it and keep going we're using this anticipation to get them desperate for their fingers inside you. We want them almost begging for it and getting really aroused because then when you do finally enter them, it's going to feel so much better for them. So we can begin with playing on the outside. And then as we begin to play on the inner lips, we want to make sure that our fingers are quite wet, we can use our own spit or we can use some lubricant like coconut oil or any water based lubricant having our wet fingers, we can stroke the inner lips, we can brush over the hood of the clitoris all the way down, we can also brush from the bottom back up and then moving again around the outside we're creating that anticipation so they don't know what we're going to do. But they know that it's going to be really good when it does come. While we're doing this. Make sure to be connecting with your partner touching the rest of their body as well kissing them and even verbally telling them how sexy they are and how good they feel on your fingers. how excited you are to be inside them. Remember, a lot of vulva owners can get very insecure about their vulvas and the way that it looks or the way it feels or smells or tastes. So reassuring them that you are turned on, and you're excited to be doing this. Also remember that the clitoris is the most sensitive part on the vulva. So we don't want to go in super fast with that. But we also don't want to ignore it. If we're planning on entering our partner with our fingers can be a good idea to start with a clitoris with some slow massages to really get them warmed up really get them turned on and aroused. And also, as you're doing this, it's going to bring more blood flow into the area, which is going to engorge the vulva and the clitoris and even internally and make everything feel better. So take your time with this. Don't rush it remember orgasms not the goal here we're just giving our partner an incredible time. When you are ready to enter your partner we want to be able to find the correct hole which is the vaginal opening. So remember from our anatomy class, that at the top, we've got the clitoral hood and the head of the clitoris. And as we come down we'll have the urethra so you don't want to be trying to poke in there. And then we come down and we have the vaginal opening, which will be where you're entering your finger. If you continue down, you've got the perineum, and then that goes down to the anus down there as well. So you want to make sure you're not fingering the wrong hole. So I find one of the most effective ways to find it. It's a slide down with our three finger technique that we talked about when we're finding the clitoris. If we come all the way down, what we want to do is actually spread these inner lips with our fingers. It's a little bit easier to show with this model. So again, making sure especially that inner finger is wet. We are sliding down and we are using this finger to kind of go side to side to spread those inner lips. What can happen sometimes, and it's hard to show in this model is that the inner lips can actually get in the way from you actually entering. So by going down and going side to side with our wet finger, it's going to feel good for them. But it's also going to serve the purpose of spreading those inner lips. And once we spread them in, we can begin to actually bend our finger over and slide it in like that a mistake that a lot of people make is they try and enter just with a straight finger like this. And they often finger jab as well, which doesn't really feel good for most people. And also, if you're going straight in like this, you've got more chance of your finger kind of catching on the side, or missing the hole going a little bit too deep towards the anus, and then your fingernails really going to catch on there. Or if you're going too high, you're kind of poking the urethra, which can hurt as well. So it's much better to come from the top down. And then we're folding in with this part of our finger, avoiding the nail. Now, if you have long nails, I'll teach you a different technique in a second. But if you have short nails, you can come down and you can fold in like that. And then we can begin to go inside. And we want to have our finger kind of curled up inside, massaging the roof of the vagina. So if you have longer nails than I do, you don't want to be using this technique of folding in because your nail is actually going to catch that on the skin and be quite painful. So if your nails are longer, you actually want to enter nail first. So if we go nail first into there, then straighten and then you can go in and begin to curl up. Also, when you're touching the roof of the vagina, you don't want to be scratching with your nail like this, you really want to be using the flat part of your finger. Another thing we can do with short or long nails is to slide down with our finger already bent until we notice that our finger hits the base of the vaginal opening there. That way, we can just kind of slide in like that. So showing on this one, if we go down like that, you can see I've now hit the vaginal opening. And that allows me to just slide in, it's really important when you're doing this that your finger is wet enough, you can use their internal lubrication, but often that's not enough. And so what I like to do is wet both the inside and especially the outside of my finger, because this bottom part can be quite dry, and the skin can catch. So licking and wetting both sides of our finger, we can slide down and curl in like that. Or we can come down like this until we hit the vaginal opening. And then we can slide in like that. Once we have our fingers inside our partner, we don't want to keep it straight and be going in and out finger jabbing like this, we want to actually bend our finger up and push on the roof of their vagina. And then we want to almost massage the roof of that vagina, we can do it with our finger stationary and just moving it and massaging like this. Or we can actually begin to pull out as well. And to back in push up pull out as well, which I call the finger draw. So we can use that come here motion. Or we can use the finger draw in a slow rhythmic motion with a massage like pressure. Because what we're doing here is we're getting our partner more aroused, and we're inviting more blood flow into the area so that it can get more engorged and then our partner is more likely to reach orgasm. When we go really quickly. If you go in and you begin doing really quick stimulation really early before they're aroused, and before the blood has engorged the area that can actually feel quite unpleasant for our partner. So we really want to start slow, we want to start rhythmically with that massage, touching their body at the same time or maybe stimulating their clit as well. We're turning them on we're getting them more aroused so that when we do begin to go quicker, we can bring them to orgasm. If we go straight for it and go really quickly, really fast that can actually be painful for them. Because we haven't warmed them up yet. I will show you how to find and pleasure that G Spot specifically in the next video but I just want to quickly talk about fingering positioning. As you can see, currently, my outer fingers are pointing up over the outer lips of the vagina. And what this does is it actually gives my hand and my arm more leverage in order to push up into the roof of the vagina. So as you can see my hands coming down which pushes up more. So this is great for G Spot simulation and applying pressure there. However, when we put our fingers down like this, it's going to apply a more softer, more spread out general pressure over the roof of the vagina there. This also gives us the opportunity to do a technique that I call palming where your palm will actually go over the clitoris. And you can actually rub in circles with your palm stimulating the clitoris while you're also fingering inside your partner. Having your fingers downward is also going to make it easier to make your partner squirt when you get up to that point. When you're fingering your partner, also make sure you don't forget about the clitoris, you can stimulate it through using these two fingers to push the outer lips together and clench the clitoris together like that and massage it. That way, you can kind of tilt your hand to the side, and you are able to stimulate the clitoris with your pointer finger, or you can use your thumb, or you can actually go ahead and use your other hand as well to massage it while you've got your fingers inside your partner. Alternatively, you can encourage your partner to touch themselves as you finger them. And that can be a really great experience for them as well. Communication is key with all of this. So make sure you're talking to your partner and finding out what feels good for them. Get them to express their pleasure to tell you yes, when you found a spot or just to moan and just to let it go when you have found the spot, or a great thing that I found to say Is this too much. If I'm applying quite a lot of pressure, I can check in with my partner and say, Is this too much for you, I found that's a really helpful way to communicate because they can just kind of shake their head no if they're having a really good time. Or if it is too much for them, they can say yes, and it's an invitation to slow down. And also last little tip when fingering and you know, I always leave the best stuff for last is rather than feeling the need to go all the way inside your partner. A lot of nerve endings are right here around the opening of the vagina. So you don't need to go all the way in in order to simulate them. But here is super sensitive. So what we can do is just using the tip of our finger is go in there. And we're making circles with the tip of our finger. And so if we go like that, that can be extremely pleasurable for our partner, or we can go and we can slide in just past that first knuckle slowly slide in. And then we can come back out really slowly and almost let it go like pop as you come out. So we go in really slowly, just past that first knuckle. And then we come out really slowly letting the vaginal opening close around our finger as we come out. So either those circles are that slow entry and exit can feel incredible for some partners. So it's really about communicating with them because some people really enjoy that really get off on that they can orgasm through that whereas other people prefer if you go all the way in and you stimulate the g spot the g spot can be really sensitive and provide some full body orgasms for your partner but it can be really tricky to find. So in the next video, I'll teach you exactly how to find the g spot every single time The G spot can be as pleasurable as it is tricky to find. And if you don't know what you're doing, it can always feel impossible to find. But once you do you know what you're doing, it is possible to find it almost every single time. I remember when I was first learning how to find the g spot with my partner, we talked about it, I said, this is something I want to explore, they wanted to explore it as well. I went in tried to find it actually took us a couple of days in order to finally find the g spot. And when we did, they had some incredible mind blowing orgasms, it was a lot of fun. But then we went back again the next day, and it was like the G spot has disappeared or moved or something like that. I couldn't find it. So it actually took us some time in order to be able to find it consistently and pleasure it consistently. So don't expect to be a G Spot Orgasm master straightaway. It does take some practice. But in this video, I'm going to show you how to locate it, how to find it every single time and how to give your partner some incredible pleasure and some incredible G Spot orgasms. So finding the g spot we want to make sure that our finger is lubricated with spit or lubrication, or using just our partner's wetness we want to go in it's only about two knuckles in and we're going to pull up onto the roof of the vagina and use a come here motion. So if I just go to knuckles in and pulling up on the roof of the vagina, we're going to be using a come here motion. Before we go into more techniques about how to feel for the G spot and how to give a G spot orgasm, it's really important to understand what the g spot is, because this is going to help you find it more consistently. The G spot isn't actually a spot per se, as we might think about it, but rather it's an area that's about two to three inches long. If we remember our anatomy of the vulva, we've got the clitoral hood or shaft leading to the head of the clitoris. Then as we come down, we're going to have the urethra, which is where our partner will be out of and then we go down to the vaginal opening. Now the urethra leads from the opening about two to three inches back to the bladder and surrounding the urethra is erectile tissue called urethral sponge. When our partners aroused this urethral sponge will expand and push down into the wall of the vagina. And that's how we stimulate it. So the g spot isn't a spot, it's actually urethral sponge, if we imagine that this paper towel here is going to be our urethral opening here. And this is the urethra leading back to the bladder over this end and surrounding it is the urethral sponge. And at the moment, our partner is not very aroused, so the sponge hasn't engorged or expanded. And we're trying to touch the g spot without our partner being aroused. Without blood flow into the area. Imagine we're going in and we're trying to reach the g spot. As you can see, it's going to be quite difficult to find we could push up and reach it, but it's not going to be very pleasurable for them because they're not fully aroused. But imagine that this is now the urethral sponge. Now that our partner is aroused. As we can see it's expanded in all directions, but also it's pushing down further into the roof of the vagina. And this is what allows us to stimulate that G spot so much easier. It's what gives the different texture as well on the roof of the vagina. And this is how we're going to give our partner G Spot orgasms. You can also see that the come here motion is stimulating the full length of the urethral sponge, we're not just focusing on one point, but rather stimulating the full length of it. So we keep all that in mind, then finding the g spot can be so much easier. Remember, we want our partner to be fully aroused, so we can't just go in and try and give them a G Spot Orgasm straight away because they're not aroused. The sponge isn't engorged and it's not going to feel as good. So we want to start by Yes, using anticipation and teasing leading up to our partner which we've already talked about stimulating and massaging the clit, even playing with the outside of their vaginal opening. And then when we slide inside, we don't want to go hard straight away. But rather we want to use a slow rhythmic massage like pressure on the roof of their vagina to begin to simulate that area to begin to bring blood flow into that area. We can keep our finger in there and just use the come here motion, we can do the finger draw which is to actually push up on the roof of the vagina. Draw our finger out, let go go back in push up, draw it out. We can also do circles with our finger pushing up on the roof of the vagina there. Or we can also push up and go side to side. Remember the goal here isn't orgasm straightaway. The goal here is to give our partner pleasure to arouse our partner and given them a great time while we are fingering them why We have our fingers inside, we can also put our palm on their clit be rubbing their clit. Or we can be squeezing our fingers together to pleasure the clitoris, that way, we could be using our other hand, just to massage it slowly. And sensually, or to touch them in other areas like their legs, or their stomach, or their chest and everything like that this is going to be a full body sensual experience to get them highly aroused and ready to receive a G spot orgasm, and ready to surrender to it. Now, when you're trying to find the g spot, it does have a ridged like texture with a lot of people. So if you get your thumb and you push it up onto the roof of your mouth, and feel how it's ridged up there and a bit bumpy, imagine something similar to that, but quite spongy in texture, and a bit ridged compared to the smoothness of the rest of the walls of the vagina. So while it's a good guide for us to help us find the right area, it's not perfect. And I wouldn't go off that feeling alone. But I'd rather go off our partner and how our partner is reacting to the feeling we can communicate with them, ask them if that feels good for them, get them to express their pleasure, when you found the spot get them to say yes, yes, that's the spot. Also, for them receiving, it may actually feel a little bit like they need to wee and so it's a mixture of I need to wee but it also feels really good. So if they do express that, Oh, I feel like I need to wee let them know and reassure them that that's normal, it's completely fine, just go with it. If however, we're inside massaging and that sensation is too much for them, what we can do is actually come out a bit more and stroke closer to the opening. And that can relieve that sensation a little bit in some people, or we can move a little bit to either side, and begin massaging there. So once we've massaged and warmed up the area, and we're feeling for that G Spot, we're going to now amp up the pressure to bring our partner to orgasm, so that massaging is really good for overall pleasure. But if you want to bring them to orgasm, you're going to apply a lot more upward force. And we're also going to begin to speed up. Now remember, babies come out of here, so it can handle quite a lot of pressure. But what you want to make sure you're not doing is actually scratching the roof of their vagina with your nails, as that can be painful. So we're keeping our finger like this, and using the soft part of our finger as we begin to stimulate the roof of their vagina. Also, if you're struggling to find it, let's say our finger is inside, and you're stroking down the middle here like down the middle of their body, what we can do is actually move our finger to one side or the other. And to try those spots of pulling from the right or maybe pulling from the left, we can also adjust our depth as well. So we can go deeper in more towards the cervix and stimulate there and see how that feels for our partner. Or we can draw further out coming back almost about a knuckle in pushing up on the roof right near the opening. And then we can move left and right there as well play around with it until your partner feels like you've found it. And now that they're fully aroused and ready to receive a G spot orgasm, I'm going to have my outside fingers up over the outer lips of their vagina, as this gives me more leverage to push up harder onto the roof of the vagina versus if my hands are down, then my finger is going to be much flatter. And you can see it's much harder to actually push up on the roof. Versus when I'm like this, I can push up on the roof. And I can get a lot more speed going. When it comes to body positioning here, I don't want to be lying down next to my partner because that's going to be hard to reach. Usually I'll have my partner in front of me with their legs either side of me. And this allows me to really reach it and direct it, I can also push their legs over my shoulders, which will actually tilt their pelvis up and shorten their vagina which allows me to both access the g spot easier without going as deep with my finger. But also it's going to provide me with more leverage. So you can try it with their legs down. You can try it with their legs over your shoulders, you can even go ahead and push their legs over their own head so that they're really tilted up and you can simulate that way and get some more leverage. So when we've got them turned on fully aroused in the right position as well. We now want to be using that same come here motion, but we want to do it a lot faster. So a lot more pressure a lot faster. You can see that my other fingers kind of involuntarily move as I do this. So when I'm inside them, you'll see that this pointer finger is kind of mimicking what's inside. I can't control that. That's just kind of happening. But it has the added benefit of I can put that over there clit I want to make sure it's really wet with spit if I'm doing that but that can actually stimulate their clit as well. As you're stimulating their G Spot. What you can do as well is actually tense your finger and tense the entirety of your arm, because what's going to happen is as you're doing this, it's going to use the muscles in your forearm as well as the tendons in your finger, they're going to get really sore really quickly. And you might need some more time to bring your partner to orgasm, and you're going to get really tired. So what we can do is actually tense our finger, tense our entire arm and start using our entire arm in order to stimulate them. So if we're inside, we're now using our entire arm, I'm keeping my finger bent, so it's still kind of coming in and out of them or massaging the length of that G spot. But it's using my entire arm in order to give that pressure and to give that strength and also the speed as well, without me getting tired. Another pro tip and you know, I always leave the best stuff. The last is that you can actually use the palm of your other hand to push down just above the mons pubis. So the mons pubis is the bone here, which is a bit squishy. And just above that below the belly button, it's going to be soft and squishy. So what we can actually do, if we're struggling to get the g spot, or if we just want to apply more pressure, so it's more intense for our partner is we can actually push down on that area, which is going to push the g spot further into the roof of the vagina, allowing us to stimulate it more. But also, it's going to subtly stimulate the g spot from the top, because remember the G spots urethral sponge surrounding the entirety of the tissue, so we can stimulate it from the top and from the bottom to really help them have orgasms. We can even rock our hand back and forth a little bit, which will rock their body, but also stimulate the g spot even more. Again, communication with your partner is key here, you need to reassure them that it's okay to let go. They might also want to communicate with you if it's too much. And you need to slow down this can be a really good example of a time to say is that too much, because they will let you know if it's kind of push them over the edge. And it is too much they can say yep, slow down. Or they can just kind of shake their head because they're in this blissful state. And you know to keep going but opening up those lines of communication so they can tell you what feels good. And when you hit the spot will really help you to find the spot more consistently. As well when you're doing this. Don't forget about the clitoris. And if you want to give them some of the most intense G spot and vaginal orgasms, then while you're simulating while you're using the full force, you also want to be using your other hand on their clit to go back and forth. This requires a decent amount of coordination and can actually be really difficult to do both those things at once I actually find it easier to use my mouth on the clit when I'm simulating the g spot as well. Or go ahead and get a toy like a vibrating toy. And what you can do is turn that on. And you can hold that on the clitoris for them while you're simulating inside. So with one hand, you're holding that with the other hand, you're fingering inside, or alternatively get them to touch themselves on their clit while you're fingering them or get them to use the toy to play with themselves as well. And then they can get a combined clitoral and G spot orgasm, which is going to absolutely blow their mind when you're doing this while an orgasm would be great to achieve. Remember that it's not the only goal, you're just trying to give your partner some incredible pleasure here. And if they don't orgasm from it, that's completely okay. Because they're going to still ride these intense waves of pleasure, they're still going to have a great time. It's also going to make them more aroused and more engaged, which is going to make intercourse feel better or can make oral sex and cunnilingus feel better as well. So while yes, we'd love to give our partner an orgasm, don't put pressure on them to orgasm. Just let them ride the waves. Let them have fun with it. And then if they don't orgasm this time, we can try again another time. You just want to make sure they're feeling good and they're feeling comfortable. Now that you know how to find and locate the g spot, you're going to learn 10 Different G Spot stroking techniques and different ways to pleasure the g spot to give your partner different sensations. Some of these pleasuring techniques will be more calming and are designed to be arousing and to bring blood flow into the area. While other techniques are more intense and are actually designed to give your partner those amazing mind blowing, full body G Spot orgasms, these techniques all require you to be able to find the g spot. So if you haven't watched that video, go ahead and check that out first. But remember, we're going to go about one to two knuckles into the vagina making sure that our fingers are wet. One to two knuckles in and pulling up on the roof of the vagina. Looking at this bottle, we go one to two knuckles in and then we're pulling up on the roof of the vagina. The first and arguably the most important G Spot stroking technique is the come here motion. So going inside the vagina and doing a come here here motion with our finger, like we're saying come here to someone. So if we go inside, and we do a come here motion, we're massaging the roof of the vagina, which is going to stimulate the g spot. Remember the g spot is urethral sponge that leads from the urethra back to the bladder. So by doing a come here here motion, we can simulate the full length of that G Spot. What's really powerful about the come here motion is that you can use it in the beginning to begin to stimulate the area and bring blood flow into the area. But also, it's powerful enough to be able to do it quite quickly and intensely in order to give your partner a full body G Spot Orgasm. Now when you're doing the come here motion, you'll want to start with one finger. Ideally, all of your partner's fully aroused, you can use two fingers, and you can do it with more fingers. But what we're going to do is go inside our partner. And there's also two different ways to put our fingers on the outside. So here you can see that my outside fingers are pointing up over the outer lips of the vagina. What this does is gives my arm more leverage and allows my finger to poke up more and to stimulate the g spot more directly. The other way is to actually put your fingers pointing down. And what this is going to do is give you more of a flat surface. When you're stimulating the g spot, it's not going to be as pointed and as intense as when our fingers are up. But it's going to be more stimulating to the overall area. And this is also the technique that you use. When it comes to squirting as well which finger you use is up to you. Most people use their pointer finger or their middle finger, I definitely prefer the middle finger just because of the finger placement on the outside. However, a pointer finger can work really well as well. If your partner is very aroused and ready for it, then you can use two fingers and put two fingers inside them and use the come here motion when your partner is fully aroused, and you've been playing for quite some time. And if you feel like they can handle the stretch, then you can actually go in with three fingers and use the come here motion pulling up with three fingers, which can also be extremely intense. For them. The comhair motion is extremely versatile, you can use it in the very beginning just to begin to warm them up. Or as we saw, we can use multiple fingers and we can make it extremely intense. To increase the intensity, you can either increase the speed that you're going out, or you can increase the pressure. So if we imagine that to begin slowly, we are just massaging slowly using the come here motion. When we want to actually bring our partner to orgasm, we can speed up by while keeping a similar pressure. Or we can say slow but adding more deeper pressure. Or we can do both and increase the speed and our pressure at the same time. As our partner gets more and more aroused. And ramping up to this increase pleasure can give them those G Spot orgasms. So if you only learn one technique, the come here motion is going to be the best one to learn. And the most powerful even when you know all the other techniques, it's still going to be the one that you use mainly. So get good at the come here motion. The second technique is a variant on the come here motion, and I call it the draw out method. So with the come here motion, we're going inside, and we're really using our finger to massage the roof of the vagina. However, with the draw out, what we're going to do is go in, we're going to push up on the roof of the vagina. And then we're actually going to draw out now how far we draw out is completely up to us and to our partner's liking. But if we push up, we can draw out while still staying in. But what this is going to do is as we draw out, it's really going to do the full length of the G spot and do this spot right here, right near the vaginal opening. So if we look on Model push up, and we come right to this spot about here, pushing up right near there. What will then do, so we've pushed up pulled out, we then release the pressure of our finger, we slide back in, push up, and then pull out again, we're not staying pushed up as we push back, because our finger now can actually catch on them. If we do that in the bottle, it's not going to catch because it's hard. But this is soft and squishy. So we're pushing up, as we actually go back, we're going to find our nail is going to catch so it's really important that we pull back, release, go back in and then push up. Again, this is a great massage technique to really bring quite a lot of blood flow into the area. However, with enough practice and skill, this can also be a technique to bring your partner to G Spot orgasms. And also to bring your partner closer to squirting orgasms. The third technique is actually doing circles on the roof of the vagina. And this is really to stimulate the area and bring blood flow into the area. I don't know if I've ever used this one in order to bring my partner to orgasm. So similar to the come here motion, we're going to go in and push up on the roof of the vagina. But instead of pulling forward and coming here, we're actually going to do a circular motion with our fingers. In order to stimulate the roof of the vagina there definitely more of a massaging technique. This one, it's actually quite hard to kind of keep a circular rhythm, if you're trying to go fast enough to bring your partner to orgasm. The fourth technique is a version of the circular one. And that's a side to side technique. So we go in instead of doing circles with our finger, we simply push up with our finger, and then we go side to side. So if we go in here, we push up, and then we're going side to side with our finger like this inside, we can do this by either going in with our finger pointing up, or we can actually enter our powder in sideways, just be careful with your nails if you're going to do this. But if we go in sideways, we're then going to kind of leverage our hand up this way. And then we're going to wiggle our finger like this, almost using the come here motion. But if we push up on the roof, and we can then go side to side, which allows us to go faster. So if we go in, we can do side to side like this with our hands. Or if we actually go to the side, and we go like this, then we can do side to side on the roof there. Again, this is something that is more in the lead up to orgasm. And coming back to the come here or the draw out motion, if I actually want to give my partner an orgasm, but it's a unique stroke to try and to see how it feels for your partner. And if they like it, and it's something great to mix in. The fifth technique is what I call the pressure pulse. So with the come here motion, we're really stroking the roof of that vagina with the pressure pulse, we're actually going to find one spot, and we're going to push and release pressure. So if we imagine that we've entered into our partner, we found the spot where the g spot is, instead of using the come here motion to draw along the length of the G spot, we find a spot and we push and release, push and release. And you can do this rhythmically with them, which can feel really good. Or you can mix this up with the come here motion. So you might want to go in, you might want to do some pressure pointing and then you might want to mix in some come here, then go back to some pressure pointing and mix it in. So all of these techniques can be done together. And mixed in the six technique is very similar to the pressure point with a slight variance, and that's the tapping poles. So with the pressure point we're pushing up, and then we're kind of pressing and release. And the most of our pressure is actually on this part of our finger. Whereas with the tapping poles, we're actually going to use all of our finger in order to tap and then we release by pushing down. So if we go inside, we kind of tap and then we release by pushing down, the pushing down will actually stimulate the perineal sponge down here as well. So tap, and then down tap, and then down. You'll notice as well with the tapping pulse that I'm actually engaging my arm, and I'm using my forearm to lift up inside my partner. So with the pressure pulse, it's much more finger based. Whereas with the tapping pulse, it's much more arm based, and we're using the entire length of our finger to apply upward and downward pressure. We can do this slowly and rhythmically, or we can go ahead and speed that up as well. While we're here as well and our arm is engaged, we can do the seven technique which is pressure point vibration. So just like when we had the pressure point, we were pressing and releasing with our finger and then we had the finger tap where we're really using the entirety of our arm. We're going to kind of combine those two, we're going to push up and have the pressure point but we're going to engage the arm and do little vibrations using the arm so rather than moving the finger like we did With pressure point, or even with tapping, we're kind of using the full length of the finger, we're going to really engage the finger here, make it tight and strong. And then using everything from our shoulder down to our forearm, we're going to go ahead and begin to shake. And what you'll see is that most of the pressure is here on the tip of my finger, but it creates a shaking and vibration, that can feel really good for our partner. Again, with this one, I'm going to have my outside fingers pointing up so that I have more leverage. Because if I have my fingers pointing down, it's really difficult to kind of apply that upward pressure on that finger, because my finger is going to have to really stretch around, which is quite hard. So if we're doing that we can't really pressure point. Instead, we want to go like this, ideally, have our partner facing us and ask between their legs when we go ahead and do this, and you can place your hand over their stomach as well and push down remember, we can access the g spot through the top there. But also, we can push the g spot further into the vagina so that we can stimulate it even more. And that also can ground our partner as we go ahead and do that technique. Number eight is the two finger draw. So when we did the come here, motion with one finger, or even if we did it with two fingers, the focus was really on simulating that full length of the G spot. However, with a two finger draw, the idea here is that rather than simulating, if we imagine this is the g spot, rather than simulating the g spot directly, we actually want to go either side of the G spot. So if we enter inside, rather than having our fingers together using the come here motion, if we imagine that G Spot is down here, we're actually going to separate our fingers. And we're simulating either side of the G spot. And so what we do put our fingers in, and then we draw out with our fingers, let go put it back in, spread them out and draw it out. So for this one, you want to make really sure that your fingers are wet you go in. And when I'm inside, I'm actually pushing my fingers apart just a little bit. And then drawing out with this technique, it can really stretch the vaginal opening. So you want to make sure that your partner is ready for this and can handle that level of stretch. Otherwise, it can be quite painful for them. To be honest, this is not a technique that I use a great deal. However, because everyone feels different, it's a great technique to have in your arsenal. And also a variation on this, rather than spreading our fingers. We can keep them together, and then go to either side of the G spot and see what feels best for our partner. So we can go in, we can push over to the left, and then we can draw out that way. Or we can go in and push over to the right and draw out that way. And sometimes you'll find that G spots, not directly down the middle, but they're more sensitive to one side or the other. And this kind of two finger draw out allows you to really find that spot. By now you should know I always try and save some of the best stuff for last. And this is by far one of the best techniques and this is the suction draw previously, we've been focusing on stimulating the g spot by massaging it or stroking it in this situation we want to go in, push it a finger all the way are and now we're actually releasing our finger and creating a suction from the top of the vagina like a pop pop pop pop. So if you imagine that you connect and then as you pull down, because of the suction, it's pulling down the roof of the vagina. For this technique, you don't really want to have your fingers pointing up, because it's really hard to create that suction, you want to have your fingers pointing down. And so using our hand we push all the way up, and then we pull down quickly, it's actually quite hard to show on this table because usually we'd actually want to be quite high above our partners while we're doing this. But if we were to go down, we're using our hand we're using our arm to lift up and then we're pulling down whilst keeping our finger straight. In order to create that suction, there is a little bit of a tilt in my finger. As I come up, I tilt it, and then as I drop down, I really release my finger. So up, down, down. And I would say along with the bread and butter come here motion, this is going to be one of the most effective techniques. And lastly, what makes this technique so effective is that if we amp up the pressure by using two fingers instead of one, and if we amp up the speed, then this can be the exact technique that we use to get our partner to squirt. It's a little difficult to show on this model just because it moves around so much when you're with an actual partner. They're going to be much more stable by using the same suction technique with two fingers as you're moving your arm quite vigorously in order to get your partner to squirt. Now you have a whole bunch of different stroking techniques that you can use to test out on your partner and to pleasure them. Remember communication is key. Watch how your partner is responding. Encourage your partner to verbalize their pleasure. So allow them to moan or to say yes or to tell you when they've hit the spot because when you're pleasuring them if they're able to make noises, they can a give feedback to you without having to directly talk to you. But as well releasing noises can send energy around the body can make their orgasms more intense, and even help bring them to orgasm. Also, don't forget that while you're using these techniques, don't ignore the clitoris. So you want to also be stimulating the clitoris at the same time. Sometimes you don't want to because it's too intense for your partner. But especially when you're in the beginning, massaging you can also massage the clitoris or as you really begin to bring your partner to orgasm. You can also apply some pressure to the hood of the clitoris or the clitoris directly, and that combination can give people orgasm. So if they're not orgasm from G Spot stimulation alone, combining the clitoris or engaging with a toy on the clitoris while you're simulating the g spot is a really great idea. So go out and try these techniques with your partner and I hope that you have a lot of fun with these ones. The a spot or the deep spot is a pleasure zone that not many people know about. And very few vulva owners have actually experienced an A spot orgasm or having their a spot stimulated. So if you're able to locate it and simulate it, you can give your partner some really unique experiences. And lucky for us, it's actually something that's really quite easy to do. This is definitely a technique that you want to do when your partner is fully aroused. And we've already talked about how to really warm them up, stimulate the vulva, how to stimulate the clitoris, also how to stimulate the g spot and get that area fully engorged. So we want to make sure that our partner is fully aroused when we're doing this, because it's quite an intense experience. You want to have them in that headspace already filled up with pleasure and ready to receive it. Now what exactly is the a spot well is the anterior spot to the cervix. So we go inside the vagina and put our finger all the way to the back, then we likely going to feel the cervix, which feels like a button shape or like a little donut. Now most people don't like having their cervix touched directly, it can feel a bit awkward or uncomfortable for them, it is possible to orgasm through stimulating the cervix. However, the a spot is anterior to or next to the cervix, we're talking upwards from the cervix or downwards from the cervix. So there's two ways you can reach it with the G spot we were going in about one to two knuckles in and pulling up with the come here motion. And using the come here motion with the a spot, what we're going to want to do is actually go all the way in remember, make sure our finger is fully wet, we want to go all the way in. And you'll notice I use my middle finger as it's the longest. But also as I go in to get deep enough, I'll tend to push my hand against their vulva and the outside of it. So I can get in as deep as possible. I'll also have my outside fingers pointing up, rather than having them pointing down in order to both get the most leverage, but also the most depth. So I want to go in, I want to locate the cervix or get as close to it as I can. And then I'm just going to pull up onto the a spot. And I'm not going to use the come here motion and actually draw on a spot, I'm just going to pressure point it. If we imagine that with our G Spot, we're using a come here motion, and we're stroking it. But with the a spot we're going all the way in, and we're just pushing up. And what we're going to do is then apply and release pressure to this area, I almost use a come here motion, but this top part of my finger doesn't move. So I'm going like this with my finger on to the a spot. But the focus here is applying that pressure to the one spot. And I'm kind of leveraging my hand down and pushing up. So you're pushing quite hard against this spot. Again, communication here is key. You want to be communicating with your partner, see how they're reacting to it, making sure that they're enjoying it, they're enjoying the pressure, and it's not too much, you might see them get really wide eyed, really shocked by the experience because they're not really sure what you're doing. The reason that a spot simulation works is those muscles around the cervix. When a vulva owner has an orgasm, those muscles actually contract during orgasm. So what you're doing is you're stimulating those muscles that contract during orgasm, and you're inducing an orgasm there. Now you can also access the a spot through the bottom wall of the vagina as well. So if we go all the way in here, you can see that I've got my fingers pointing down, we actually want to reach back as far as we can, again, pointing down, ideally find that cervix, and then push down below that and we can stimulate that area. Again, communicate with our partner, try different things, see what they like the best. Or alternatively, if your partner is open to anal play, and you know how to finger a butthole correctly, then we can actually go all the way into the anus, and we can push up on the roof of the anus much like we pushed up on the a spot going through the vagina, but we do it from the anus to actually stimulate the a spot from underneath this a spot stimulation through the anus is part of the reason why vulva owners can have such intense orgasms when having anal sex. If you want to get super creative you can actually put both fingers one inside the anus one inside the vagina pushing up with both fingers or you can flip one around and you can actually kind of massage through the a spot through the anus massaging your fingers together. Or you could simulate the a spot through the anus, stimulate the g spot with your other finger and stimulate the clit as well. Using another finger or using your tongue, and that way, you're kind of covering all the bases, that's going to be a really intense experience. So you don't want to jump straight into that. That's when they're fully aroused. Maybe when they've already had a clitoral or a G Spot Orgasm. Do you want to then step it up to this level of intensity using multiple fingers on all of the erogenous zones, that's the a spot. That's how to simulate it. It's really quite easy to do. But remember, always communicate with your partner and find out what feels best for them because it's a very unique spot and it's going to give them some pretty unique experiences and unique pleasure that they haven't felt before. So communications key on this one In this video, I want to show you the technique to give your partner an orgasm in 10 seconds or less. Yes, this is possible to go from almost no stimulation to orgasm within just 10 seconds if you're using the right techniques. Now the reason this is a bonus video is that you should have seen the techniques on how to find the g spot and finger the g spot you need to know about that you also need to know about how to find the clitoris and to stimulate the clitoris in order to successfully achieve that. So assuming that you understand where the g spot is and how to pleasure it, you understand where the clitoris is, we can move on to look at okay, how can we actually give our partner a 10 second orgasm. Now before we go into this, yes, you can do this cold. And it is possible to give partners orgasms with no lead up, no foreplay. However, as I talked about so many times when our partners aroused blood flows into the area and engorgeous it, it makes everything more pleasurable. And it also makes it easier to find the g spot find the clitoris and to give our partner orgasms. So ideally, we might want to give them a 10 second orgasm, but we might want to subtly actually warm them up before we try and do this. This can be done through romance and romantic dates, or passionate kissing and touching their body all over and kissing them before any of the clothes come off at all, or even just kind of touching around the area touching their legs, they could even have their panties on. And we're kind of touching the area, but haven't really touched them directly. So when we go into it, they'll feel like okay, we only just started touching them, and gave them an orgasm in 10 seconds, even though we could potentially be warming them up for 10, 15, 30 minutes without them even realizing. So that's going to give you a better chance to achieve the orgasm, the technique is really quite simple, what we want to do is we want to use two fingers with our partners, you can use the two point fingers, or you can use the two middle fingers, which is what I prefer, you want to make sure that you wet them with some lubrication or some spirit. And we're going to go down and we're going to put our fingers inside our partner. And I like to have my outside fingers pointing up as this is going to give me the most leverage to be able to push down and push up onto the g spot, we're going to be applying some vigorous force to the G spot in order to give our partner this orgasm so quickly. Ideally, you want to be using your strongest hand inside your partner. For this demonstration, I've got my left hand inside the model, really my right hand would be the strongest. However, the lighting doesn't really work for that. But ideally, you want to use your strongest hand inside your partner. And then what you're going to do with your other hand, is go ahead and wet your thumb and your thumb is going to go on the head of the clitoris inside with our finger, we're going to be using some pretty vigorous G Spot stimulation. Yes, we've got the come here motion, which can be really good to warm our partner up. But here what we want to be doing is actually a more vigorous stimulation while keeping our fingers tense like this. We also want to tense the entirety of our arm in order to do an up down motion. So when we're inside them, we're going to be going up and down. While we're doing that, we can also kind of bend our fingers a little bit as well. This is going to be quite vigorous, we're going to go quite vigorous, pushing up and pushing down with our hands at the same time. We've got our thumb wet, and we've got our thumb on the clitoris. Now what we want to be doing with our thumb is finding the head of the clitoris directly in order to stimulate that if your partner doesn't like direct stimulation to the head of the clitoris, if that's too much for them, then I would advise going over the hood and doing that or simulating the head of the clitoris directly with the hood covering the head. But if you want to expose the head of the clitoris, if they like that, you can actually put your hand down and push up the skin to expose the head and get your thumb on there. The movements we're going to be doing with our thumb are really soft, but really fast and small movements. So we want to be going side to side with our thumb, the small movements on the head of the clitoris or we want to be going up and down. You can try circles, but I find that I just don't have the speed in order to do that. And also this is kind of a coordination challenge because you want to do this all at the same time. So you've got your fingers inside, you've got your thumb on here and you want to vigorously stimulate them with your finger and your thumb in order to bring them to orgasm. When you're performing this. You want to have your partner lying down on their back with their legs to the side or maybe their legs bent upwards and you actually want to be between their legs and you could even have a hand over The side of their body, so you want them facing you like this. So you're actually approaching it this way, we've got the fingers inside, we've got our thumb on the clitoris, we can also push down on the top here to give ourselves some more stability. Or we can actually leave our hand free to go like this, the weight of our partner is going to hold us down. It's been hard with this model, because it bounces around. But basically, we're going to stimulate them internally vigorously, while our thumb is on their clitoris as well going fast in those small areas. If you're finding that it's too hard to be coordinated with your thumb, you can use the side of your finger as well. And you can kind of flick side to side like that, which can be easier. Or you can go ahead and use a toy on their clitoris here. And what you can do is push down with a toy while you're inside them. But what I would advise is either push down with a toy on a spot and then kind of move it side to side while you're also stimulating internally or have it really light and kind of go side to side while you're stimulating internally. And that extra vibration can be really good again, you can put it on the head of the clitoris directly. Or if that's too much for your partner, go ahead and put it on the shaft of the clitoris. And then you can move side to side pushing down with some pressure like that. So that's the 10 second orgasm, you can use it to give them an orgasm straightaway. Or you can use it as part of a full experience. So when you're stimulating them when you're fingering them or giving oral or even having intercourse towards the end when they're fully aroused, fully warmed up the bloods all in the area. They're fully engorged and now you feel like they're ready to go to orgasm. You can actually use that technique to push them over the edge and give them an incredible orgasm as part of that full experience.