







About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Touch is one of our most powerful tools for transformation. Learn how the ancient art of lingam massage can deepen your connection and revolutionize intimate experiences.
You're likely facing:
- Performance Pressure - You or your partner struggle with managing arousal levels, focusing too much on the outcome rather than the journey.
- Limited Touch Techniques - Your intimate touch repertoire feels repetitive or basic, missing opportunities for deeper pleasure and connection.
- Emotional Disconnection - Physical intimacy lacks the emotional and energetic dimensions that create truly transformative experiences.
This course teaches you step-by-step techniques to awaken sensual energy and guide it throughout the body. You'll learn precise movements that combine tantric philosophy with anatomical knowledge. By practicing these methods, you can create experiences that honor the whole person—physical, emotional, and spiritual—while developing greater control and deeper intimacy.
What You Will Learn
"Lingam massage is not just about physical pleasure—it's a sacred practice that transforms intimate connection, allowing partners to experience profound states of ecstasy and presence together."
— Jaya Shivani, Tantric Intimacy Coach
Mindful Arousal Techniques
- Arousal Management - Learn controlled breathing patterns and energy circulation methods that shift focus from performance to pleasurable sensations.
- Presence Practices - Master techniques to stay fully present during intimate touch, creating space for deeper connection beyond goal-oriented encounters.
Advanced Touch Repertoire
- Anatomically-Informed Strokes - Discover precise hand movements for different penile areas that expand pleasure potential beyond conventional techniques.
- Pressure Variations - Practice applying varying pressure levels and rhythms that create novel sensations and prevent predictable patterns.
Energetic Connection
- Energy Circulation - Learn to guide sexual energy throughout the body, transforming localized pleasure into full-body, even spiritual experiences.
- Communication Rituals - Integrate verbal and non-verbal cues that deepen emotional intimacy during physical touch.
You'll transform ordinary intimate encounters into sacred experiences that honor the whole person, creating deeper connection while releasing performance pressure.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. About the Course
- 2. Preparation for the Sensual Massage
- 3. Beginning the Massage
- 4. Awakening Sensuality
- 5. Guiding Energy to the Lingam
- 6. Lingam Heart Connection
- 7. Activating Thighs and Perineum
- 8. Warm Up the Lingam
- 9. Lingam l
- 10. Testicles
- 11. Lingam ll
- 12. Head of the Lingam
- 13. Stronger Massage Techniques
- 14. Soothing Techniques (Making Pauses)
- 15. Lingam lll
- 16. Head of the Lingam Variations
- 17. Closing
- 18. Full Lingam Massage
- 19. Audio Guide
- 20. FAQ
Your Instructor

Jaya Shivani
Sensuality Educator
Jaya Shivani is a conscious sexuality and relationship coach specializing in transformative intimate touch techniques. With extensive training in both precise anatomical knowledge and tantric philosophy, she has guided thousands of students across 100+ countries through her popular massage courses, including her signature program on lingam massage.
Jaya's journey began when she experienced firsthand the disconnect between conventional teachings about our bodies and what actually creates fulfilling intimate experiences. This realization sparked her mission to develop an approach that honors both physical and energetic dimensions of touch. Through her own exploration, she discovered how sacred touch could transcend ordinary pleasure to become a pathway for deep emotional connection and personal transformation.
Jaya's teaching uniquely blends technical precision with spiritual depth, making complex tantric concepts accessible for everyday practice. She creates a judgment-free space where students learn to approach the body as "an instrument to experience sacredness through heightened senses," emphasizing consent, communication, and conscious connection in every technique she shares.
Course FAQ
Not at all! Jaya Shivani designed this course to be accessible for complete beginners while still offering depth for those with some tantric experience. The techniques are broken down into clear, step-by-step instructions that anyone can follow, regardless of your background with intimate massage or tantra. You'll build confidence gradually as you progress through the practice sessions.
Jaya provides specific conversation starters and framing techniques in the course that help present lingam massage as a gift of connection rather than a critique of current intimacy. Many students find that simply sharing what intrigued them about the practice—the potential for deeper connection and expanded pleasure—creates natural curiosity. Remember, this practice is about honoring each other, and that respectful intention typically makes the conversation much easier.
While the techniques are ultimately designed for partner practice, you can absolutely take this course solo first. Many students prefer learning the concepts and visualizing the techniques privately before sharing them with a partner. This approach can actually increase your confidence when you eventually introduce the practices. When you're ready to involve your partner, the course includes a section specifically on how to guide them through the experience.
Many couples report feeling a noticeable shift in their connection after just one complete lingam massage session using these techniques. The mindful presence and focused attention create immediate feelings of being truly seen and honored. That said, the deeper benefits—like enhanced energy circulation, increased arousal control, and profound emotional intimacy—typically develop over 3-4 practice sessions as you both become more comfortable with the techniques.
Unlike generic techniques that focus solely on physical stimulation, Jaya's approach integrates authentic tantric philosophy with precise anatomical knowledge. This course teaches the crucial energetic and emotional dimensions that transform a simple massage into a deeply connective experience. You're not just learning where to touch, but how to create a container of presence and reverence that allows for true vulnerability and expanded states of pleasure.
Absolutely! Managing arousal is a central component of this course, not an afterthought. Jaya teaches specific breathing techniques and energy circulation methods that help extend pleasure while preventing quick escalation to climax. Many students report this as one of the most valuable aspects of the course, as it transforms what might have been performance anxiety into an opportunity for discovering new dimensions of pleasure and connection.
The beauty of these techniques is their flexibility—you don't need to set aside hours for a full ritual every time (though occasionally that's wonderful!). The course includes a section specifically on incorporating elements of lingam massage into everyday intimacy, from quick 5-minute connection practices to suggestions for weaving specific techniques into your existing repertoire. You'll learn how to adapt the core principles to match your energy levels, available time, and relationship needs.
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