About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Tantric massage can be transformative for queer bodies, yet traditional approaches often fail to honor gender diversity and unique needs in intimate touch.
You're likely facing:
- Misgendered Touch - You feel unseen or uncomfortable when partners make gendered assumptions about your body and preferences.
- Limited Connection - Traditional sexual scripts prevent you from experiencing the full depth of pleasure your body is capable of.
- Body Disconnection - Past experiences or dysphoria create barriers to fully inhabiting and celebrating your erotic body.
This course teaches you breath-centered techniques tailored for queer and gender-diverse bodies. You'll learn communication practices that honor individual identities and boundaries. Through Barbara's "20-Minute Tantra" protocols, you'll discover how to transform touch into a meditative, energy-based practice that can lead to expanded states of pleasure and connection.
What You Will Learn
"Tantric massage becomes a gateway to experiencing profound pleasure and connection when we honor the unique beauty and needs of every queer body."
— Barbara Carrellas, Tantra Educator & Author
Gender-Affirming Touch Techniques
- Body-Neutral Language - Master communication that celebrates bodies without assuming gender, creating space for authentic pleasure without misgendering.
- Individualized Touch Mapping - Develop personalized approaches to touch that honor your partner's unique relationship with their body and preferences.
Breath & Energy Practices
- Conscious Breath Connection - Learn to synchronize breath with touch, creating deeper presence and expanded sensations beyond traditional pleasure pathways.
- "20-Minute Tantra" Protocol - Master a quick but powerful daily practice that builds intimate connection and expands your capacity for pleasure.
Embodiment & Celebration
- Body Reconnection Rituals - Practice gentle techniques to overcome dysphoria and past experiences, reclaiming your body as a source of joy.
- Energy Orgasm Techniques - Discover how to experience pleasure beyond physical touch, creating transformative sensations throughout your entire being.
By course completion, you'll transform intimate touch into a meditative, affirming experience that honors your authentic self while deepening connection with partners.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Welcome to This Course
- 2. Introducing Xena & Rowan
- 3. Communication Is Key
- 4. Genital Embryology
- 5. Xena
- 6. Rowan
- 7. Closing Words
Your Instructor
Barbara Carrellas
Author & Sexologist
Barbara Carrellas is an AASECT-certified sex educator and creator of Urban Tantra®, a methodology now taught worldwide and translated into multiple languages. As the author of "Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century" with over 15,000 Goodreads ratings, she's been recognized as "Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader" by Time Out/NY Magazine.
Barbara's path to tantric mastery began unexpectedly during the AIDS crisis of the 1980s, when as a Broadway producer, she sought to create safer paths to ecstasy that transcended traditional genital connection. This urgent need to find alternative expressions of intimacy led her to develop techniques specifically honoring diverse bodies and identities. Her own journey from theatrical stages to tantric teaching informs her unique ability to make sacred sexuality accessible to everyone, regardless of gender or orientation.
Barbara combines theatrical flair with trauma-informed practices to create memorable, transformative learning experiences. Her revolutionary "20-Minute Tantra" protocols are designed for busy modern lives, teaching breath and energy techniques that expand pleasure beyond conventional boundaries. She specializes in demystifying complex practices through clear instruction and body-neutral language that honors individual experiences.
Course FAQ
Not at all! Barbara designed this course specifically for beginners and experienced practitioners alike. The "20-Minute Tantra" protocol starts with foundational techniques that anyone can learn, regardless of your previous exposure to tantric practices. You'll receive clear, step-by-step guidance that makes these powerful techniques accessible to everyone.
Barbara's approach is uniquely sensitive to this concern. The course includes specific Body Reconnection Rituals designed to gently navigate dysphoria, allowing you to engage with practices at your own pace and comfort level. You'll learn breath-centered techniques that can create pleasure without triggering disconnection, and the body-neutral language throughout the course creates space for your authentic experience.
While having a partner to practice with can enhance your experience, this course offers substantial value for solo practitioners. Many of the breath and energy techniques can be self-applied, and the body reconnection rituals are particularly powerful as personal practices. When you do connect with a partner, you'll bring a deeper understanding of your own pleasure and clearer communication skills.
Many students report feeling more embodied and present after implementing just the breath practices from the first session. The "20-Minute Tantra" protocol is designed to create noticeable shifts in your connection to pleasure within 1-2 weeks of regular practice. That said, the deeper transformative benefits of tantric massage tend to unfold gradually as you become more comfortable with the techniques.
Unlike conventional massage that focuses primarily on physical sensation, Barbara's approach centers on energy cultivation, breath connection, and honoring the unique beauty of queer bodies. This course specifically addresses the misgendering that often happens in traditional tantric instruction and replaces it with body-neutral language and individualized touch mapping. The result is a practice that's both deeply affirming and potentially transcendent in ways conventional techniques rarely achieve.
Absolutely! Barbara presents these techniques in a way that honors both those who connect with the spiritual dimensions of tantra and those who prefer a more practical approach. The course focuses on tangible techniques and observable experiences rather than requiring specific spiritual beliefs. You'll both be able to engage with the practices in ways that feel authentic to your personal perspectives.
This course actually shines in exactly this situation. The Individualized Touch Mapping techniques will give you specific tools to honor each person's unique relationship with their body without assumptions. Barbara's emphasis on communication practices ensures you'll learn how to discuss preferences and boundaries in ways that create safety and excitement for both of you, regardless of your different body experiences.
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