







About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Erotic spanking can transform ordinary intimacy into electrifying connection, but only when done with intention and skill. Most couples miss the profound potential of this playful practice.
You're likely facing:
- Uncertainty About Boundaries - You're curious about spanking but worried about crossing lines or causing discomfort without proper communication.
- Limited Technical Knowledge - You've tried playful spanks but lack the variety of techniques that create different pleasurable sensations.
- Difficulty Staying Present - You struggle to read your partner's subtle cues, missing opportunities to adjust intensity for maximum enjoyment.
This course teaches you the RBDSMA framework for establishing consent and boundaries before any exploration begins. You'll master 11+ hand techniques that create diverse sensations from gentle warmth to intense pleasure. Eric's Threshold Mapping method helps you understand your partner's unique comfort zones, potentially transforming simple physical play into profound emotional connection.
What You Will Learn
"Erotic spanking creates a unique blend of vulnerability and trust that can deepen your connection in ways ordinary intimacy simply can't match."
— Eric Osterlund, Intimacy Coach
Establishing Clear Boundaries
- RBDSMA Communication Framework - Master a structured approach to discuss desires, boundaries and consent before any exploration begins.
- Safe Word Implementation - Create a reliable system that builds mutual trust and ensures both partners remain comfortable throughout play.
Technical Mastery
- 11+ Hand Techniques - Develop a diverse repertoire of spanking methods that create sensations ranging from gentle warmth to intense pleasure.
- Body Positioning - Discover optimal positions that maximize comfort, accessibility and sensation for both the giver and receiver.
Emotional Attunement
- Threshold Mapping Method - Learn to read subtle physical cues that reveal your partner's unique comfort zones and pleasure thresholds.
- Intensity Progression - Master the art of gradually building sensation to create anticipation and heighten arousal without overwhelming.
You'll transform playful spanking into a powerful tool for physical pleasure and emotional intimacy, confidently exploring this practice with clear communication and skilled technique.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Welcome to Spanking for Beginners
- 2. RBDSMA Conversation
- 3. Safe Words & Gestures
- 4. Presence
- 5. Threshold
- 6. Positioning
- 7. Hand Techniques
- 8. Hand Techniques on Bum
- 9. Toys Overview
- 10. Toys Integration
- 11. Intro to Full Demo
- 12. Full Demo
- 13. Bonus: Sound
- 14. Bonus: Speed & Intensity
Your Instructor

Eric Osterlund
Sex & Tantra Educator
Known widely as Tantric Eric, he's a pioneering intimacy coach who blends ancient Tantra with Caribbean shamanic traditions to create transformative experiences. His innovative "Threshold Mapping" method has helped over 100 individuals navigate comfort zones during erotic exploration, with his expertise featured on RTL+'s "Stranger Sins" reality series.
Eric's journey into the world of conscious intimacy wasn't conventional. While studying various bodywork traditions, he discovered that playful practices like spanking could serve as profound gateways to deeper connection when approached with the right intention. What began as curiosity evolved into a mission to destigmatize these practices, showing couples how something seemingly simple could become transformative when infused with presence and communication.
Eric's signature approach seamlessly weaves playfulness with spiritual depth, making even nervous beginners feel at ease with topics others find intimidating. Through his RBDSMA framework and Threshold Mapping method, he transforms what could be merely physical into experiences of authentic connection, focusing equally on technique, communication, and the subtle art of reading a partner's responses.
Course FAQ
Absolutely! This course is specifically designed with true beginners in mind. Eric built the curriculum to start with foundational concepts like the RBDSMA Communication Framework before gradually introducing techniques. You'll progress at a comfortable pace from gentle warm-up exercises to more advanced methods, with clear guidance on reading responses every step of the way.
The course includes a specific module on initiating these conversations using the RBDSMA framework, which helps make these discussions feel natural rather than awkward. Eric provides actual dialogue examples and conversation starters that frame erotic spanking as an exploration of trust and sensation rather than just physical play. Many couples find watching selected course sections together can ease this introduction.
While you can certainly benefit from taking the course solo, the practical exercises are designed for partnered exploration. The Threshold Mapping method and technique practice are most effective when applied with a partner. That said, many students learn the content independently first, then share specific sections with their partner when ready to practice together.
Many couples report feeling an immediate shift in their connection after implementing the RBDSMA communication framework alone, even before trying the physical techniques. The vulnerability and trust created through this practice often translate to deeper intimacy within the first few practice sessions. The technical skills typically develop over 3-5 practice sessions as you become more attuned to your partner's responses.
Eric's Threshold Mapping method is what truly sets this course apart. While other resources might teach basic techniques, Eric's approach focuses equally on communication, technique, AND the crucial skill of reading subtle physical responses. This balanced framework transforms spanking from a merely physical act into an intimate dialogue between partners, creating connection that extends far beyond the bedroom.
This concern is exactly why proper education is essential, and safety is the foundation of Eric's entire approach. The course thoroughly covers safe zones for impact, proper technique to prevent injury, and the critical Safe Word Implementation system. When practiced with the knowledge and communication skills taught in this course, erotic spanking can be both safe and deeply pleasurable for both partners.
Definitely! Many couples try basic spanking without understanding the variety of sensations possible through different techniques and progression patterns. The 11+ hand techniques you'll learn create dramatically different experiences, from gentle arousing warmth to intense pleasure. Eric's Intensity Progression method also teaches the art of building anticipation, which is often the missing element when couples find spanking underwhelming.
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