About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Mismatched desire can turn your bedroom into a battleground of frustration and rejection. Learn how to transform these differences into opportunities for deeper connection and playful intimacy.
You're likely facing:
- The Pursuer-Avoider Trap - One partner constantly initiates while the other withdraws, creating a cycle of pressure and rejection that widens your desire gap.
- Confusion About Desire vs. Drive - You're mistaking thinking about sex (desire) with motivation to act on it (drive), leading to frustration and misunderstanding.
- External Stressors Killing Intimacy - Job stress, family responsibilities, and life changes are silently sabotaging your bedroom connection without you realizing it.
This course teaches you how to identify your unique sexual profiles and communicate effectively about intimate needs. You'll learn practical techniques like sensate focus therapy to rebuild physical connection without pressure. By reframing sex as play rather than obligation, you'll discover how setting boundaries can actually increase desire and transform frustration into joyful connection.
What You Will Learn
"Understanding your unique desire patterns allows you to transform differences from sources of conflict into opportunities for deeper intimacy and playful connection."
— Sabrina Baldini, Intimacy Coach
Breaking the Desire-Disconnect Cycle
- Pursuer-Avoider Pattern Recognition - Identify your role in this common dynamic and learn practical steps to break free from this frustrating cycle.
- Desire vs. Drive Differentiation - Understand the crucial difference between wanting sex and being motivated to initiate it to reduce misunderstandings.
Communication & Connection Techniques
- Boundary Expression Skills - Learn to communicate limits in ways that actually increase desire rather than shut down intimacy.
- Stress-Impact Assessment - Identify how specific external pressures affect your intimacy and develop targeted strategies to protect your connection.
Practical Intimacy Rebuilding
- Sensate Focus Practice - Master this therapeutic technique to rebuild physical connection without performance pressure or expectations.
- Playful Intimacy Creation - Transform obligation into opportunity with specific activities that reframe sex as joyful exploration rather than duty.
You'll transform your mismatched desires into a customized intimacy approach that honors both partners' needs while creating more playful, pressure-free connections.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Sex Drive Mismatch Introduction
- 2. Sexuality on a Lifespan
- 3. Sex Ed and Your Lifespan
- 4. The Difference Between Desire and Drive
- 5. Pursuer – Withdrawer Dynamic
- 6. Attachment vs Differentiation of Self
- 7. Human Response Models
- 8. Sensate Focus and Boundaries
- 9. Sex Is Play
- 10. Complimentary Activity
Your Instructor
Sabrina Baldini
Sex Coach
Sabrina Baldini holds an advanced degree in Sexual Health and Rehabilitative Medicine from the University of Alberta, with specialized training from the University of Guelph and the Kinsey Institute. For over a decade, she's transformed how couples navigate desire discrepancies through her revolutionary "Sex Is Play" methodology, helping thousands move beyond frustration into meaningful connection.
Sabrina's passion for addressing desire mismatches emerged from witnessing how this silent struggle undermines otherwise loving relationships. Through her work with couples, she recognized that the bedroom was becoming a battleground rather than a sanctuary. This realization drove her to develop techniques that shift the conversation from "who wants more" to "how we can play together," transforming her approach to intimacy education and inspiring her chart-topping "After Sex Ed" podcast.
Sabrina's trauma-informed counseling integrates practical somatic exercises with Sensate Focus techniques, making complex attachment dynamics accessible to everyone. Rather than focusing on "fixing" the lower-desire partner, she guides couples through understanding their unique sexual profiles and communication patterns, effectively transforming desire differences from relationship stressors into opportunities for deeper intimacy.
Course FAQ
Not at all! This course is designed for couples at any experience level who are facing desire mismatches. Sabrina guides you step-by-step through understanding your desire patterns and implementing practical techniques like sensate focus therapy. Whether you're new to discussing intimacy or have tried other approaches before, the content is accessible and immediately applicable.
The course specifically addresses this common challenge by providing gentle conversation starters and low-pressure approaches. Sabrina teaches you how to introduce concepts like boundary expression in ways that feel safe rather than accusatory. You'll learn how to start with small, individual changes that can shift the dynamic even before your partner fully engages with the process.
While having both partners participate creates the fastest transformation, this course is designed to be effective even if only one of you takes it initially. You'll learn techniques to recognize your role in the pursuer-avoider dynamic and how to adjust your approach independently. Many students report that their individual changes often inspire their partners to become curious and eventually participate.
Many couples notice shifts in their communication patterns within the first week of implementing the boundary expression skills and pursuer-avoider recognition tools. The sensate focus practice typically begins creating noticeable changes in physical comfort and connection after 2-3 sessions. Remember that rebuilding intimacy is a process—the course provides both immediate relief strategies and longer-term transformation approaches.
Unlike generic advice that treats all desire mismatches the same, this course helps you identify your specific pattern and customize solutions to your unique situation. Sabrina's approach focuses on the often-overlooked difference between desire and drive, addressing the root causes rather than just symptoms. The course also uniquely combines therapeutic techniques like sensate focus with playful reconnection activities that remove pressure while rebuilding intimacy.
The Stress-Impact Assessment tool you'll learn is specifically designed for long-term application during different life phases. You'll develop a personalized "intimacy protection plan" that anticipates common stressors and includes pre-planned responses. Unlike one-size-fits-all approaches, Sabrina's method teaches you how to continuously adapt your strategies as your relationship and circumstances evolve.
This course acknowledges the important role physical factors can play while focusing on the aspects you can directly control—communication, expectations, and interaction patterns. The sensate focus practice is particularly helpful for couples navigating physical changes as it rebuilds connection without performance pressure. Many students find that addressing the emotional and communication aspects actually helps them better manage the impact of physical changes.
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