About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Rough sex requires more than physical intensity—it demands clear communication, mutual understanding, and proper technique to be both thrilling and safe.
You're likely facing:
- Misaligned Expectations - "Rough sex" means different things to different people, leading to confusion and potentially uncomfortable situations.
- Safety Concerns - You're unsure how to differentiate between pleasurable pain and actual injury when exploring intense sensations.
- Communication Hesitation - You struggle to clearly express your desires or boundaries before, during, and after rough encounters.
This course teaches you practical techniques for spanking, choking, and restraint with a focus on safety and consent. You'll learn how to communicate effectively about desires and boundaries, scale intensity appropriately, and provide proper aftercare. These skills help create deeply satisfying experiences where both partners feel safe, respected, and fulfilled.
What You Will Learn
"Rough sex isn't about aggression—it's about creating intense pleasure through controlled intensity, where both partners feel safe and deeply satisfied."
— Luna Matatas, Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach
Safety & Communication Foundations
- Clear Boundary Setting - Master the art of expressing desires and limits before, during, and after rough encounters, preventing misunderstandings and discomfort.
- Consent Framework - Learn practical check-in methods and safe words that ensure both partners remain comfortable and engaged throughout intense play.
Physical Techniques & Best Practices
- Safe Restraint Methods - Discover proper hand positioning and pressure techniques for restraining that maximize pleasure while minimizing injury risk.
- Controlled Impact Play - Master the anatomy of safe spanking, including target areas, intensity scaling, and reading physical responses.
Emotional Intelligence & Aftercare
- Intensity Management - Develop skills to gradually scale roughness, recognizing the difference between pleasurable intensity and potential harm.
- Proper Aftercare Techniques - Learn essential physical and emotional support practices that strengthen trust and process intense experiences together.
By course completion, you'll confidently create rough sex experiences where both partners feel simultaneously wild and safe, with clear communication becoming as natural as physical technique.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Welcome to Rough Sex
- 2. Myths Around Rough Sex
- 3. Exploring Feelings and Respecting Boundaries
- 4. Consent and Safety
- 5. Techniques for Rough Sex
- 6. Tips and Techniques
Your Instructor
Luna Matatas
Sex & Pleasure Educator
Luna Matatas is a seasoned sex educator with over 15 years of experience specializing in rough sex safety and trauma-informed pleasure practices. Her expertise in teaching kinky techniques with a focus on consent and communication has transformed thousands of intimate relationships, making complex sexual concepts both accessible and empowering.
Luna's journey began when she recognized a critical gap in traditional sex education—it rarely addressed pleasure, power dynamics, or the politics of desire. This revelation inspired her to develop frameworks like "Meditate Medicate Masturbate®" that blend activism with practical pleasure education. Through her own exploration of rough play, she discovered how proper technique and clear boundaries could transform potentially risky activities into profoundly connecting experiences.
Luna's teaching style combines disarming humor with practical wisdom to create judgment-free learning environments where curiosity is celebrated, not shamed. She breaks down complex techniques into manageable steps while emphasizing the emotional intelligence behind rough play—balancing physical skills with the communication frameworks essential for both safety and pleasure.
Course FAQ
Absolutely! This course is specifically designed to welcome beginners while providing valuable insights for those with some experience. Luna breaks down every technique with clear, step-by-step instruction focusing on fundamentals first, so you never feel thrown into the deep end. The safety frameworks taught are actually extra beneficial for beginners, giving you confidence to explore gradually at your own pace.
Luna dedicates an entire section to communication strategies for exactly this situation. You'll learn non-threatening ways to open conversations about desires, specific language that reduces awkwardness, and techniques for starting small to build trust. The course includes practical scripts and conversation starters that help ease both of you into discussions about exploring rougher play together.
While having a partner helps practice certain techniques, you can absolutely take this course solo. Many students take it independently first to build their knowledge and confidence before discussing with a partner. The communication frameworks and safety principles are valuable learning regardless, and Luna provides guidance on how to eventually introduce these concepts when you're ready to share.
Most couples find they can begin implementing the communication frameworks and simpler physical techniques immediately after completing the course. The more advanced restraint methods and impact play typically take 2-3 practice sessions to feel natural. Luna emphasizes that progression should happen at a pace that feels comfortable for both partners, with some techniques naturally taking longer to master than others.
Unlike many kink resources that focus primarily on technique, Luna's approach centers on the intersection of pleasure, safety, and emotional intelligence. The course is uniquely balanced between practical skills and relationship dynamics, with specific attention to aftercare—something often overlooked. You're getting expertise from an educator who specializes in making "edgier" content accessible without watering down the educational value.
That awkwardness is exactly what Luna addresses! The course breaks down common rough sex "flow killers" like hesitation during technique transitions, uncertainty about pressure levels, and mid-action confusion. You'll learn specific techniques for maintaining intensity while checking in with your partner, and how to recover smoothly from moments that don't go as planned. Many students report this aspect alone transformed their confidence.
You don't need any specialized equipment to benefit from this course. Luna focuses on techniques using just your hands and body, making everything immediately applicable without purchases. For those interested in expanding further, there's an optional section covering basic items you might consider in the future, but these are supplementary rather than required for implementing what you'll learn.
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