About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Falling for someone while in a committed relationship can trigger overwhelming emotions and confusion. This course provides clarity during one of life's most turbulent emotional crossroads.
You're likely facing:
- Emotional Chaos - You're experiencing a whirlwind of conflicting emotions—euphoria, guilt, excitement, and anxiety—all competing for attention.
- Decision Paralysis - You feel trapped between following your new feelings or honoring your existing relationship, unsure which path to choose.
- Isolation & Judgment - Fear of criticism prevents you from discussing these feelings, leaving you to process complex emotions alone.
This course teaches you to differentiate between infatuation and genuine love using Melanie's Self-Coaching Model. You'll learn to evaluate your current relationship honestly, understand the biological basis of attraction, and make decisions aligned with your authentic needs. With these tools, you can transform this crisis into an opportunity for profound personal growth.
What You Will Learn
"This emotional crisis can become your greatest opportunity for growth when you honestly examine what these new feelings are revealing about your needs and desires."
— Melanie Mittermaier, Relationship Coach
Emotional Clarity & Self-Understanding
- The Self-Coaching Model - Learn my proven framework to sort through conflicting emotions and uncover what your feelings are truly telling you.
- Infatuation vs. Genuine Love - Identify key differences between temporary attraction and deeper connection to avoid making decisions based on fleeting emotions.
Relationship Assessment Tools
- Current Relationship Evaluation - Discover objective methods to assess your existing partnership's health beyond the fog of new feelings.
- Needs Inventory Exercise - Identify your authentic relationship needs and determine which are being met and which remain unfulfilled.
Decision-Making & Communication
- Ethical Decision Framework - Apply a step-by-step process to make choices aligned with your values while minimizing harm to all involved.
- Difficult Conversation Blueprint - Learn how to discuss these complex feelings with partners in ways that foster understanding rather than defensiveness.
By course completion, you'll navigate this emotional crossroads with clarity and purpose, transforming potential relationship crisis into an opportunity for authentic growth and alignment.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Welcome to Loving Another
- 2. Is It Just a Crush or Is It Love?
- 3. Cheating
- 4. Online-Dating & Availability
- 5. The Self-Coaching Model
- 6. Meaning & Reasons
- 7. The 4 Phases Model
- 8. Brain Science & Cheating
- 9. A New Love
- 10. Feelings of Guilt & Inner Conflict
- 11. Evaluation
- 12. 6 Human Needs
- 13. Love / Desire / False Pleasure
- 14. Making a Decision
- 15. Advantages of Foreign Love
- 16. Confess or Not?
- 17. Condemnation
- 18. What’s the Worst-Case Scenario?
- 19. Kids
- 20. Wheel of Life & Relationship Wheel
- 21. Goals
- 22. Stay or Leave?
- 23. When Is It Better to Break Up?
- 24. Break-Up
- 25. Relationship Models
- 26. Polyamory as an Excuse
- 27. Pain & Heartache
- 28. Honesty
Your Instructor
Melanie Mittermaier
Relationship Coach
Melanie Mittermaier is a pioneering "Affairs Manager" and relationship coach with over a decade of experience guiding couples through emotional crossroads. Her unique crisis-to-growth framework has helped countless partners navigate attraction outside their relationships, transforming potential relationship-ending situations into opportunities for deeper connection.
Melanie's journey began when she observed how traditional advice about infidelity often led to unnecessary breakups. She noticed that behind every outside attraction lies crucial information about unmet needs—insights that could actually strengthen partnerships. This realization inspired her to develop an approach that replaces judgment with understanding, creating space for authentic communication even in relationship crises.
Through her Self-Coaching Model, Melanie helps students distinguish between infatuation and genuine connection while providing practical tools for honest relationship evaluation. Her approach uniquely balances compassion for both the person experiencing new feelings and their partner, focusing on transforming emotional turbulence into valuable self-knowledge rather than prescribing specific outcomes.
Course FAQ
This course is valuable for all levels of emotional attachment to someone outside your relationship. Melanie's Self-Coaching Model helps you understand what even a minor crush might be signaling about your current relationship, while providing crucial guidance if you're experiencing deeper feelings. The earlier you explore these emotions with the right tools, the better equipped you'll be to respond consciously rather than reactively.
The Ethical Decision Framework you'll learn is specifically designed to prevent impulsive choices by guiding you through a structured evaluation process. You'll practice distinguishing between infatuation and genuine connection, assess your current relationship objectively, and identify your authentic needs before making any decisions. The course emphasizes reflection and self-understanding rather than rushing toward any particular outcome.
This is entirely your decision and depends on your relationship's communication style. Some find that working through the course privately first helps them gain clarity before initiating difficult conversations. The Difficult Conversation Blueprint taught in the course will prepare you for productive disclosure if and when you choose to share. Remember that developing self-understanding is a valid personal journey, regardless of when you involve your partner.
While everyone's emotional journey differs, most students report experiencing significant clarity after completing the Self-Coaching Model and Relationship Evaluation sections—approximately midway through the course. The complete framework provides a roadmap you can revisit as your feelings evolve. This isn't about finding quick answers but developing lasting tools to navigate complex emotional territory with confidence.
Unlike friends who may offer biased opinions or simplistic advice, Melanie's methodology provides structured tools specifically designed for this relationship crossroads. Her Self-Coaching Model combines psychological principles with practical exercises that help you distinguish between projection and reality. While therapy is valuable, this course offers focused, accessible guidance for this specific situation without judgment or waiting for appointments.
Absolutely. While the course is primarily designed for those experiencing feelings for another person, the relationship assessment tools and communication frameworks are equally valuable for the affected partner. You'll gain insight into relationship dynamics that may have contributed to the situation and learn how to engage in constructive conversations rather than reactive confrontations. Many couples have actually worked through the material together as a way to strengthen their relationship.
Neither. This course is intentionally designed to be non-prescriptive about outcomes. Instead of pushing you in any direction, Melanie's approach helps you discover what these feelings reveal about your authentic needs and values. The goal is to help you make a conscious choice aligned with your true self, whether that means recommitting to your current relationship with new understanding, mindfully transitioning to a new chapter, or something else entirely.
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