About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Stored tension in your body creates barriers to intimacy. De-armouring removes these blocks, allowing for deeper connection through intentional touch.
You're likely facing:
- Emotional Barriers - Past experiences have created physical tension that blocks intimacy, preventing true vulnerability with your partner.
- Disconnection During Intimacy - Even during closeness, you feel a sense of holding back, unable to fully surrender to pleasure and connection.
- Limited Tools for Healing - You lack effective techniques to help your partner release stored emotions and physical tension safely.
This course teaches you how to create a safe space for vulnerability through intentional touch. You'll learn specific de-armouring techniques to release tension patterns that block intimacy. By practicing these methods, couples often experience deeper emotional connection, more relaxed physical intimacy, and renewed trust in their relationship.
What You Will Learn
"De-armouring creates a safe space for vulnerability, allowing partners to release stored tension and emotional blocks that prevent deep, authentic connection."
— De'an Matuka, De-armouring Specialist
Creating a Safe Healing Space
- Trust-Building Techniques - Establish emotional safety through specific communication practices that encourage vulnerability and openness.
- Consent & Boundary Protocols - Learn structured approaches to respecting limits while creating space for release of stored emotions and tension.
Physical De-armouring Methods
- Targeted Pressure Techniques - Apply precise touch to release specific tension patterns in your partner's body, unlocking greater physical freedom.
- Progressive Release Sequences - Guide your partner through gradual tension dissolution using rhythmic, responsive touch patterns.
Emotional Integration
- Emotional Release Support - Develop skills to compassionately hold space when your partner experiences emotional release during physical de-armouring.
- Post-Session Connection - Learn how to maintain and deepen the new emotional openness achieved through your de-armouring practice.
By the end of this course, you'll confidently facilitate healing touch sessions that dissolve physical tension patterns, allowing both partners to experience deeper intimacy and connection.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Introduction to Couples De-Armouring
- 2. Importance of Intimacy
- 3. What is Sympathy vs. Empathy
- 4. The Importance of Working From the Heart
- 5. How to Use Talk Therapy to Connect
- 6. Setting Up Your Space
- 7. The Importance of Body Posture and Body Contact
- 8. Opening the Spine
- 9. Sensitizing Fingers and Working With Universal Energy
- 10. Working With the Elements
- 11. Connecting Energy Lines in De-Armouring
- 12. Sushumna Demonstration
- 13. Protection from Negative Energy
- 14. I Am Presence
- 15. Prayer During Session
Your Instructor
De'an Matuka
Dearmouring Practitioner & Healer
As the pioneering co-founder of Dearmouring Arts, De'an Matuka has spent over a decade developing his signature Pain Body Release System, which combines Wilhelm Reich's body armor theory with traditional Tantric practices and modern somatic therapy. His trauma-informed approach to releasing physical tension has made him a sought-after instructor at major festivals and retreats worldwide.
De'an's journey into de-armouring began when he discovered the profound connection between stored trauma and physical tension in his own body. "The body remembers what the mind tries to forget" became his guiding truth as he experienced firsthand how intentional touch could dissolve emotional barriers he'd carried for years. This personal transformation inspired him to develop accessible techniques that help couples break through intimacy blocks that other modalities couldn't address.
De'an's teaching methodology uniquely balances "soft" invitational techniques with "deep" intensive work, always prioritizing ethical, consent-based touch. His warm, grounded style creates a safe container for exploring vulnerable territory, making profound somatic healing accessible to everyone—not just healing professionals. This course shares techniques previously available only in his exclusive in-person trainings.
Course FAQ
Not at all! De'an designed this course specifically for beginners with no prior experience. You'll start with foundational techniques and gradually build your confidence with clear demonstrations and step-by-step guidance. Even if you've never practiced intentional touch work before, the course provides all the tools you need to create meaningful experiences.
Many couples notice subtle shifts in their connection after just one thoughtful de-armouring session, particularly in how safe they feel being vulnerable together. The most significant benefits develop over time as you regularly practice the techniques and build upon your experiences. Consistency is key – even short weekly sessions over 1-2 months can lead to remarkable transformations in physical and emotional intimacy.
While it's ideal if both partners take the course together, just one partner learning these techniques can still create powerful shifts in your relationship. The course includes specific guidance on how to introduce de-armouring concepts to a partner who hasn't taken the course. You'll learn how to clearly communicate what you're offering, establish consent, and create a comfortable experience that respects their boundaries.
Unlike regular massage which focuses primarily on relaxing muscles, de-armouring addresses both physical and emotional tension patterns that have built up over time. De'an's approach is unique in how it combines specific pressure techniques with emotional awareness, creating a container for release that goes beyond physical relaxation. The course teaches you to recognize tension patterns, facilitate emotional release, and support integration – skills that transform touch into a healing experience.
The course specifically addresses this common concern with a module on creating emotional safety. You'll learn specific approaches to gradually build trust, including consent practices, non-verbal communication signals, and how to honor boundaries in the moment. De'an provides concrete scripts and prompts to help initiate conversations about comfort levels, along with modification techniques that allow for gentle progression at your partner's pace.
This is completely normal and the course thoroughly prepares you for supporting emotional releases. De'an teaches specific grounding techniques and provides guidance on how to hold space compassionately when emotions surface. You'll learn exactly what to say and do in these moments, including when to pause, how to offer reassurance, and ways to safely continue or conclude a session when needed.
The beauty of these techniques is their simplicity – all you really need is a comfortable surface like a bed or massage mat. De'an provides practical recommendations for creating an optimal environment with items you likely already have at home. The course includes a complete session preparation guide covering everything from room temperature and lighting to optional elements like music and natural oils that can enhance the experience.
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