Sensitivity Overload: Why Is My Clit so Sensitive?

Jo Sunday
Written by Jo Sunday

My favorite way to orgasm is by using my Magic Wand (Hitachi Powerful Magic Wand Massager) on my clitoris. I’m going to make an educated guess that if you’re reading this and you’re a woman, you also have amazing orgasms while stimulating your clit.

The intensity of a clitoral orgasm, whether or not it’s your favorite way to cum, is unique and different from other sexual pleasure. So, you were wondering, “why is my clit so sensitive?”.

There’s a Reason It Feels so Good

why is my clit so sensitive

Most of us know our clits from touching them or using a vibrator. The amazing anatomy of the clitoris is much larger than we can see! The clitoris has nerve endings that run all the way down the vulva. This wasn’t discovered until 2009 when 3D MRIs became available.

No wonder it can create the most intense, wonderful orgasms.

There are more nerve endings in the clitoris than there is on a male penis head. Aren’t we lucky!

Too Much or Not Enough

With all of this intensity, some women can feel overwhelmed by their clit sensitivity. It’s not uncommon for a woman to tell her partner to stop or slow down when they are pleasuring the clit. This is totally normal!

Women who are new to clitoral stimulation or who don’t do it too often can feel over-sensitivity even by light, slow touching of the clit. This is also totally normal. All of the nerve endings firing, while it might feel good, can be over-stimulating.

How to Embrace Your Clit’s Sensitivity

why is my clit so sensitive

If you are using a vibrator during self-pleasuring, such as my favorite Magic Wand (Hitachi Powerful Magic Wand Massager), you can add a layer of fabric between the vibrator and your clit. Use a washcloth between your clit and the vibrator, or keep it simple and leave your underwear on during play.

Regardless if you’re using a vibrator or your hand, switch up pressure and positions.

Using the same amount of pressure on the same spot can cause feelings of over-sensitivity when other spots are massaged or touched. Most vibrators and toys have multiple settings for speed, and some even have different vibration patterns. Try exploring a new setting on your favorite toy. It might just become your new favorite.

Communicate with your partner, and let them know you’re trying new ways of pleasing your clitoris. They might even have some ideas you didn’t think of yourself. This should feel like a fun exploration, not a stressful chore. Keep it relaxed and have a good time!

The First Few Times

why is my clit so sensitive

If you are new to clit pleasure, the first times can feel like a shock. An easy (and fun!) way to get comfortable with clit play is to pleasure your clit more often. Practice with yourself by masturbating with your clit.

If you have a partner, talk to them about what feels good right now, and what you are looking to explore about your clit. This is not only fun for you and your clit, it can also bring more intimacy between you and your partner. Just as well as a nice yoni massage can.

Speed up or Slow Down… but Don’t Stop

If you are playing with your clit a lot and are feeling over sensitive, change up your routine with different positions, speeds, and pressures. If you are new to exploring your clit or don’t play with it often, spend some time with your clit trying different moves out.

Having a lot of sensitivity in one place can be one of the most pleasurable experiences for your body. Take time to learn all the different ways to please your clit and you will be welcoming more pleasure into your life.

About the author

Jo Sunday

Jo Sunday

Jo Sunday is a new and upcoming writer on all things sex. She has a long history in sexual health care, with a focus on gender and sexuality. She has talked to thousands of people about their sex lives, and has heard it all! She believes everyone's desires deserve to be explored. All of her approaches are rooted in self-love and empowerment. She is queer and polyamorous and believes we need to embrace all identities in our journey to pleasure.