“Why Am I So Horny?” and the Science How to Control Your Desire

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Do you find yourself wondering “why am I so horny?” on a regular basis?

Don’t worry – you are not alone.

And if the answer is yes, and you’re keen to discover more about the root cause of your frequent sexual desires, and what you can do to control them, carry on reading. I’m sure you know as well as I do, that having sex or masturbating are not always appropriate options depending on when and where you find yourself.

But, there are many other things you can try to alleviate these feelings, and not having to excuse yourself to nip off to the bathroom every hour!

Being Horny Is a Natural Body Response

Feeling horny is a natural body response that we usually experience for the first time during puberty. Everyone has these sexual urges – some of us more than others – because the need to procreate is hardwired into our brains as human beings. Aside from that, sex feels so damn good! Am I right?

It’s perfectly normal to want to keep doing something that stimulates your body and your mind.

It’s the same when it comes to anything we enjoy, for example, delicious food. It doesn’t matter how full you are, you’re going to polish off the rest of that ice cream, even if you have to loosen your trousers a little (we’ve all been there).

Symptoms of Being Horny

So, what does being horny feel like?

Here are some of the common symptoms you might experience when feeling horny. You might experience just one or two of these or all of them.

You Think About/Want to Have Sex All the Time

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One of the most common symptoms of being horny is that you can’t stop thinking about sex, or you find yourself with the urge to have sex all the time or watch porn frequently.

If this persists over the years, you are probably someone who is hornier than most – and that’s no bad thing. Remember, judging your body is a recipe for disaster because we are all so different.

You’re Restless

Being horny means that your sexuality is awake, and can lead to difficulty sleeping. This is because your mind is still alert, and filled with thoughts of the person you fancy, or sexual fantasies.

This is what is often labeled as sexual frustration, and the only way to alleviate this tension is to find a way to release it.

Sex would be most people’s go-to here, but we’re trying to think outside the box here, so stick with me!

Your Genitals Feel Tingly

You probably don’t need me to tell you what happens when girls and guys get happy.

If you often have a tingly sensation down below, it’s usually a sign that you’re turned on. This is because when you’re sexually aroused, blood flows to your genitals, and your nipples, increasing the sensitivity in those areas.

You’re Extra Stressed Out

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Studies have shown that when you’re sexually frustrated, you can get more stressed than usual.

We all experience a certain amount of stress in our lives, but if your stress levels extend beyond the normal day to day tasks, and you’re feeling more anxious, it could be because you’re horny.

Why Am I so Horny?

There are a number of different possible reasons for why you find yourself getting horny more often than other people.

And let’s just address this elephant in the room: None of them are because you’re weird. Got it?

Hormones

Hormones affect your sex drive in a big way. When women are on their period or using birth control, they experience a spike in their hormones. Being pregnant also causes a big change in your hormones, and can lead to a heightened sex drive.

More testosterone is produced during these times, which leads to an increased libido.

You’re Eating Too Many Foods That Are Aphrodisiacs

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Foods including celery, avocado, watermelon, blackberries, almonds, steak, bananas, broccoli, oatmeal, and mangoes are all considered to be aphrodisiacs.

If you consume many of these foods on a regular basis, that could be causing you to feel horny. Go ahead and check these libido foods.

So if I just mentioned ALL your favorite foods, you might wanna branch out.

Chemical Influences.

Substances like alcohol and drugs lower your inhibitions and can help you to relax, which can increase horniness. Maybe it’s time to question if alcohol and your sexuality are a good mixture?

We all know that guys, in particular, believe they’ve got a face like Zac Efron and a body like The Rock when they’re intoxicated.

A New Relationship

At the beginning of any romantic relationship, everything is new and exciting, and the sexual energy is at its peak. This means you often feel like you want to have sex all day, all night, and it’s something that most people experience with a new partner.

The question is, how do you keep this fire burning for the long haul, and stay sexually attracted to the same person? That’s another topic for another day people.

Sexual Addiction

Although horniness is normal, you might be unknowingly suffering from a hypersexual disorder or sexual addiction. This causes an increase in your sexual drive and can result in intense sexual urges or fantasies.

So if you’re having those kinds of thoughts frequently, it’s worth visiting your doctor to see if there’s anything else going on beneath the surface.

How to Stop Being Horny

how to stop being hornyLuckily, there are many things you can try to stop yourself from getting so horny, and relieve that sexual tension that is building within you. There’s likely to be a mix of things you already know, and things that sound totally bonkers here.

Exercise

Any form of physical exercise is a great way to divert your sexual energy into something other than sex.

This helps to release any built-up tension, and leave you feeling – and looking – fab!

Change Your Diet

Try cutting out the aphrodisiac foods we mentioned earlier, and also reducing the amount of alcohol, chocolate, sugar, animal products, and processed foods you’re consuming.

Basically, don’t eat junk that you know is bad for your body. I’m not gonna say it twice.

Meditate

how to stop being hornyBuddhism teaches that we are able to control our desires and urges by taking control of our minds, and meditation can help strengthen this discipline.

Try and take ten minutes each day to sit in a peaceful spot, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. It’s okay if you feel silly the first few times – we all do, and no one is watching you.

Have Regular Sex

I know this one sounds like a no-brainer, but having regular sex with your partner (if you have one) is a great way to regularly release any sexual energy that is building up within.

Schedule nights in together, or early mornings to make sure your both getting yours!

Masturbate

Again, you might be thinking, “duh, that’s obvious!”. Most people use masturbation as a quick relief, but there is another way to use this practice to your advantage.
Try instead to focus on visually spreading that sexual energy throughout your body, instead of turning it inwards, and having an internal orgasm. This will help to give you a boost afterward, instead of feeling down.

Get to Work on Your Passions

You can also channel all your energy into other things you’re passionate about and committed to. Get creative, throw yourself into something that excites you, and leaves you feeling inspired.

Dance & Do Yoga

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Dancing and yoga are great ways to express your sexual energy, and the physical part acts the same way that exercise does.

Inverted yoga positions are also great for spreading your sexual energy and creating a flow within your body.

Get a Massage

You might have a build up of sexual energy in your body which is stuck because you’ve got a lot of tension somewhere. A deep tissue massage can help to alleviate this tension.

Having your lower back and sacrum massaged can be really beneficial, although this should not be sought out as a form of erotic massage – this will only get you more turned on, which is NOT the goal here!

What to Do Now?

Hopefully, after reading this article, you now understand why you might be getting horny often, and you’ve learned many tips on how to stop being horny in the future.

The main steps to take right now are: Change your diet if you need to, and ensure you’re exercising daily.

After that, you can start to incorporate some of the other tools suggested above, including meditation, yoga, or massage. And, don’t forget to schedule regular breathtaking romp sessions with your partner!

What you’ve got to remember is that your libido can change a lot depending on a number of different factors. You’ll be much better off accepting your body for how it is right now, instead of trying to suppress it, and focusing on how to manage your horniness in the future.

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