10 All-Time-Favorite BDSM Roleplay Ideas

Kinky Roleplay Ideas
Written by Molly Lazarus

We’ve all heard roleplay can be a great way to explore our fantasies and “spice things up” in the bedroom. Indeed, I have to say that it can lead to some very arousing moments!

The first time a partner sprang a roleplay scenario on me by dressing in a suit and acting like an authoritarian office boss, the sex that followed was quite exhilarating (after I managed to stop giggling).

Roleplay is popular among BDSM practitioners, as it usually revolves around some degree of power exchange in the context of the fantasy. The vast majority of role pairs center on an implied imbalance of power between participants.

If roleplay is new to you, you may be wondering what types of roles are out there. In this article, I’ll introduce some classic roleplay ideas from the BDSM realm. Check them out and see if any of them sound appealing to you and your partner!

10 Ideas for Kinky Roleplay Shenanigans

1. Teacher / Student

Who hasn’t had a crush on a teacher at some point? The appeal of this fantasy makes sense, doesn’t it?

The knowledgeable guidance of a kind and caring (or strict and domineering!) educator can be intensely arousing.

This type of fantasy can involve ‘studying’ and homework, but often centers on old-fashioned methods of discipline involving spanking, paddling, caning, or other forms of corporal punishment, as well as detention and corner time for naughty students.

My fellow subbies, find yourself a sexy school uniform and start breaking some rules!

2. Doctor / Patient

Doctor/patient role-play

There’s often a ton of vulnerability, fear, and care involved in medical interactions, which is what makes this type of play particularly thrilling for folks who love medical play.

These scenes may involve invasive ‘examinations’, play with needles, enemas, and more!

How freaky and awesome does that sound?

Medical fetishism is considered an advanced form of play by many in the BDSM community, as the activities it entails require special safety considerations. Make sure you’ve got your bases covered by reading information written by a qualified professional.

If you want to REALLY dive in and include elements like scalpels, urethral play, or saline infusions, I highly recommend finding an in-person class or workshop in your local BDSM community that teaches these skills.

Bottom line: don’t try anything you’re not qualified to do.

3. Caregiver / Little

This is a title often given to roleplay scenes where the top acts as the father, mother, older relative, nanny, or babysitter of the bottom, who plays the role of the person being cared for. We’ve all heard of adult women who like to call their boyfriends “Daddy,” right? Same concept.

This usually involves ageplay, meaning that the bottom acts younger, or the top acts older, than they actually are.

It’s a common misconception that practitioners of ageplay are turned on by pedophilia or incest, but this isn’t the case. The appeal here lies in the affectionate and nurturing nature of the caregiver’s role, and the emotional freedom involved in reverting to a childlike state of mind.

This type of scene might include child-focused things like onesies, diapers, pacifiers, stuffed animals, nap time, spanking, or other types of punishment combined with sexy play.

4. Kidnapper or Burglar / Victim

kidnapper/burglar roleplay

This can be a rather intense form of roleplay centering around rape fantasies and consensual non-consent.

The dominant partner plays a kidnapper or intruder and forcibly has their way with their unsuspecting victim.

This kind of scene takes serious planning to pull off safely and consensually. You’ll want to do plenty of research before diving in.

Abduction play, as kidnapping scenes are often called, can become an extremely intricate multi-day fantasy for some. There are even some sex workers who specialize in satisfying this type of fetish. Sounds like a fun vacation to me!

5. Law Enforcer / Convict

Handcuffs and uniforms, ooh la la! If the idea of breaking the law and being punished for it turns you on, prison scening may be right up your alley.

As prisoners are usually separated by sex, this can be particularly realistic for same-sex participants.

Interrogation can be a wonderful aspect of prison play. Tops, restrain your helpless partners and “torture” them into admitting whatever information you’re looking for! Get creative! But as always, be very careful.

6. Owner / Pet

Meow meow woof woof! Petplay is all the rage these days. Tons of people enjoy dressing up as dogs, cats, ponies, or other animals and taking on their characteristics.

They find it freeing to be in this headspace, which allows them to indulge in more primal aspects of their nature or levels of playfulness that they may not be inspired to explore otherwise. Additionally, domesticated animals are often helpless and easy to control, which can be a real turn-on for kinky types.

Training involving pet-focused protocol and punishment are core aspects of this type of roleplay.

You or your partner may also choose to don tail butt plugs, dog/cat/bunny ears, gags, collars, leashes, and other gear.

7. Boss / Employee

boss/employee roleplay

While I don’t recommend banging your real boss or employee, a saucy office roleplay scene can be especially hot if you’re into the taboo nature of crossing the line between a personal and professional relationship.

This type of play can involve suits, assignments, punishments, and more.

“You naughty secretary! I told you to file these reports over an hour ago! Maybe a spanking would help you stay focused. Get in here and bend over my desk.” Mmm, yummy.

8. Master of the House / Maid

A personal maid to cook for me and clean my apartment? Jesus Christ, bring it on! Maid training roleplay is particularly service oriented.

Tops, order your maid around and tell them how you want your house to look, and don’t forget to punish them when they fuck it up.

Oh, and see if you can find a sexy maid costume your partner likes to help immerse them in the fantasy. There are some really cute choices available out there!

9. Millionaire / “Commoner”

millionaire/commoner roleplay

Many of us poor plebeians would love nothing more than to be swept up and dominated by a rich partner with endless cash.

That’s probably why “billionaire BDSM” is one of the most popular genres of kinky erotica.

No wonder 50 Shades has sold so many damn copies!

Clearly, billionaires can afford all sorts of fancy tools and furniture, and take their poor partners out to the swankiest of joints. Though you may not have the money to make this a reality, there’s no harm in pretending by splurging on a nice dinner and a fancy hotel once in a while.

If you’re the dom in this situation, put yourself in the headspace of a billionaire. If you had all the money in the world, how would you treat your doting partner? Also, what would you want in exchange for spending your hard-earned dubloons on them?

10. Royalty / Servant

The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty is one of BDSM’s most famous erotica classics, presumably because the fantasy of being carried off and tortured by a random handsome prince is so popular! Man, Disney did a fabulous job of fucking us all up in the head, didn’t they?

This type of roleplay can involve servitude, worship of the royal figure, sexual enslavement, degradation, and a host of other kinky ideas.

The total power exchange of a master/slave type of setup is of particular appeal here, as a servant of royalty in this fantasy will “have no choice” of whether or not to submit.

So there you have it! 10 kinky ideas for adult-themed make-believe bedroom fun. Don’t feel like you need to limit yourself, however.

Through roleplay, you and your partner can explore literally any type of fantasy or dynamic in a sexual context.

Have fun exploring and experimenting, and as always, don’t forget to incorporate negotiation, safeword systems, and aftercare while enjoying BDSM.

About the author

Molly Lazarus

Molly Lazarus is a kink & sexuality writer, BDSM community organizer, and newbie erotic fiction author. Her website, Kink Out Loud, serves as a resource for readers who are new to or curious about BDSM. She contributes to Beducated, Kinkly, and the BDSM Training Academy. Offline, Molly acts as Volunteer Coordinator for the Bay Area chapter of Kinky Salon. In the past, she worked as a munch organizer, shibari model, and kink-101 instructor. You can follow her on Facebook and Pinterest, or browse her filthy fiction on Amazon.

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