Mindgasm? Thinking yourself to the Big O?
Oh yes, yes, yes.
There is a way to bring yourself to a power house orgasm while sitting absolutely still, without movement, physical stimuli, or any friction whatsoever. Many women have experienced mindgasms while meditating, sitting still in a yoga posture or with a technique similar to self-hypnosis.
But how can you ‘think yourself to orgasm’? With the power of suggestion. Mark Cunningham, a well-known hypnotist states, “The key is, there is a part inside a woman’s mind that is capable of infinite positive pleasurable response. It is always active, so you aren’t actually going into her mind and making her have an orgasm. You are unlocking, unleashing and directing that which already exists. But you have to know how to access the subconscious mind.”
Hey, maybe you have already experienced it. In your dreams! Ever had one of those sexy adventurous dreams, so intense and passionate that it brought you to an orgasm? There you go – a mind orgasm. No physical stimulation involved.
You’ve also probably heard of the phenomenon of ASMR, autonomous sensory meridian response. There are hundreds of videos on YouTube that are supposed to give you braingasms. When you watch a video labeled as ASMR (e.g. this one, it works for me at least) it might produce a pleasurable tingling sensation in your head, scalp, back or peripheral regions of your body. There is almost a cult around this topic. People use it for relaxation, insomnia or simply for pleasure. This kind of tingling creates a certain euphoria, with shivers and goosebumps, that remind us of the similar effects of an sexual orgasm. But this time it only happens in our brain, without the stimulation of other parts of the body.
- Mind Orgasm doesn’t need any physical stimulation.
- The same pleasure centers are activated in the brain during a mind orgasm as in physical orgasms. (Watch this video here to see the brain activation)
- Some women only need a sexy thought – some combine it with breathing or pelvic floor exercises.
- There is an infinite positive pleasure response inside your mind. You just need to access your subconscious mind.
What needs to be aroused? Nothing but your mind. The brain actually plays a huge part in any type of orgasm. The only difference is that with the mind orgasm, there is no extra nerve information necessary, it’s all being produced inside your brain. In orgasms that are physically rooted, the brain receives nerve impluses coming from the genitals. The information coming from the vagus nerve, for example, stimulates certain pleasure centers in the brain (in women, some light up, some shut off). Dr. Barry Komisaruk, co-author of The Science of Orgasm, discovered that this symphony of brain stimulation can be created with no physical help required. He reports that most of his patients only use thought, others a combination of thought and breathing to reach orgasm, while “the cheaters” use pelvic floor exercises.
So where is it?
It all begins in your mind. Your thoughts! Think them sexy and you’ll see. You can use your breath, moaning and soft hip movement to boost the effect. Or if it is convenient, squeeze your vaginal muscle for extra stimulation. You can use ASMR videos to understand what is meant by shivery, tingly brain feeling and intensify this with your bare thoughts.
Yoni asana boost
I am more of the cheater type when it comes to mind orgasms. I was once sitting in Yoni asana, which is a great yoga position for increasing your libido and sexual desire. I had a jade egg inserted inside my pussy and was moving it up and down. That kind of gave me the shoot. It was not fully brain created but I mostly used my thoughts to let it happen.
For a healthy and sexy mind
Great for your mind and body. It shows a strong control over your mind which leads to greater control of your body. I read somewhere, although I can’t find the source, that love hormone production is the greatest in a mind orgasm. Please let me know, if you know the source. Mind orgasms are a huge potential for controlling your sex life. Hey, you are able to orgasm whenever you want, wherever you are. Quite a sexy thought, ooo… oh… OHH OHH ooH OHHHH YEAH!
What others say or do
Studies like Komisaruk’s are just the beginning. There is little known about the deeper neurological reason for mind orgasms. And the subject has been hugely neglected by science, due to the strong physical focus. So let’s hope there will be more knowledge available in the future.
In Tantra and Taoism the mind plays a huge role. Everything is possible with the mind. It’s your control center, your creator. If you control it you are master of yourself and yes, also of your orgasms. If you want to know more about the power of hypnosis and how easily it can be used to experience orgasm, you can check out this podcast episode by Sex Nerd Sandra (a record of one of her shows, where a hypnotist also performs a live hypnosis and brings the participant to an orgasm).
Mind orgasm, what an intriguing topic! Lady Gaga has stated that she can think herself to the Big O, and in movies like 40 Days and 40 Nights they touch on this topic wonderfully in the sex-via-orchid scene. And we’ve heard about the hype of AMRS. But can we actually experience it? Maybe a little practice is required. But simply try and see.
- Carve out some time – you should sit in a comfortable position (spine straight).
- Close your eyes and try to calm your mind with a meditation technique (e.g. focusing on your breath).
- Then bring all your mental focus to your vagina or penis (it helps with the blood flow).
- Take deep abdominal breaths, that expand your belly and open your pelvis up.
- Inhale and focus your mind on your clit, vaginal canal, cervix, and perineum. Fill it up!
- Then think about the most intense orgasm you ever had. Think about the emotions you had, about the physical sensations you felt, about the very moment you dived into bliss…
- You may use your breath and moan or even squeeze your pelvic floor/vaginal muscles.
- Visualize, visualize, visualize orgasm!
- Fake it till you make it!
- And (of course) keep practicing.
There’s a whole lot more to discover! Go back to the orgasm overview.
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