How To Suck Dick Like A Sexy Vixen in 12 Steps

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So, You Want to Learn How to Suck Dick Like a Pro?

Then read on to discover some mouthwatering dick sucking tips that will be sure to have your partner toe-curled and begging for more.

Believe it or not, there is way more to sucking dick than meets the mouth. Sucking dick is an art form. It goes way beyond just a little in and out of the mouth. The reality is, sucking dick takes time and patience to perfect.

Remember, different strokes for different folks. When reading this guide, be aware that every penis is different, and deserves the love and care of taking the time to learn what specific techniques that person likes. Each step is a good starting point to work from, but keep communicating throughout the practice to build up your blow job repertoire.

Step 1:
Cock Cleanliness is Next to Godliness

Whether you love to suck dick or not (we will get more into that later) a yummy tasting cock is everything.

Like the taste? We sure hope so! While pheromones are still debated in science, the smell and taste of our partner’s intimate parts can be incredibly arousing.

Don’t love the taste so much? Things like STDs can lead to a bad smelling penis, but many unwanted smells are simply due to sexual hygiene. If you want to learn the best ways to suck dick and actually enjoy doing it, talk to your partner about “freshening up” before your next dick sucking session.****

Asking someone to wash themselves can easily be taken with offense. So if you aren’t sure how to approach the topic you can try and incorporate the following sexual hygiene techniques in a fun and sexy way:

  • You can phrase it in a way that is encouraging, such as**:** you would like their cock “all nice and tasty” because you are sooo hungry for it.
  • Lure them into the shower or bath. Wash their cock with bubbles. Lather it up real good and start to stroke the member with a gentle handjob.

  • Use a steamy (not too hot!) washcloth. Prep the penis with a warm washcloth and a mix of organic essential oils. Have your partner lay down and gently cuddle their penis with the washcloth. Move up and down in slow movements.

Now that your lover’s cock is fresh and so clean, it’s time to get to the good stuff.

Step 2:
Learn to Love Sucking Dick

Don’t love sucking dick? Truly, it’s okay, but if you want your partner to enjoy your blowjobs then you should too! If you can learn to love sucking dick it will make the experience so much more gratifying. Yes I know, it’s called a blow “job” but at the end of the day, sucking dick should not actually feel like a job.

Perhaps you already love sucking dick. We love hearing that! Either way, you can always learn to love sucking dick even more with our gag-worthy Blow Job Course. Our step-by-step program will inspire your desire for pleasuring a penis with your mouth. Sometimes, all it takes is a bit of cocky-confidence, and once you’ve learnt the skills, you may come to feel empowered and enamoured when sucking dick.

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For one, research has suggested incorporating regular oral sex into your routine is hugely beneficial to romantic relationships. Just think how wonderful this generous gift of giving pleasure is for your intimacy.

To learn to love sucking dick, try to imagine their cock as something holy. You know, like a shrine that needs praising. You can also try warming yourself up simultaneously while playing with yourself. Focus on sensations and you can even try incorporating a sex toy on yourself while going to town.

Need more reasons to love sucking dick? Did you know that sucking dick actually has a number of health benefits? This is especially true if you swallow. Care for a little bit of Vitamin B12? You won’t believe the mind-blowing nutritional benefits of a blowjob.

In fact, researchers have found that 95**%** of sperm is a mix of compounds that are incredibly good for you.

A single sample of sperm contains a mix of Vitamin C, Vitamin B12, Lipids, Enzymes, and not to mention protein. I suppose there are other ways to get your daily dose of vitamins, but this way seems a bit more fun, no?

Step 3:
Set a Suggestive Intention

Your lover can have a wild oral orgasm only if they completely surrender. This means they have to know who is in charge. You can start by setting a verbal intention before you go down on them. It can be something like, “I worship your cock” or, “I will do all the work, you just lay back and enjoy”.

Another seductive practice to incorporate into a blowjob is called Cock Worship. Cock worship is about bowing down to the penis. Show your partner how much you love them and their penis, and that they are the most beautiful person on earth. Certain strokes can also intensify the art of cock worship. We will touch (literally) on those a bit later on.

Whatever intention you choose, make it clear that you are the giver and they are the receiver. This will relax your partner and assure them that you are there to give them everything they desire from the waist down.

Step 4:
Get comfy

The last thing you want when giving a blow job is for either of you to feel uncomfortable. So make sure, when you are setting up, to have lots of cushions to hand.

While tantalizing a penis with your mouth, feel free to move around. You might be there for a period of time so don’t be shy about wanting to change positions. There’s the Classic, the Throne or 69 to get you started, or you can check out our Techniques Library in the online course for more. And if your jaw gets sore, that’s okay too! Take as many breaks as you need.

Step 5:
Hand Job Techniques

No need to rush in for the goods. A good dick sucking session takes time and patience, so build up sensations with a massage. Lingam is the Sanskrit term for penis, and a Lingam Massage and is a beautiful form of cock worship. While the following techniques by themselves don’t make up the complete practice of cock worship, these strokes can be a great way to get them nice and turned-on before actually putting their cock in your mouth.

  • Lingam Shiatsu Stroke: Start from the root of the shaft, Gently press the penis with your thumbs and index fingers, and then release. Move up about a centimeter and repeat the technique. Do this again until you’ve worked your way up the entire length of the receiver’s penis.

  • Lingam Skiing Stroke: You can supercharge the pleasure your partner feels with this next move. Hold the sides of the Lingam with both of your hands and “ski” with your thumbs by alternating up and down from the root of the penis all the way to the tip.

  • Lingam Frenulum Stroke: Now, change up the tempo of the massage by slowing down and moving into a meditative moment. Circle the tip of your thumb and index finger in both directions around the frenulum of the penis, which is located just underneath the head.

These are just a few ideas to get you started, but if you want to add more sexy strokes to your skill set, the Beducated in-depth online course on Lingam Massage. Using video guides with real life models, expert-backed lectures to offer you so much more. Learn things about your partner’s body that you never knew before, while expanding on your own pleasure too!

Step 6:
Blow Job Techniques

Most likely the strokes mentioned above will have them dripping with pre-cum and begging you to fill your mouth. This is the perfect time to begin integrating the following dick sucking tips to take your blowjob to the next level

  • Butterfly Kisses: Give light kisses from the scrotum up the shaft and all over the tip. Descend down from the tip, continuing with feather-like kisses until you reach the scrotum again.

  • Lavish Licking: Along with butterfly kisses you can also incorporate your tongue and some nibbles. Kiss, nibble and lick starting on the perineum behind the balls. Move onto the shaft, up to the tip and back down again.
  • Suck the Frenulum: For many people, their most sensitive spot is their frenulum (sometimes called the clitoris of the penis), this is where the shaft meets the tip. Now is the time you can suck the tip like a lollipop! Use your lips and tongue to brush over the sensitive region.
  • Suck the Shaft: Use the same amount of suction you used for the frenulum and continue down the shaft. Suck sensually, slowly and rhythmically. Pucker your lips as you move down, suck and curl your lips on the way back up.

  • Don’t forget the Balls: Often seen as an afterthought, the testicles shouldn’t be undervalued. Depending on the size of the balls, you may be able to get one or both in your mouth. Play with some suction, but watch out for your teeth!
  • Deep Throat: Check your gag reflex. With some practice, deep throating can be incredibly satisfying for you and your partner. Start slowly, gently moving the tip towards your Ulva (the fleshy part that hangs down from the back of your mouth). If you start to gag, back off and try again. This particular technique will take some time to get used to your own gag reflex.

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Step 7:
Change Things Up

Eventually, I learned to lick a dick differently from a lollipop. In other words, I realized that if I incorporate new moves into my dick sucking routine, I could keep my lover’s cock hard as a rock. So, add variety while giving a blow job by mix and matching a few of the mouth techniques I listed above. Paired with some sensuous Penis Strokes and you can turn a boring old blowjob into a super juicy session in a matter of minutes.

Also, make sure to keep their balls in the playing field. They need love too.

Keep in mind that while surprise is important when giving a blow job, consistency in stroking and sucking may lead to the final blow. The lesson is – change things up but do it with integrity.

Step 8:
Get Cocky with Confidence

There is no point in lying. Mastering the art of sucking dick doesn’t happen overnight. But, even if you don’t feel like a cock-sucking master yet, your confidence is key to giving a seriously awesome night of lip service.

Our advice? Be yourself. If you don’t feel completely confident, you can try to “fake it until you make it”. That is, put their cock in your mouth and suck like you mean it.

Furthermore, make sure you always communicate with your partner. Sucking dick is not one-sided. Make sure you get their opinion on things (their likes and dislikes) as this will also help your dick-sucking confidence. When all said and done, practice makes perfect. When it comes to mastering dick sucking, treat your partner to as many blow jobs as they like.

Need some more ideas on how to build cock confidence? Try these integrating the following visualizations into your dick sucking session:

  • Stay in charge. In the end, it’s their cock that’s in your mouth. If they have submitted to you, you are in charge now. Yes, of course, their needs matter too but, if you can visualize yourself as being the one in the “driver’s seat”, it may help you avoid feeling overly-vulnerable or detached.
  • Communicate with your lover. Communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more! Cock confidence goes both ways. If your partner assures you they will love you no matter what, dick sucking can be a whole lot more fun and with less pressure.
  • Practice on a sex toy. Why not practice the other strokes on a dildo as well? Or heck, a banana works too. While you definitely won’t get the same reaction from a plastic dildo or a banana as you will from a real cock, it certainly doesn’t hurt to do a test drive.
  • Have fun. A penis is a fun gadget of mother nature. Seriously, take some pressure off yourself and let go. Look at your lover’s cock as a toy. Suck it, lick it, flick it, kiss it, yank it (not too hard) and just have fun. Once you take the pressure off yourself, your partner will follow, and you are on your way to mastering the art form of sucking dick.

This follow-along training from Beducated’s Blow Job course can be done within the comfort of your own home, either with a piece of fruit, a dildo, or with your partner. With step-by-step instructions, you won’t be overwhelmed, but gradually build up your dick sucking self-confidence ».

Step 9:
Make Some Noise

Humming, moaning, and groaning can all lead to increased stimulation when giving a blowjob. Why not try all three at the same time? Is that even possible? Just like adding a diversity of strokes and sucks helps to make a blowjob more satisfying, so does a variety of sounds. Try alternating between deep humming to raspy moaning, and groaning. You will know you are doing it right if you feel a tickle in the back of your throat.

According to Catriona Boffard, a credited clinical sexologist:

“A deep moan that originates from the back of your throat will not only give [them] auditory confirmation that you’re also enjoying it, but it will create a certain sensation down [their] shaft too”.

Umm, sounds pretty glorious to me? And I am pretty certain you will make your lover roar by adding a little more hum to your hummer.

Step 10:
Look Up

Want to put the cherry on top of a blow job that is already proven to be out-of-this-world? Try looking up. Making eye-contact while blowing your lovers cock is a great way to increase intimacy and stimulation. By making direct eye-contact while sucking your partner off you’re actually telling them you’re in charge.

Eye-contact can help them to let go and surrender even deeper into a puddle of ecstasy. Try kissing the tip while you look up and give your sexiest gaze.

Feel free to hold the gaze as long as you can. If it feels awkward, try looking down again. Let a few minutes past, and look up and try to lock eyes. While it can feel intimidating at first, it’s an exceptionally seductive way to tune into your partner’s desires.

If they aren’t looking at you and simply moaning with pleasure, pay attention to these lusty groans and use them to guide your next move.

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Step 11:
About to Blow? Go Slow

The penis is exceptionally sensitive especially when it’s about to blow. So, if you feel they are about to reach the BIG O – go slow. You can also decrease pressure and let them surrender deeply into their orgasm. Whether they want to cum in your mouth, between your breasts or knees, you may want to communicate before the session begins, or during. That is, ask where they want to cum. If however, you want to add an element of surprise, try this dick sucking technique:

As they are about to ejaculate, stop sucking and keep your mouth over the cock. They may try to pull your head away, don’t let them. Your hot moist mouth is likely enough to maintain a sweet and steamy environment to experience a wild release of pleasure.

Keep in mind that after they reach orgasm, the head of the penis can be particularly sensitive. If you touch it or suction it too hard, it can be very uncomfortable. After the orgasm, make sure you release the suction from your mouth gently. Move up from the penis with your lips only lightly grazing the shaft until the cock has completely left your mouth.

Step 12:
To Spit or Swallow

To spit or swallow, that is the question. The truth is, there is no right or wrong answer. If you choose to spit, you are going to have to dispose of it somehow. Make sure you have a tissue nearby, or if you want, you can swish it around your mouth for a bit until you excuse yourself to the bathroom.

Also note, if you choose to spit, it is beneficial to have a conversation as to why you are spitting. Running to the bathroom or a trashcan after a blowjob can come across as awkward or offensive.

Swallowing, on the other hand, can be wildly romantic and sexy especially if you’re really into the person.

In fact, a study found that semen has the potential to boost your mood.

That’s because the biochemical composition of semen and its nutritional value share similar substances to anti-depression medication.

Whether you choose to spit or swallow is totally up to you. Either way, try to make the disposal as sexy as possible, this will help keep the mood smooth, hot and sensual.

Congratulations! You’re Now a Dick Sucking Wizard

As you can see, sucking dick is more than just a little in and out. It takes time, practice, poise and perhaps even a little submission to learn how to suck dick and become a dick sucking wizard. If you really want to suck a dick like the sexy little sorcerer that you are, you now have the skills. Now, it’s up to you to own them. So go ahead – and give your partner that blowjob they’ve been waiting for – it’s time to suck that penis like it’s never been sucked before.

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