A delicious, juicy yoni is the perfect vessel for sacred sex. Too often, though, our natural lubrication is disrupted, and our sexuality can suffer.
Many women know the discomfort – and even pain! – which can happen when the partner penetrates their yoni before it is fully lubricated. Most women use lube to avoid any discomfort. Fair enough. But is this truly the answer?
Pleasure is our birthright, and natural juiciness is a key factor for that pleasure. We want to share a powerful technique to increase your natural juices without any external help, but first, let us present the most common causes for a dry vagina:
- Peri-menopause – from as early as age 35, the hormones start to change in preparation for menopause. Dryness in the yoni is one symptom of this shift.
- Flora imbalance – the yoni is a complex, delicate balance of microscopic flora (fungi and bacteria). A slight shift in the PH of the yoni, or an overgrowth of one component of the flora, and the entire system can be thrown out of balance, interfering with the natural lubrication process.
- Trauma – a subconscious reaction to sexual trauma can cause the yoni to “shut down,” becoming numb and dry.
- Breastfeeding – the hormones for breastfeeding, especially prolactin, reduce lubrication in the yoni.
- Fiery physiology – women with a high metabolic rate, in Ayurveda terms, a “pitta” temperament, can have more difficulty with lubrication than women with other temperaments.
You don’t see yourself in one of these causes and suffer from dryness? Great. Bellow, we want to present you a simple technique with countless health benefits. One is to increase your natural juiciness.
Our #1 Recommendation: Yoni Egg Practice
This article shows a variety of approaches that can help get your juices flowing again naturally. However, spoiler alert, the Taoist Yoni Egg practice works best for most women.
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The Deer Exercise to Stay Wet Naturally
The ancient Chinese used beside herbs and acupuncture exercises to prevent and heal their body. They found that wild animals seemed to live in a state of everlasting health. Three animals: the deer, the crane, and the turtle were known for their longevity. Of these three, the deer was noted to have the strongest sexual and reproductive abilities. Chinese healer developed a method they called “Deer Exercise”.
It gets its name because a deer in nature continuously stimulates its sexual glands by contracting and relaxing its anal muscles, and moving its tail, side to side.
The Deer Exercise is to be practiced every day without clothing except the days of menstruation when you should skip it to allow for smooth menstrual flow.
It contains two parts: First, a pleasurable circular massage of the breasts, and second, a pelvic exercise called ‘holding firm,’ similar to a kegel exercise.
Sit in siddhasana, cross-legged or in a comfortable sitting position on a chair with a straight spine. Lightly rub your breast in upward and outward circles. The hands travel together up the inside of the breasts toward the face, then outwards, downwards, inwards, and upwards again. Lightly chafe the skin in circular motions with the nipples at the center of the circle. Do not hold the breasts and just move them – skim the surface of the skin. We explained this technique (and other breast massage techniques) in-depth here.
b) “Holding Firm” – the pelvic contraction.
First, rest your hands in your lap. Form your hands into fists by encircling your thumbs in the other fingers. This activates a number of important acupressure points. Next, tighten the muscles of the vagina as though contracting it. Keep breathing in a deep, relaxed manner while holding the contraction as long as you comfortably can. You only need to do this step once after each 36-rotation breast massage.
During the contraction, try to keep the anal sphincter and stomach muscles relaxed while squeezing and lifting only the vaginal muscles. You can learn to isolate the muscles by thinking of the muscles you use to stop urination in mid-stream. That’s it! Not complicated, but powerful.
If you are working on your floral imbalance, it may take some time and patience to correct the dryness. There are some surprising causes of imbalance, and all sources need to be investigated and corrected.
Should You Use Artificial Lubricants?
You can easily buy vaginal lubricants in most pharmacies and supermarkets. To me, this says that too many women are ignoring the messages from their bodies and using an external method to force an outcome.
Bottom line: if our vagina is dry, then we are not ready for penetrative sex.
Obviously, if you are working through issues such as those listed above, you may temporarily use an artificial lubricant as part of the process. Here are our favorites:
However, if you are generally in good health if it is very important to get in tune with your body, and develop real, natural juiciness, without relying on artificial lubricant.
How comfortable are you in exploring your body and pleasuring yourself? How willing are you to direct your partner in arousing and stimulating you? How assertive are you in making sure sex is happening in a way that works for you?
5 Steps How to Stay Wet Naturally
1) Claim your foreplay
Take as much time and touching as you need to become fully, deeply wet and ready. Most partners will savor the opportunity to feel your yoni dripping with anticipation before they enter you. Beducated Founder Mariah Freya describes it like this:
Prolonging the time of love making will allow me to warm up my fine female pleasure body which takes me personally around 20-30 minutes. In that time I shed of stress, learn to bring my awareness to the present moment, and also acknowledge my partner properly.
2) Drink enough water
There are tons of benefits by drinking enough water. One of them is your pussy being sweet and having that natural juiciness. Especially in the 2-3 hours before lovemaking.
3) Squeeze (in all the right ways)
Strengthening exercises such as Kegels and Yoni Egg practice, stimulate the lubrication glands. Make sure you are doing the exercises correctly, so you don’t accidentally send your pelvic floor into spasm!
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4) Become the deer
Practice the Deer Exercise daily. This exercise is so powerful that some women have reported sailing through menopause without any discomfort at all. They only had symptoms such as dryness, hot flushes, and mood swings when they were out of their normal routine and didn’t do the Deer Exercise for a few days in a row.
5) Be brave – have regular sex
Deep penetration massages the area around the cervix, stimulating the lubrication glands. Regular sex, which moves the cervix, will keep you deliciously juicy for the long term! Like our Beducated Expert Maj Wismann said:
Be honest and be brave. These are two things you should never ever stop practicing. In order to develop sexually, you need to be brave. Tiny, little steps are fine but these won’t happen without the courage.