10 Essential Steps to Tantric Group Sex

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Olajumoke Adeyemo

The gods and goddesses of tantra are smiling on you, and the possibility has arisen for you to host a gathering where you can get your groove on with a group of hot and horny people, a tantric group sex party. Maybe you are wondering if this will further your spiritual journey in search of your true divine self. Then again, maybe you didn’t have to think twice about the offer, you just went for your instinctual positive response whenever anything of the new, safe, sexual, and exciting variety arises. After all, if someone is out there having all kinds of unconventional carnal fun, why can’t you?

1.Getting the Basic Supplies In

There are a number of practicalities to deal with once you have the who, when, and where parts of the party organized. There’s the supply of lube, the shedloads of condoms and other necessary accoutrements to consider for this amorous carry-on. Will there be food and drink to keep physical energy levels high? Delicious sex smoothie might be a good way to rocket-fire your mojo naturally. It’s bound to be a sweaty affair so bathroom and shower supplies will be in need, not to mention an endless supply of clean towels. And then there is the choice of music. And so on, and so forth. Once these essentials are in hand, you’re well on your way.

2.Planning for Spontaneity

As we all know, prior planning and preparation prevents piss-poor performance. As with any other party that you’d host, find out about your guests’ wants, needs, and desires, and plan ahead. That having been said, nothing is written is stone and spontaneity can be the mistress of tantric group sex adventure. Should the opportunity suddenly arise to enjoy a bit of group intimacy, it’s worth remembering that sometimes the best parties happen on a whim.

3. Acknowledging Expectations

Once you have decided you are definitely ready for some group fun, figure out what your expectations are. Talk to the other players about desires and intentions, and clarify any assumptions. Describing what you would or wouldn’t like to happen in tantric group sex is all part of the pleasure, and it irons out unnecessary creases, while at the same time getting the juices flowing in anticipation. Honesty and openness are imperative to make sure it is a positive experience for everyone.

4.Deciding on Who Is Doing Who

Before the ball gets rolling, everyone needs to know what the rules are. Is it a case of anything goes, or are there any restrictions in the tantric group sex? Will there be six or seven people simultaneously responding to one person’s sexual needs, or will there be three or four couplings going on instead, all the while vibing off each other? Is everyone able to just go with the flow? Are some people off limits to others or is everyone happy about fully engaging with everyone else?

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5.Going with the Flow of Feelings

Once you get going, the sexual energy in the room can be very intense. Being able to participate in a loving sexual group activity can be beautiful. It is great for the self esteem, and can be a positive ego buzz. There will be the ebbing and flowing of sexual tension for you to deal with. There will be laughter and appreciation. However, no matter how comfortable you are in your own skin, don’t be surprised if feelings of embarrassment, shame, and shyness arise. If they do, you can own them and then let them go. If it’s something that you’re struggling with on a long term, then you might want to check Mariah’s podcast episode on dealing with shame. Whether your feelings are pleasant, enjoyable, lusty, or challenging, they will keep on flowing. Breathe deeply, and enjoy basking in the erotic atmosphere of the tantric group sex.

6. Kissing and Hugging

Naked body contact will lead to kissing and hugging in any healthy group sex situation. The idea here is to envelop and enjoy these natural, lusty, bodily occurrences, and — as far as I’m concerned — the more kissing and hugging, the better. Naked group hugs can be fantastic, warming and nourishing, and a collective naked embrace from a bunch of like-minded folk can help you feel accepted and loved as well as appreciated sexually.

7. Giving and Taking

It is important that we all learn to give and receive. If you are comfortable enough, it can be an awakening experience to give and receive from someone you would not normally connect with. Obviously, know yourself, and although it may be exciting to step out of your comfort zone, tread carefully, and don’t do anything you are not completely happy with.

8. Sharing is Caring

We all have things that we are especially good at sexually and this is an opportunity to share your expertise, whether you are the goddess of blow jobs or the mistress of cunnilingus. It’s also a chance to get practical about learning some new ways to please your lovers. Opportunities like this don’t cross your path every day.

9. Directing Group Energy

A group of people in one place, with positive, loving, sexual energy, can consciously make the experience more sacred. All that needs to happen is that a collective decision is made and everyone agrees to go with the flow. You can collectively choose to channel your energy towards a massive simultaneous tantric experience, maybe a group orgasm! Alternatively, you can collectively send that sexual energy to one lucky individual.

10.Being Connected with the Divine by Breath and Action

Finally, find a way to recognise your divine nature, both before and after the session. You may want to do this individually or as part of the group. Maybe talk through the process with party members, or breathe together for a while, or sing a song, or just make direct eye contact with the other participants for a few minutes. Acknowledging and appreciating everyone’s humanness and beauty helps to raise the vibration of the sexual space.

We are social creatures who generally thrive on sexual connection, so get out there, have some fun, and figure out what enhances your personal tantric path.


 

About the author

Olajumoke Adeyemo

Olajumoke Adeyemo

Jumoke likes writing articles about sexual exploration, spirituality, and fun.
She is a qualified sexual health teacher and has taught sexual health in schools, colleges, and adult workshops. She has been active in a variety of sexual communities for a number of decades.
She practices yoga and meditation regularly, believes in karma, rides a bike, takes long walks, and likes dogs. She also swears like a sailor, gives great full-body hugs, and smiles a lot. She currently lives in London.